Being Single In College Isn't Such A Bad Thing

Actually, Being Single In College Isn't Such A Bad Thing

People make college out to be the place where you find your 'person', and I just don't think that's accurate


You always hear stories about people finding their person in college, and going straight to getting married and having kids directly when they graduate, but that is just something I don't want to do and I feel like is just not realistic in these days. I feel like this time in your life is the time that you need to branch out and focus on yourself and what you want instead of trying to find the person you feel you need to complete yourself. It is important to fully find your own self and be happy with who you are before you try to find someone else.

Another reason I feel like long term relationships should hold off till after college is that when else in your life are you going to be able to go out and be wild with your friends without someone holding you back? College is the time to make memories and be wild and crazy; because after college you have to become a real adult, why waste these few years being tied down to someone when you have your entire life to be with someone and be a real adult.

With all this being said if you find someone in college who fully feels like the right person, you should be with them, but make sure they let you be your own person and branch out too. Don't be with someone who doesn't let you have your own space and your own friends, because, trust me, you will fully regret it when you miss out on the best years of your life. I know it might feel like you will have them forever, but honestly the friends you make and memories you have will be the things you will actually have forever, no matter what happens.

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The Truth About Young Marriage

Different doesn't mean wrong.

When I was a kid, I had an exact picture in my mind of what my life was going to look like. I was definitely not the kind of girl who would get married young, before the age of 25, at least.

And let me tell you, I was just as judgmental as that sentence sounds.

I could not wrap my head around people making life-long commitments before they even had an established life. It’s not my fault that I thought this way, because the majority opinion about young marriage in today’s society is not a supportive one. Over the years, it has become the norm to put off marriage until you have an education and an established career. Basically, this means you put off marriage until you learn how to be an adult, instead of using marriage as a foundation to launch into adulthood.

When young couples get married, people will assume that you are having a baby, and they will say that you’re throwing your life away — it’s inevitable.

It’s safe to say that my perspective changed once I signed my marriage certificate at the age of 18. Although marriage is not always easy and getting married at such a young age definitely sets you up for some extra challenges, there is something to be said about entering into marriage and adulthood at the same time.

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Getting married young does not mean giving up your dreams. It means having someone dream your dreams with you. When you get lost along the way, and your dreams and goals seem out of reach, it’s having someone there to point you in the right direction and show you the way back. Despite what people are going to tell you, it definitely doesn’t mean that you are going to miss out on all the experiences life has to offer. It simply means that you get to share all of these great adventures with the person you love most in the world.

And trust me, there is nothing better than that. It doesn’t mean that you are already grown up, it means that you have someone to grow with.

You have someone to stick with you through anything from college classes and changing bodies to negative bank account balances.

You have someone to sit on your used furniture with and talk about what you want to do and who you want to be someday.

Then, when someday comes, you get to look back on all of that and realize what a blessing it is to watch someone grow. Even after just one year of marriage, I look back and I am incredibly proud of my husband. I’m proud of the person he has become, and I’m proud of what we have accomplished together. I can’t wait to see what the rest of our lives have in store for us.

“You can drive at 16, go to war at 18, drink at 21, and retire at 65. So who can say what age you have to be to find your one true love?" — One Tree Hill
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