Being Raised By A Grand Parent

Being Raised By A Grand Parent

It's really not that different.

I'll save you the excruciatingly painful story of my growing up, but I will point out that I moved in with my Grand Mother permanently on July 1, 2008, for reasons that don't really matter at this point. My Grand Mother has always been the rock in my family. Whenever anyone needed help, like when my mother, siblings and I needed a place to stay my Grand Mother opened the door no problem until my Mom found another apartment. After some unfortunate events my Grand Mother had custody of my brother and sister, and as mentioned on July 1, I joined them (I had been living with my father prior); Only I never left. In 2011 my brother and sister went back to live with our Mom.

No one understands how hard it is for a child to make a decision like that and how hard it is for a Grand Mother to support it knowing how it will affect her relationship with her daughter, but my Grandma did that for me. She gave me a life that I don't think I could have had if I was with my Mother or my Father.

My Grandma pushed me to try my hardest. I ended up graduating with honors. She was patient with me and was there for me even when I didn't deserve, like when I wasn't smart enough to listen to her the first time about a boy. She taught me the work ethic that I use to this day. Everyone always says I seem older than I am and it's because being raised by a Grand Parent they've seen everything, twice. Once with themselves and once with their kids. They've learned along the way and are able to assess situations a lot better than anyone in generations below them.

My Grandma gave me everything she could. She made sure I never went without, and she also made sure that, no matter how stubborn I was that I had a relationship with my Mom. My Grandmother is the reason why in 2013 I went to Europe. She's the reason I got accepted to every college I applied to because she never stopped believing in me even when I did. She's the reason I am in college right now and why I still push myself. I want to show everyone that ever thought it was orthodox or wrong for her to be raising me that she did an amazing job.

She made a lot of hard choices. She gave up more than what people realize and she put up with so much, just to make sure I was safe, happy and had a place to call home. If a child is raised by a Grand Parent, it doesn't mean anything besides that they have someone who is more experienced.

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To The Senior Graduating High School In A Month

"What feels like the end, is often the beginning."

It wasn’t too long ago that I was in your shoes. Just a little over a year ago, I was the senior that had a month left. One month left in the hometown that I grew up in. One month left with the friends that I didn’t want to leave. One month left in the place that I had called “my school” for the past four years. You are probably thinking the same things I thought whenever it came down to only 30 days left. You’re probably scared, nervous, worried, or anxious. Maybe you’re like me and are dying to get out of high school, ready to start a new chapter. Or maybe you aren’t so ready yet. Maybe you’re wishing for a little more time.

As scary as it is, this month you have left will fly by. You’ll blink and you’ll be standing in your cap and gown, waiting for your name to be called to receive your diploma. You’ll look back on your last four years at your school and wonder why time went by so fast. It’ll be bittersweet. However, trust me when I say that you have so much to look forward to. You are about to begin taking the steps to build your future. You are going to grow and learn so much more than any high school class could teach you. You are going to meet amazing people and accomplish amazing things. So, as scared as you might be, I encourage you to take that first step out of your comfort zone and face this world head on. Chase your dreams and work towards your goals. You are smart. You are brave. You are capable of achieving amazing things. All your life, the lessons you have learned have prepared you for this point in your life. You are more than ready.

There are times when you will feel alone, scared, or confused. There are times when it won’t always be easy. But those are the times when you will shine the most because I know you will work through whatever problems you may face. Don’t think of the bad times as a terrible thing. Use them all as learning experiences. As author Joshua Marine once said, “Challenges are what make life interesting and overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.”

You might think that this is the end. However, it’s not. This is only the beginning. Trust me when I say that the adventures and opportunities you are about to face are nothing compared to high school. Whether you are going to college, going to work, or something else, this is the beginning of your journey called life. It will be exciting, it will be terrifying, but it will all be worth it.

So, as you walk out of your high school for the very last time, I encourage you to take a deep breath. Relax. You’ll always have the memories to look back on from high school. But your time is now, it begins today. Embrace it.

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9 Reasons Your Grandparents Are The Best Gifts You'll Ever Receive

They love us unconditionally and are always there to lend a helping hand.


Grandparents are special. They are the leaders and foundations of our families. They love us unconditionally and are always there to lend a helping hand. The spoil us way too often! My grandparents mean the world to me. The picture above is one of my favorite photos with both my mother and my grandfather when I was a little girl. They are some of the best people in my life and have always set a good example for me. Cherish them while you can because they won't always be around! Here are nine reasons your grandparents are the best gifts you'll ever receive!

1. They give the best advice.

2. They have a lot of life experience and are willing to share it with you.

3. Their smile makes your heart warm.

4. They are so intelligent.

5. They have the best stories to share.

6. They are a great example of love.

7. Their hugs are like no other.

8. They spoil their grandchildren.

9. They love you unconditionally.

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