Some people stare, others don't. Many seemed frightened as some find comfort right away. Others presume being disabled means that you are miserable. Last year curiosity struck me when I saw a preview for Me Before You. "Finally!" I thought, "a film that would explain that a disability isn't all that bad."
Too many people frown upon the wheelchair, wanting to give sympathy. This should teach them that with the right attitude, you can enjoy your life no matter if you're in a wheelchair or not. Show friends enjoying time spending with them. Yes, you should show the inconvenience of being disabled, but this film focuses too much on the "Can't Dos" instead of the "Can Dos!"
Louisa Clark worked so hard to ensure Will Traynor felt joy daily. There is so much love between them and she shares how much she loves caring for him. They had joyous days constantly. Then suddenly, out of nowhere, (I'm going to spoil the ending because I don't recommend it for anyone, especially disabled people who are like me) Will wants to receive assisted suicide...Even though she gave him everything he could ever want! The family didn't seem to care. Then, the last scene was the Louisa crying without any hope and then she carries on in life.
Is this what people think disabled people wish for if they've never talked to us? I was honestly numb as the credits scrolled. I wanted to be sad but I wasn't because no one else seemed to be. Anger tried to swarm in but it couldn't because of the no feeling inside of me. "What just happened?" were the first words out of my mouth as the credits scrolled with joyful music.
I understand that he wasn't born in a wheelchair like me, but he laughed. He conversed with friends and they listened to him. If I didn't have an open heart and didn't listen to anyone, I would probably wonder if that's what it will be like if I die tomorrow. Of course, I don't think that, but I'm frightened that that film will capture someone else with a disability and reel them into thinking that they're not perfect enough! Let me tell you something; that's not true at all!
True friends see past the disability and don't encourage this. They should say, "I still love you even though you may be "different" from others." I maybe spoiled with incredible friends, but I believe that every friend should be like that. If you're handicapped like me, don't try to "fit in." Just be you. It may not seem that simple, but I swear that it is. I think you should truly just be who you are and the friends that you need in life will come. Whatever I show to people who I meet will be the personality that they'll always expect. Friends of mine have learned that I have an odd, unusual sense of humor but understand it and go along with it.
A true friend encourages you no matter what stage you're at in life. They challenge you to think twice if they disagree on a choice that you are making. They encourage you to keep going even when it seems impossible. They laugh with you. They cry with you. When they're in pain, you feel it too. Whatever people are struggling with, there's a reason why. Sometimes it's their fault and other times it's not. There will be friends that neglect and betray you, shattering your heart, but someone new will replace them and cure that emptiness and clear away those deep scars others have caused. And with Jesus Christ, you have the best friend that you'll ever find in the whole universe and live a true friend.
He loves you for who you are. He's the only one that will truly heal incurable wounds. He's able to fade away all of the nightmarish memories that you have trapped inside of you. If you feeling like you're not loved by your family, come to Him and ramble about your feelings! He wants to listen! And that perfect relationship you can be assured that you will never be disappointed in is His relationship with you. And that is the most beautiful relationship that you will ever experience.
