Throughout observation of my friends and my own experiences, I’ve concocted some characters that all women should avoid when seeking men. If you or someone you know is in a relationship with one of these characters, put it to an end.

Mr. Wishy-Washy

Mr. Wishy-Washy, a man of many interests who just can’t seem to pick one. He’s usually a diverse individual, perhaps in the arts, athletics, or even with his wisdom. He’s got one major flaw, though. He’s interested in too many things, like women. He’s the man that can’t settle down, not because he doesn’t want to, but because he needs to experience it all. He might be super head over heals for you one week, asking for dinner plans, sending you good morning and goodnight texts, and even making every effort to impress your family. The next week comes by and he’s a little more than distant. Now don’t take this personally, because it’s not you. It’s his lack of certainty after encountering another female. Don’t worry, these ones always come back and forth, kind of like stray animals. Just make sure you note that after you’re rid of them once, you don’t want them a second time.

The Rebel

Ah, the rebel, a personal favorite. He’s the one that’s spontaneous, exciting, interesting, and usually holds a lot of depth. When most of us think of the rebel, we think of the tattoos, the motorcycle, the criminal record, and the broken family. This stereotype only covers a small fraction of “the rebels.” The rebel is the guy that can’t be tamed. He’s the one you want for the sole reason that you know you can’t have him. He marches to the beat of his own drum, and makes it known to the world that he doesn’t want to be tied down. He’s the one jumping into the unoccupied pool fully clothed at a backyard party. He lives for the moment and for himself. He’s fun and intriguing, but will never commit, and isn’t trying to fool anyone by acting like he will.

The Control Freak

This one can be deceiving, so watch out. In the beginning of a relationship, the woman might be flattered when she sees him get possessive over her. He makes her feel wanted, and he commits. She loves this about him. He spoils her with fancy dates and gifts, and tries to show her that he’s a protector. Don’t be fooled though, ladies. It sounds like every woman’s dream boy, but this can be a red flag. Letting him do too much for you gives him a sense of control over you, and trust me he knows this. The less you do for yourself, the less you learn you can do for yourself. You become dependent on him and then he has you right where he wants you, under his control. He invades your phone, and wants to know every detail of your girls’ night out. He might try to detach you from your close friends or family, so at the end of the day it’s just you and him.

The Horn Ball

This one has no hidden code you need to unravel to find out who he is. What you see is what you get. You really don’t have much connection beyond physical, and he always tries to take “yes, it’s okay to kiss me,” to “yes, I want it all, and your babies.” Avoid this one at all costs.

The Sorrowful Cheater

This type of man might not be one you can detect from the beginning. Unfortunately, it might take time, but I assure you, his true colors will show. This one can be tricky, because most guys are capable of being the sorrowful cheater, so pick wisely. He’s usually your average man, super interested in you, maybe even in love, but he’s the type that acts before thinking. After the deed is done, he might say things like, “I didn’t mean for that to happen. You’re the only one I want,” or “I was really drunk, it will never happen again.” Relationships are built on trust, and this will strip you of your trust for him, and if it doesn’t…then you might have some other issues on your hands. Whatever he says, it’s inexcusable, and as sorrowful as he is, it can and will happen again.

So ladies, watch out for Mr. Wishy-Washy, the intriguing rebel, the luring control freak, the sleazy horn ball, and the manipulative cheater. I promise, this will save you from a lot of grief down the line.