Adulting is Hard for Everyone

Adulting is Hard for Everyone

Adults don't know everything.
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You've probably heard that old saying that people get wiser with age, but it turns out that supposed wisdom doesn't mean that being an adult becomes any easier. We have all been lied to!

Sure, there were people who told us to enjoy being kids because being an adult includes more responsibilities, but those same people told us they knew this because they were adults and "adults know best".

If the recent political climate has taught us anything, then we know that these so-called "adults" aren't adulting particularly well at all. They make fun of our generation and the generation after us for not being able to be mature adults (which arguably is true for the generation after ours because eating Tide Pods is ridiculous) when in fact they aren't being mature adults either.

The adults who have told us for our entire lives that they know more because they are more experienced, have been covering up the fact that they have no idea what they are doing either. There is literally a franchise called "...for Dummies" that has been around since 1991 and I wasn't even alive yet so that books aren't meant for me. I know that older generations aren't supposed to know everything, but I also know that it is unfair for them to judge the way we are coming into our own. We are a generation that is changing the world in an entirely new way through social media, technology, and through the movement towards a more accepting society so I think maybe the adults who are telling us that we aren't "doing it right" should sit down and watch us.

We aren't the perfect example of adults and we do stupid things and we mess up, but we are adults who are struggling just as much as the adults before us did and still are. I sincerely hope that we don't turn to the generations after us with the same pompous attitude that the previous generations have met us with.

To future generations and to my own, we still can learn from our elders and each other, but we should not feel as if we are failing at growing up because we reach some bench-marked-age and we are still struggling. Adulting is hard for everyone and we are just getting started so keep on keeping on and we will hopefully figure this whole "life" thing out eventually.

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I used to just laugh it off when someone thought I was 12 years old back when I was in high school, but now that I am three years deep into college getting ready to graduate, I don’t laugh anymore. If you are in the same situation as me looking like a child trying to get into a bar/club and the bouncer is questioning if your ID is fake, please read on — you may relate very much. Here are 11 things 20+ year-olds who look 12 are tired of hearing:


1. I didn’t know they let 12-year-olds work here.

Nope. They don’t.

2. What school do you go to?

Me: Florida State.

Person: University?!

3. *Tries to get a sample at Target* Is your parent nearby?

Let me FaceTime my mom really quick and ask her permission for this protein bar sample.

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4. *Server at a restaurant* Here you go, sweetie. What can I get you, darling? Hi, honey, how are you?

You are no more than three years older than me, there is no need for "sweetie."

5. It’s your birthday? Happy Birthday! How old now, fourteen/fifteen?

6. You look so much older when you wear makeup.

Is that supposed to be a compliment?

7. Wow, you're how old? You look like you are twelve.

Have you seen a twelve-year-old lately?

8. You probably just look young because you're short.


9. *Tries to flirt with a guy* You're a little too young for me I think.

I'm your age. Maybe even older.


10. Are you old enough to see this movie? Can I see your ID please?

11. You're going to be so thankful when you are in your 50's.

So I've been told. Hopefully, it's worth it.

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5 Tips For Handling A Quarter Life Crisis

Don't know what to do with your life, me either

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I thought I had my entire life figured out; career, graduate school, moving. All of it. But maybe I was wrong. I have already been accepted to graduate school, have my internship/capstone figured out but then I was given an opportunity of a lifetime to do a different internship that made me question if my plan was the right plan for me. It was terrifying, stressful and difficult to figure out what to do because it affects the rest of my life. But there are some tips you can do to keep your cool.

1.    PLAN PLAN PLAN

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Write that shit down. Take a piece of paper and plan out where each path could take you and the steps you need to take to get to each goal on the path. Seeing it all on paper will slow you down and help determine if what you're thinking is even an option.

2.    Talk to people

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Talk it out, talk to your friends, your family, your advisor. Talk to anyone you can about your plan. You will hear other people's opinions and thoughts. They may have thought of a factor that you didn't. It will help you better understand your thoughts when you explain your tornado brain to someone else.

 3.    Be Open

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This was REALLY hard for me. I talked to probably five different people about the change in life choices and heard both positive and negative thoughts. It is important to be open and listen to the negative idea even if it seems like you're being attacked. It will make you think, are you really prepared for 4-8 more years of school (or whatever else it may be).

 4.    Breathe and Stress Relieve 

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YES, this is 100% one of the biggest most stressful decision you have to make but it is also incredibly important that you are patient, and calm throughout the entire process. It is easier said than done, trust me but take five steps back, seven deep breaths and 20 minutes to relieve the built-up stress. Go to the gym, listen to music, paint, do whatever is going to put a smile on your face and calm you. Then come back to the problem with a clear head to think and process all the options.

5.    Don’t be afraid

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It is literally terrifying when you feel lost, and unsure of what to do with your life. Especially if your family is super strict and you want to keep everyone happy. But REMEMBER it is YOUR life. YOUR future. You have to worry about what is the best option for you and what will make you happy in the long run. Even if it is harder and going to take longer. Be concerned about YOURSELF and not what anyone else thinks of you.

Quarter life crises are totally normal and not fun. Don't feel like you're alone or a failure for being unsure. It is good to explore all your options and be the happiest you can be. If that takes a little freak out and some stress so is it. Just use these steps to make the best of it.

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