7 Roommate Struggles As Told By New Girl

7 Roommate Struggles As Told By New Girl

If you don't know who’s the Nick in your apartment, then it’s definitely you.

I've lived with my current roommates for almost five months now. Each one of them has become one of my closest friends and are the definition of ride-or-die. However...

Sometimes it's a pain to live with other people who you care about so much, especially because the situation entails seeing them every. single. day. Arguments are made easier. Habits are made more obvious. And everyone becomes unhealthily empathetic.

I love my girls and we're a second family for life, for sure. But like any family, we have our own, special struggles...

1. One roommate’s struggles become everyone’s struggles

This is the extremely unhealthy empathy I mentioned before. Living as close to people for as long as roommates do makes you incredibly aware of other people's feelings.

And this applies to families, too. Except, generally, your apartment is a bunch of people your own age and going through the same life routines. It is very easy to feel what your roommate feels and ride their midterm's crisis or the panic they have before a job interview.

2. Getting roped into each other’s shenanigans

Shenanigans are hands-down one of the most unavoidable aspects of living with other people, especially people you can scheme with (me and my roommates). They can be fun. Or can lean more to the messy side of things.

But...there's no better source of entertainment, after a long day of classes, than hearing about your roommates' shenanigans.

3. Sometimes there's no concept of personal space

Most of the time it doesn't ever exist. By the time you've moved out, you will know your roommates wayyyyyyy too well.

Personal space cannot be a thing. Like, not at all...

4. Food experiments take place...and fail

There's a moment of pride you feel in your roommates when they master an impossible dish (probably when they're procrastinating on something else more pressing). But sometimes those experiments can fail...hard.

5. Debates can become passionate intellectual arguments

Living with intelligent and thoughtful human beings is a privilege and a blessing. Even when debates break out and discussions are fueled by three, four, or even five sources of deep knowledge.

The occasional argument will develop from a debate, and the apartment will be a few decibels louder for an hour or so. But I'll take the arguments any day for the collective intelligence I'm surrounding by.

6. Sometimes we get fed up of each other

Yeah, it's definitely possible to get fed up by each other. Who doesn't get annoyed by family every so often?

7. But at the end of the day, we’d live with no one else

Also, cause who could actually deal with us other than each other? (Love you, girls!)

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I'm A Woman With Ambition And I Couldn't Be Happier

Ambition isn't the most desired quality in females. That needs to change.


Let's face it, this day and age, females aren't supposed to be smart. Sure, if you look at the average dating profile, it'll probably say that they're looking for an intelligent woman, but nine out of ten times, they want someone smart, just not smarter than them. This makes things difficult. Even in the classroom, it's not uncommon to find men that are intimidated by women with intelligence who aren't afraid to show it. These sorts of underlying feelings are why a lot of parents don't necessarily jump at encouraging their daughters to go into competitive fields such as the sciences, law, or high-ranking positions in the business world. I'm here to tell you though that I'm pursuing a career that includes getting my MD/Ph.D. and I couldn't be happier.

I write this to encourage other women not to be afraid of their intelligence. So many times, the men in the room would like us to remain silent and let them show off their prowess. There is no reason that you can't be the smartest person in the room, and you should own it. I've personally seen the shock on the faces of others' when I talk about the research I'm doing. It's time to own your smarts and make Rosie the Riveter proud.

Now I don't want this message to sound like I think all women are living their lives just to please men. I know that they're not, but I know that some women are worried about what others will think of them which can be just as debilitating. Regardless of why I'm telling you to do it, though, I really hope that you pay attention to what I'm asking you to do, and that is to love your mind. Many times we are told to love our bodies, and that is such a great message and a really hard thing to do. Loving your mind, though, is just as important. Knowing that your mind is an amazing thing and that your thoughts and feelings are all valid is an essential tool in building yourself up. Don't let anyone tell you different.

One thing that I've gained in learning to love my mind is confidence. For a while, I was really worried about what people were going to think about me if I raised my hand in class or spoke my opinion on a matter. Pursuing something that I really love and letting myself reach my full potential, however, has given me so much confidence. Now I know that there are some women out there who just kick butt naturally and have no restraints. If that's you, you are an inspiration and I support you fully. If you're like me, however, I want to tell you to go for it with all you've got because the payoff is so worth it.

Grooming women to keep silent and not intimidate is something that our country has done for years, and we're starting to see now that there's no need for it. But we don't have to wait until our daughters reach adulthood to begin to support their voices. Parents, if your daughter wants to do something non-traditional or likes to be in charge, now is the time to support the heck out of her. If she wants to build a rocket for her school project, challenge her mind and let her explain to you what she's doing. It's time we stop hushing our daughters and pushing them into more traditional roles. If that's what they want to do, that's totally great, but now is the time to provide every opportunity under the sun so that our women can reach their full potential.

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