Growing up, we were taught to apologize for doing something wrong or hurting someone. When did it become about appeasing others when they don't like who we are? I've narrowed down a list of seven absurd apologies we need to making.
1. Telling someone no
Generally, when you feel it in your gut to say no to something, it's for the best. If it's something you should do, you'll have no doubt about it and you'll feel firm in your decision.
2. Caring too much
This is something I've found myself apologizing for, maybe not verbatim, but in some way. I've done this in conversations with friends and a guy I'd been seeing, saying I am sorry I care so much for them, and feel a certain way for something. Actually, I'm not sorry about it, and I will continue to care about you.
3. Not living up to someone else's expectations
Excuse me, "someone else?" The only person you need to impress is yourself. When you are pleased with who you are and what you've accomplished, that's all you should worry about. The people who really love you will value you in your failures and successes, and they're the people who matter.
4. Being proud of yourself
Don't let someone knock you down when you're feeling good about something you've done well. You don't need to apologize for doing better on a test or getting that job. Even if the other person was just as prepared as you, it's not your fault they didn't do what they wanted to.
5. Loving someone
Now this is just silly, how are you going to apologize for something you can't control? Even when your feelings may not be reciprocated, that doesn't mean they aren't less real or important. If it's your friends judging you for who you love, remind them that they're your friend, and you expect them to support you just as you support them.
6. Not being perfect
"I'm sorry I'm not perfect" is a line I'm sure a lot of people are guilty of regarding issues with parents, significant others and friends. But wait, no one is, and expecting someone else to be is not OK. Being imperfect and accepting your own and others' flaws is one of the most relaxing and rewarding ways to be.
7. Wanting something
Whether it be your pursuit of a relationship with the person you really like, or working extra hours to save up for that car you really want, you don't have to make an excuse or an apology to those around you for working hard to get something. You're not desperate or entitled. You are a normal human who wants something the same as every person wants something else, and you deserve it!
Justin Bieber once asked if it was too late to say sorry. No, it's too early to say sorry, Justin. It's OK to not be sorry for being a determined person with ambitions and desires. You go do you, and be fearlessly #SorryNotSorry.
