The Lessons That 50 Years Of "I Love You's" Can Teach Our Generation

The Lessons That 50 Years Of "I Love You's" Can Teach Our Generation

A thank you to the foundation of my family
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G & P,

50 years. Five decades. Think about all of the things that have changed in 50 years: the president, technology, medical advancements, education, style. One thing has remained the same through all of these many changes ... the love between my grandparents. This weekend my grandparents will celebrate their 50 years together. It is hard to believe that long before I existed on this Earth, before my parents were even a thought in anyone's mind, my Grandpa Clint and Grandma Patty had already begun their journey through life together. It is not every day that we see this kind of love in our world.

In a time where divorce, separation and affairs are not uncommon, there are those few people who have stuck to the vows which they made to each other from the beginning. Life has not always been easy for the two of them, but between my grandfather’s positive attitude and fun-loving personality, and my grandma’s ability to work hard and provide selfless love and care to her family, they have managed to stick things out through both good and bad. I am proud to say I have such amazing grandparents to look up to, and to guide my expectations and values in my own personal relationships. Though times may be different, and trends may have faded, the love my grandparents provide to my family will always be the same.

This is something I think all millennials should strive for in their relationships today. There is a mentality that relationships don’t have to, and even shouldn’t have to, last long. Rather than sticking it out through a hard time or situation, it has become normalized to simply throw in the towel. People strive to find a love that requires no work; one that is “meant to be”. The ideals we see on social media, television, and magazines of perfect couples rarely exist in real life. Since there are so many options in the dating pool between work, school, dating websites, etc. it is often thought by many people that they must continue searching until they find someone with no flaws or imperfections.

Things like Tinder have given us the ability to swipe yes or no; to judge someone for compatibility immediately based on their physical features and looks. With so many options how will you find “the one”? We should resort back to the old mentality of relationships and learn how to stick things out through the good and the bad, take the time to really get to know someone and their personality before “swiping left” on them.

To all of the married couples celebrating years upon years together: I believe you deserve to be recognized. It is not every day you come across a couple who has honored their promise of “till death do us part”, and I think that should be honored. So, to my grandparents on their special day I wish you many more years of happiness, love, and joy surrounded by a family who loves you so very much. Thank you for the 50 years of support, guidance, care, and laughs you have provided; thank you for building a foundation for our family to grow upon.

Love,

Carli


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A Letter To The Grandpas Who Left Far Too Soon

The thoughts of a girl who lost both of her grandpas too early.
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Dear Grandpa,

As I get older, my memories are starting to fade. I try to cling to every last bit of memory that I have of you. There are certain memories that have stuck well in my brain, and I probably will never forget them, at least I hope I don't. I remember your smile and your laugh. I can still remember how your voice sounded. I never want to forget that. I catch myself closing my eyes to try to remember it, playing your voice over and over in my head so that I can ingrain it in my memory.

I always thought you were invincible, incapable of leaving me. You were so young, and it caught us all by surprise. You were supposed to grow old, die of old age. You were not supposed to be taken away so soon. You were supposed to see me graduate high school and college, get married to the love my life, be there when my kids are born, and never ever leave.

My heart was broken when I heard the news. I don't think I had experienced a pain to that level in my entire life. At first, I was in denial, numb to the thought that you were gone. It wasn't until Thanksgiving, then Christmas, that I realized you weren't coming back. Holidays are not the same anymore. In fact, I almost dread them. They don't have that happy cheer in the air like they did when you were alive. There is a sadness that hangs in the air because we are all thinking silently how we wished you were there. I hope when I am older and have kids that some of that holiday spirit comes back.

You know what broke my heart the most though? It was seeing your child, my parent, cry uncontrollably. I watched them lose their dad, and I saw the pain that it caused. It scared me, Grandpa, because I don't ever want to lose them like how they lost you. I can't imagine a day without my mom or dad. I still see the pain that it causes and how it doesn't go away. There are good days and there are bad days. I always get upset when I see how close people are to their grandparents and that they get to see them all the time. I hope they realize how lucky they are and that they never take it for granted. I wish I could have seen you more so that I could have more memories to remember you by.

I know though that you are watching over me. That is where I find comfort in the loss. I know that one day I will get to see you again, and I can't wait for it. I hope I have made you proud. I hope that all that I have accomplished and will accomplish makes you smile from ear to ear. I hope that the person I marry is someone you would approve of. And I hope that my kids get more time with their grandpa than I did because the amount I got wasn't fair.

I want to say thank you for raising your child to be the best parent ever because they will one day be the best grandparent ever. Just like you.

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To My Grandma, The Guardian Angel I Never Got To Meet

I never got to tell you this but I love you, Grandma...

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Hey Grandma

I know I never got to meet you but Hi! I'm Your granddaughter. I've heard so much about you, I've been told countless stories and I can honestly say I love every single one of them. I've been told that I look like you, I have also seen the photos of you and I have to agree I am honestly your twin back when you were my age.

I'd like to give you a huge thank you for raising such an amazingly kind-hearted, hard-working and intelligent daughter who I am lucky enough to call my mother. I have learned so much from her. She has taught me how to be a kind to everyone who crosses our path because everyone is facing a battle that no one can see. I know you taught her that and so many other lifelong lessons.

I really wish I got the chance to get to know you, I would have loved to had heard the stories about my mom when she was young and the stories about my uncles as well… oh! I can only imagine how they were?! I know you would have given me the real stories on them all! Not only do I wish I got to hear the stories, but I wish I got to spend days doing the stuff little girls do with there grandmothers, the tea parties, the days baking and playing dress up and telling stories but most importantly I wish I got to hear your voice. I know you didn't choose to go and if you had the chance you would be here with us, but now we know we're safe because we really do have a guardian angel looking out for us.

Grandma even though I never got to meet you, I've been told so many stories about you I feel like I already know you. I can tell from the stories that we would have gotten along great and probably would have been the best of friends! So again Thank you for the amazing job you have done on your kids, they came out great and I think you would be proud of how well of a job they are doing with my cousins, siblings and I.

Love you, Grandma.

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