The Lessons That 50 Years Of "I Love You's" Can Teach Our Generation

The Lessons That 50 Years Of "I Love You's" Can Teach Our Generation

A thank you to the foundation of my family
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G & P,

50 years. Five decades. Think about all of the things that have changed in 50 years: the president, technology, medical advancements, education, style. One thing has remained the same through all of these many changes ... the love between my grandparents. This weekend my grandparents will celebrate their 50 years together. It is hard to believe that long before I existed on this Earth, before my parents were even a thought in anyone's mind, my Grandpa Clint and Grandma Patty had already begun their journey through life together. It is not every day that we see this kind of love in our world.

In a time where divorce, separation and affairs are not uncommon, there are those few people who have stuck to the vows which they made to each other from the beginning. Life has not always been easy for the two of them, but between my grandfather’s positive attitude and fun-loving personality, and my grandma’s ability to work hard and provide selfless love and care to her family, they have managed to stick things out through both good and bad. I am proud to say I have such amazing grandparents to look up to, and to guide my expectations and values in my own personal relationships. Though times may be different, and trends may have faded, the love my grandparents provide to my family will always be the same.

This is something I think all millennials should strive for in their relationships today. There is a mentality that relationships don’t have to, and even shouldn’t have to, last long. Rather than sticking it out through a hard time or situation, it has become normalized to simply throw in the towel. People strive to find a love that requires no work; one that is “meant to be”. The ideals we see on social media, television, and magazines of perfect couples rarely exist in real life. Since there are so many options in the dating pool between work, school, dating websites, etc. it is often thought by many people that they must continue searching until they find someone with no flaws or imperfections.

Things like Tinder have given us the ability to swipe yes or no; to judge someone for compatibility immediately based on their physical features and looks. With so many options how will you find “the one”? We should resort back to the old mentality of relationships and learn how to stick things out through the good and the bad, take the time to really get to know someone and their personality before “swiping left” on them.

To all of the married couples celebrating years upon years together: I believe you deserve to be recognized. It is not every day you come across a couple who has honored their promise of “till death do us part”, and I think that should be honored. So, to my grandparents on their special day I wish you many more years of happiness, love, and joy surrounded by a family who loves you so very much. Thank you for the 50 years of support, guidance, care, and laughs you have provided; thank you for building a foundation for our family to grow upon.

Love,

Carli


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This type of friend is special because no matter how long you go without talking or seeing each other, you're always insanely close. Even though I miss her daily, having a long-distance best friend has its perks. Here are just a few of them...

1. Getting to see each other is a special event.

Sometimes when you see someone all the time, you take that person and their friendship for granted. When you don't get to see one of your favorite people very often, the times when you're together are truly appreciated.

2. You always have someone to give unbiased advice.

This person knows you best, but they probably don't know the people you're telling them about, so they can give you better advice than anyone else.

3. You always have someone to text and FaceTime.

While there may be hundreds of miles between you, they're also just a phone call away. You know they'll always be there for you even when they can't physically be there.

4. You can plan fun trips to visit each other.

When you can visit each other, you get to meet the people you've heard so much about and experience all the places they love. You get to have your own college experience and, sometimes, theirs, too.

5. You know they will always be a part of your life.

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The long-distance best friend is a forever friend. While I wish I could see mine more, I wouldn't trade her for anything.

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A Letter To My Grandma Before We Say Goodbye

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Dear Mom-Mom,

I want you to know a few things before it's time for us to say goodbye— most importantly that I love you! I may not have shown that when I was younger and said some mean things, but that was then and this is now. I have and always will love you. You have always shown me unconditional love, and nothing can ever compare. I am sorry for the fight we had when I was younger and compared you to my other grandma because you are just as wonderful and I love you just as much. I never want you to think I don't love you because I always have and always will love you.

Thank you. Thank you for always looking after me and giving me all that you could offer. I still remember when I was younger and would go to your house after school every Friday and order that gross pizza you and I both hated, but Pop loved it. We would play all night until mom and dad came to get me. Thank you. Thank you for taking me out to buy toys or to eat at my favorite places. You always made sure I was at my happiest. I love you.

You are so strong. Remember when they told you, you didn't have that much longer to live. You only had a couple of years. That was my first birthday. You told them to let you out to right now to celebrate and they listened. But you didn't listen to them when they told you that you only had so much longer. You showed them. Here you are, 19 years later still showing them that those couple of years meant nothing, and they don't know what they're talking about. You are the strongest woman I know, and I am humbled to call you my grandmother. I love you.

Even right now, with all you are going through, you continue to show them they're wrong. You continue to keep living your life and not letting the doctors bring you down. You determine when it's time. You will never change. You still are always offering me food when I am over, cracking jokes and, of course, still being your feisty self. No matter what you go through, you always come out your strong, feisty self. You are amazing. I aspire to be you one day. Raising a family of four kids then taking in two more because that's the type of person you are. You are generous, kind hearted, funny and wonderful. There is no way I can come close to being as wonderful as you, but I can and will try. I love you.

It hurts me to think that days with you are slowly coming to an end, but that doesn't mean it's goodbye forever. I know you will always be by my side. I am so grateful for that. I am grateful for everything you have done for me. I know you will always look down on me to ensure I am being my best self and never lose sight of what is important. Keep pushing through and being the strong woman you are. I love you so much.

Love,

Emily

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