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Feb 27, 2019

5 Things I've Learned Since My First Boyfriend

Abbie Hunter

Relationships are tricky, and mine have been weird to say the least. I've been in short flings and a couple relatively long relationships, including my current boyfriend, Brandon, who I've been dating for 8 or 9 months (we can never quite agree).

That being said, there are a lot of things I've learned. Here are some highlights:

1. Talk, talk, talk

I know everyone says communication is key, but they're right! Talk things out with your partner. Talk to them when you can, even if it just leaving them a voicemail to say hey and wish them a good day at work. They don't even need to respond. Some of that energy will wash off on them, though.

2. Take things slow

Everyone has their own pace, but remember to keep things safe for you and your partner. Talk about consent. Talk about boundaries. Don't be upset if your partner changes their mind or says no. And for that matter, taking things slow is not limited to sexual and intimate things. Just remember to breathe, take time to get to know your partner, and relax.

3. Small things, big result.

Don't worry if your relationship is going slow and you feel like nothing super huge has happened. If you went on a bigger date one week, don't be scared to keep things low-key. A lot of really small things can add up to a lot of memories. Some of my favorite memories of my boyfriend and I stem off of a date that happened in his living room, cooking, and watching a movie. Super chill.

4. Practice makes perfect

You're going to mess up. You'll fumble over your friends or jump to conclusions or get jealous or...well, you get it. Something will go wrong at some point. Perfect people do not exist, even in your "perfect" partner. I've felt mad leaving dates. I've felt upset. I've also said some really hurtful things. The key is bouncing back and fixing mistakes you can control.

5. Family Matters

I know that this may seem like a no-brainer, but if your significant other doesn't like your friends and family, or worse, doesn't like you spending time with your friends and family, be aware. I'm not saying this is a sign your relationship is doomed, but in a lot of cases, that kind of behavior is dangerous.

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