5 Songs Describing 5 Types Of Love

5 Songs Describing 5 Types Of Love

Love, there is not just one type of love..or lack thereof. But, these songs cover a couple of the nuances.
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Love, there is not just one type of love..or lack thereof. But, these songs cover a couple of the nuances.

1. Sam Smith’s "Not In That Way"

Did you love someone who didn’t love you back? Listen to “In The Lonely Hour” on repeat for a day and take a frickin JOURNEY to the center of your pain so you can face it. Songs like "Not In That Way" destroy you with the real feelings of unreciprocated love. The way Smith delivers the vocals is also painfully haunting as well..his ability to flip between registers and his dynamic range make his performances of songs unforgettable.

It’s comforting to know that someone else has gone through essentially the same experience and came out on top. You can do it too.

2. Ariana Grande’s "You’ll Never Know"

Okay so you didn’t get your heartbroken..exactly, but maybe someone was afraid to admit how they felt about you at one point and you weren’t about to sit there and WAIT for them. You got your own clock. THEN, as soon as you find you a boo, they want to come back into your life talking all the stuff they should’ve been saying when you were all for them. Grande opens the song with “Now you finally tell me how you feel, but your words just came a little too late”. I think a lot of us have been there, but maybe not.

Either way, it’s a bummer to become involved with someone and then have an old flame suddenly realize what they should’ve known all along.

3. Amy Winehouse’s "Stronger Than Me"

Either way, that pettiness is over and you're ACTUALLY in a relationship with someone, congrats (you did it), but maybe they aren’t living up to your expectations.

Amy was clearly NOT having it with her man at this point. The whole song says “You should be stronger than me”. Amy wanted someone who was going to take care of her and give her the type of love she needed. The premise of the song doesn’t necessary lineup with all of my views, but hey that doesn’t mean someone out there isn’t expecting their significant other to be stronger than them, even if it’s just in one situation that the other person may legitimately need to be stronger than them for..either way, this song still applies (but damn, let your man be sensitive if he is). Love you Amy.

4. Daniel Caesar’s "Best Part (feat. H.E.R.)"

BOOM! PLOT TWIST. You’re in the relationship, everything's just dandy, and you literally salivate at the thought of seeing your boo (ya nasty).

Daniel and H.E.R. are here to tell you, YES, go ahead and fall in love completely. Sometimes, when you fall for people, it legit feels like they are the “best part” of your life.

Whether other people who are not in love (and are probably just lonely and bitter, but maybe not) agree with this infatuation or not, what’s the big whoop? LIFE IS SHORT, it is possibly meaningless, and should, therefore, be treated as such. Do whatever you want. If you want to fall madly in love with someone and, as Daniel put it, have them be your water when you’re stuck in the desert, then go ahead. Just don’t be stupid. Be prepared for how you might feel when the sugar waffle turns into a sour apple (lmao I just made that up, but you get it).

5. Jessie Reyez’s "Figures"

Okay so the honeymoon is over, you’re contemplating ending it with your person, but how do you stop loving someone who meant everything to you?

Maybe they were even you’re “best part”...well, it’s not easy. Reyez sings about wishing she could hurt her lover the same way that they hurt her, but she just can’t. If it came down to it, it sounds like she would forgive them and go back. Maybe that was just a moment of weakness or just what she needed to express in the song...but it’s a real emotion.

Too often we let people hurt us in ways that we would deem unforgivable if we were merely a fly on the wall of someone else’s misfortune. But, every situation is unique, so if you feel like you can forgive whoever it is that you love, then just make sure you can live with that choice, or whatever choice you make. Getting advice from friends can be helpful here as well, but you have to let the final decision be your own..and if you need a lesson on how to do that, just watch RuPaul's Drag Race. Ru does it ALL the time, it's great!

NOW, these aren’t all of the stages/steps/whatever of love, but it’s 5 of them. And if you could relate or understand the flow of the songs and situations...don’t be afraid to learn from it. Put yourself first!

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'Baby, It's Cold Outside' Is NOT About Date Rape, It's A Fight Against Social Norms Of The 1940s

The popular Christmas song shouldn't be considered inappropriate.

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The classic Christmas song "Baby, It's Cold Outside" has recently come under attack. There has been controversy over the song being deemed as inappropriate since it has been suggested that it promotes date rape. Others believe that the song is another common example of our culture's promotion of rape. You may be wondering, where did they get that idea from?

The controversy has led to one radio station, WDOK, taking the song off the air and banning it from their station. Some people believe that this song goes against the #MeToo movement since it promotes rape. However, people are not considering the fact that this traditional Christmas song was made in the 1940s.

People are viewing the song from a modern-day cultural perspective rather than from the perspective of the 1940s. "Baby, It's Cold Outside" was written in 1944. Many people have viewed the song from the perspective of our cultural and social norms. People believe that the song promotes date rape because of lyrics that suggest that the male singing is trying to stop the female singer from leaving, and the female singer is constantly singing about trying to escape with verses like "I really can't stay" or "I've got to go home."

When you first view the song from the perspective of today's culture, you may jump to the conclusion that the song is part of the date rape culture. And it's very easy to jump to this conclusion, especially when you are viewing only one line from the song. We're used to women being given more freedom. In our society, women can have jobs, marry and be independent. However, what everyone seems to forget is that women did not always have this freedom.

In 1944, one of the social norms was that women had curfews and were not allowed to be in the same house as a man at a later time. It was considered a scandal if a single woman so much as stayed at another man's house, let alone be in the same room together. It's mind-blowing, right? You can imagine that this song was probably considered very provocative for the time period.

"Baby, It's Cold Outside" is not a song that encourages date rape, but is actually challenging the social norms of society during the time period. When you listen to the song, you notice that at one part of the song, the female states, "At least I can say that I tried," which suggests that she really doesn't want to leave. In fact, most of the song, she is going back and forth the whole time about leaving stating, "I ought to say no…well maybe just a half a drink more," and other phrases.

She doesn't want to leave but doesn't really have a choice due to fear of causing a scandal, which would have consequences with how others will treat her. It was not like today's society where nobody cares how late someone stays at another man's house. Nowadays, we could care less if we heard that our single neighbor stayed over a single man's house after 7. We especially don't try to look through our curtain to check on our neighbor. Well, maybe some of us do. But back then, people did care about where women were and what they were doing.

The female singer also says in the lyrics, "The neighbors might think," and, "There's bound to be talk tomorrow," meaning she's scared of how others might perceive her for staying with him. She even says, "My sister will be suspicious," and, "My brother will be there at the door," again stating that she's worried that her family will find out and she will face repercussions for her actions. Yes, she is a grown woman, but that doesn't mean that she won't be treated negatively by others for going against the social norms of the time period.

Then why did the male singer keep pressuring her in the song? This is again because the song is more about challenging the social norms of the time period. Both the female and male singers in the song are trying to find excuses to stay and not leave.

On top of that, when you watch the video of the scene in which the song was originally viewed, you notice that the genders suddenly switch for another two characters, and now it's a female singer singing the male singer's part and vice versa. You also notice that the whole time, both characters are attracted to one another and trying to find a way to stay over longer.

Yes, I know you're thinking it doesn't matter about the genders. But, the song is again consensual for both couples. The woman, in the beginning, wants to stay but knows what will await if she doesn't leave. The male singer meanwhile is trying to convince her to forget about the rules for the time period and break them.

In addition, the complaint regarding the lyric "What's in this drink?" is misguided. What a lot of people don't understand is that back in 1944, this was a common saying. If you look at the lyrics of the song, you notice that the woman who is singing is trying to blame the alcoholic drink for causing her to want to stay longer instead of leaving early. It has nothing to do with her supposed fear that he may have tried to give her too much to drink in order to date rape her. Rather, she is trying to find something to blame for her wanting to commit a scandal.

As you can see, when you view the song from the cultural perspective of the 1940s, you realize that the song could be said to fight against the social norms of that decade. It is a song that challenges the social constrictions against women during the time period. You could even say that it's an example of women's rights, if you wanted to really start an argument.

Yes, I will admit that there were movies and songs made back in the time period that were part of the culture of date rape. However, this song is not the case. It has a historical context that cannot be viewed from today's perspective.

The #MeToo movement is an important movement that has led to so many changes in our society today. However, this is not the right song to use as an example of the date rape culture.

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Board Games Are More Important Than You Think They Are

They've become a defining part of my family.

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Remember when you were a kid and you'd have a family game night? Or your friends would come over and you'd open the game cabinet and play at least three different games together?

Maybe it's just me, but those are some of my best memories from my childhood. My family loves games, board games, and electronic games.

Of course, as I got older, gaming consoles like PlayStation and Wii became more and more popular. That meant that the game cabinet was opened less and less, collecting dust.

Thankfully, I live in New Jersey near the shore and Hurricane Sandy left my family with no power for five days. Sure, it was scary not having power and walking around my neighborhood seeing fallen trees or roof shingles, but we were inland enough to not have had any flood water damage.

No power also meant no PlayStation or Wii games. The gaming cabinet was opened again, this time with vigor. Now, four years later, and I still think about sitting in the dark with a flashlight playing Scrabble with my family.

That was also the week I learned how to play Yahtzee and dominated my dad in every game. My sister constantly was looking for someone to play her to Battleship. We exhausted Rummikub.

The game was already a family favorite, and that's including extended family. Family barbeques had been ending with late night games of Rummikub for at least a year by the time Sandy hit.

We were ready to strategize and crunch numbers, but after day three, we never wanted to a number ever again.

This semester, there's been a surge of board game love again in my family. My sister bought Jenga, which we are currently trying to exhaust ourselves with. My favorite board game also had a comeback: Life.

I loved this game so much that I had the SpongeBob version as a kid. I would play it with my best friend, just the two of us, playing game after game of Bikini Bottom themed Life. Now, I have a car full of "kids" that I've started to make pets in my head. I can handle having five pretend dogs, but not five pretend kids.

I don't know what it is about board games, but my family has always had an affinity for them. We've gone through our cycles of playing video games and card games, but we always come back to the classics. Maybe it's more a defining part of my family than I originally thought.

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