5 Must Reads For The Girl Who Is Trying To Find Herself

5 Must Reads For The Girl Who Is Trying To Find Herself

You really have to take a look at these great reads!


This year, I'm dedicating my time to finding myself. I've always loved reading, so I've been searching for books that would help me learn to focus on myself and my happiness. The first three books I will be introducing are books I have been reading, while the last two are poetry books. Under each, I will tell you a little about the book!

1. "The Self-Love Experiment" By: Sharron Kaiser

Put a stop to self-sabotage and overcome your fears so that you can gain the confidence you need to reach your goals and become your own best friend.

The Self-Love Experiment is meant to walk you through the process of removing fear-based thoughts, so you can fall in love with life.

2. "Live Fearless" By: Sadie Robertson

In Live Fearless, Sadie takes you on a thrilling personal journey toward power, passion, and purpose as you live at the center of who God created you to be!

3. "Girl, Wash Your Face" By: Rachel Hollis

Stop Believing the Lies About Who You Are So You Can Become Who You Were Meant to Be

In Girl, Wash Your Face, lifestyle blogger Rachel Harris shares the lies she's told herself over the years that have held her back. Covering everything from becoming a mother to running a business, Hollis tells hilariously personal stories about how shaving her toes taught her a lesson about judgment, or when using the word "tired" around the mother of a newborn-baby is dangerous, and why dreaming about a Louis Vuitton Speedy bag was actually a really good professional move for her.

4. "The Princess Saves Herself In This One"

The Princess Saves Herself In This One is a collection of poetry about resilience. It is about writing your own ending. From Amanda Lovelace, a poetry collection in four parts: the princess, the damsel, the queen, and you.

5. "Her." By: Pierre Alex Jeanty

Her. is a collection of poetry and prose about women, their strengths and beauty. Every woman should know the feelings of being loved and radiating those feelings back to her mate. This is a beautiful expression of heartfelt emotion using short, gratifying sentiments.

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To The High School Senior, It's Not All About College Applications

Finish strong, be mindful of your needs, and live in peace.


I wish I could have said this all last year, that you will never have it as easy as you do right now. It's the end of the road for childhood and you're wondering what else do I do with my life now that I'm going to college? It's a mix of emotions and feelings that are hard to process. My goal is telling you this is the year to do everything fun and live like you haven't before. This doesn't mean skip school on the daily and get bad grades(it matters until the end because of college).

But above all else, don't let college applications define your year. People think applying to college is the story of what happens senior year(which is mostly true but I promise that is not the only thing that matters). There is so much more to life than college applications and laughing how everyone becomes depressed their last year from being around the same people. If I could tell myself last year, it would be this:

First, it would be to not argue with people at all. This last year is simply too scared to fight and argue with people over nothing. Do your best to be kind to everyone and not cause problems for other people. Everyone deserves to have a nice senior year.

Second, enjoy being able to live in your own room and not share with anyone else. Once you get to college there's going to be a lot of unnecessary noise that you sort of get used to living with.

Next, do not take an abundance of college classes. They're only going to help you but so much and you're not going to want to do the work anyway. Don't be one of those people who does this and doesn't feel the need to have a social life. It's no joke, recognize you're human and be mindful of your needs.

In addition, there is no such thing as a perfect school. Every school has its flaws and most of the time when people say yes, they're saying yes to the marketing campaign the school has. There is a large difference between the marketing campaign for the school and actually living there. It's always good to go to your top school and tour a second time so you know what definitely fits you.

Most importantly, do not be too consumed in your cell phone and pretend that you don't care about anything. That's like a lame childish response pretending you don't have feelings. And for those that still think this is the way to go, I can't wait until you take a sociology class and learn about how humans are dependent on one another.

Appreciate everything mom and dad have done for you. Do not fuss about what is put on the dinner table, and instead be grateful that they took their time to prepare a meal for YOU. Nothing compares to mom's home-cooked meals. Because that dining hall food can really mess you up.

You will be working the 9-5 all day every day. There will be more work, you will be stressed out about reading around 300 pages of material per week, and have the stress of having two tests as the only semester grades.

Lastly, you will actually have to adult for the first time ever in college and find what keeps you motivated. It's not a hand holding game with constant support. You have the opportunity to do a lot by yourself but also with others.

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Ladies, Saying You Hate Feminism Makes You Sound Ignorant

Saying "I hate feminism" is equivalent to saying "I hate having rights and being treated fairly."


In the last few years, being a "feminist" has become a bit of a trend. It is very common to see women protesting for fair pay, equal rights, and other issues that effect women. Even more recently, however, it has become a trend to not be a feminist, and some women have even gone as far as to say they hate feminism.

I could understand if they were saying "I hate modern feminism" or even "I hate the way being a feminist is portrayed," but saying you hate feminism is basically equivalent to saying you hate having rights. Early feminists fought for your right to vote. Feminism is what allows you to work jobs that are more traditionally masculine if you want.

Feminists fight for equal pay and fair working conditions between genders. Feminists have been fighting since basically forever for women to have the same basic human rights as men.

If it weren't for feminism, women would not have a voice. Period. There are no ifs, ands, or buts about it. Feminism isn't just about "freeing the nipple" and abortion rights (although those issues are important and should definitely be discussed too, regardless of which way you believe.) It's not "abolish dress codes altogether" it's "make dress codes just as strict on boys as girls and value our education as much as you value theirs."

Feminism, in its truest form, isn't "women are better than men," but "women are equal to men." We don't want more rights than men or to be allowed more freedoms than men are allowed, we simply want those same rights and freedoms to start with.

I beg you, before you say "I hate feminism," do some research and learn what true feminism actually is. Understand that you can be a conservative republican and still be a feminist. You can be religious and still support feminist ideals. Don't limit yourself to a stereotype, and don't let social media trick you into thinking that feminism is all about marching naked down the street.

Feminism is about supporting and empowering other women, and wanting them to be treated fairly. It's about women banding together and fighting for what is right, not just for ourselves, but for our fellow women. And that looks different to everyone. And maybe that's okay.

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