5 Lessons My Friends Relationships Taught Me

5 Lessons My Friends Relationships Taught Me

Here are the most important things I've learned from my friends relationships.

Ever since I can remember I have always been the friend that was single, while all my friends were in relationships. Although I was the one that wasn't in these relationships, I learned so much from the relationships my friends have been in. Here are some of the things I have learned from my friends' relationship.

1. Third Wheeling Sucks.

My friends always ask me to tag along with them and their boyfriends. It's annoying and I hate it so much, but I love my friends so I do it anyway. It doesn't matter how close you and your friend are, third wheeling with her and her boyfriend isn't fun in any circumstance.

2. Focus.

With my friends being in a relationship, I truly realized how much focus I have on myself; I sometimes think I'm conceited. One time, my friend was telling me about her dream and stopped herself, retold the story but this new story included less of her dreams and more of her boyfriend’s dreams. When I think about my dreams and what I want to do in life, it’s just me. My dreams include the things I want to achieve and aren’t compromised. My friend taught me that I don’t want to do anything at the moment, but focus on myself.

3. My Parents Rock.

Being in a serious relationship means that you have to meet the parents. I have heard nightmare stories about the parents my friends have had to meet and it just makes me love my parents that much more. My friend once told me that her boyfriend’s mother called her to go pick up his sister from school then take her home. My friend decided to take his sister for some frozen yogurt, and then was yelled at by his mother because it was inappropriate to have dessert before dinner. They had frozen yogurt at 3:30pm and they didn’t eat dinner until 6:30pm. When she told me this story I learned very quickly, that my parents are amazing.

4. Boys Are Literal.

I have learned from all of my friends relationships that boys are very simple creatures. With that being said, keep things simple. It amazes me how my friends will not talk to their boyfriends to show them their mad and it will take their boyfriends forever to realize that they are even mad. But the minute my friends tell their boyfriends “I’m mad” they are quickly trying to resolve any issue they created. Being upfront with guys instead of beating around the bush is always the way to go anytime a guy is involved. Trust me, I think that this is one of the most beneficial things I’ve learned from my friends relationships.

5. I’m Irreplaceable.

No matter how in love my friends are with their boyfriends I know they love me even more. Two of my friends have long distance relationships and don’t get to see their boyfriends often and when they do I always give them space, but the minute they say goodbye to their boyfriends they always come to see me or text me and tell me that they missed me, which means the world to me. Knowing that my friends are with the person they are absolutely head over heels for, but still value my friendship is the best feeling. At the end of the day, every girl needs her best friend, and I’m truly happy to be that friend.

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10 Things Someone Who Grew Up In A Private School Knows

The 10 things that every private school-goer knows all too well.


1. Uniforms

Plaid. The one thing that every private school-goer knows all too well. It was made into jumpers, skirts, shorts, scouts, hair ties, basically anything you could imagine, the school plaid was made into. You had many different options on what to wear on a normal day, but you always dreaded dress uniform day because of skirts and ballet flats. But it made waking up late for school a whole lot easier.

2. New people were a big deal

New people weren't a big thing. Maybe one or two a year to a grade, but after freshman year no one new really showed up, making the new kid a big deal.

3. You've been to school with most of your class since Kindergarten

Most of your graduating class has been together since Kindergarten, maybe even preschool, if your school has it. They've become part of your family, and you can honestly say you've grown up with your best friends.

4. You've had the same teachers over and over

Having the same teacher two or three years in a row isn't a real surprise. They know what you are capable of and push you to do your best.

5. Everyone knows everybody. Especially everyone's business.

Your graduating class doesn't exceed 150. You know everyone in your grade and most likely everyone in the high school. Because of this, gossip spreads like wildfire. So everyone knows what's going on 10 minutes after it happens.

6. Your hair color was a big deal

If it's not a natural hair color, then forget about it. No dyeing your hair hot pink or blue or you could expect a phone call to your parents saying you have to get rid of it ASAP.

7. Your school isn't like "Gossip Girl"

There is no eating off campus for lunch or casually using your cell phone in class. Teachers are more strict and you can't skip class or just walk right off of campus.

8. Sports are a big deal

Your school is the best of the best at most sports. The teams normally go to the state championships. The rest of the school that doesn't play sports attends the games to cheer on the teams.

9. Boys had to be clean-shaven, and hair had to be cut

If you came to school and your hair was not cut or your beard was not shaved, you were written up and made to go in the bathroom and shave or have the head of discipline cut your hair. Basically, if you know you're getting written up for hair, it's best just to check out and go get a hair cut.

10. Free dress days were like a fashion show

Wearing a school uniform every day can really drive you mad. That free dress day once a month is what you lived for. It was basically a fashion show for everyone, except for those upperclassmen who were over everything and just wore sweat pants.

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Excellent Advice From Unexpected Places

Who thought aliens from a silly space app could give good advice. Welcome to Walkr.


GI recently got a pedometer app (a step tracker) called Walkr: Fitness Space Adventure. Along with tracking your steps, it unlocks planets that have little alien inhabitants. These creatures send you messages occasionally, some silly, some helpful, and everything in between. I thought I would share with you my favorites thus far. Here are my top 15 inspirational messages from aliens:

1. When you are doubting yourself...

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Zombies love you for who you are, no matter what.

2. Take care of those you love...

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No one deserves to be sad. Especially the moon who is the light of your night.

3. I love eating...

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Envy is a deadly sin, but ice cream is not. Snowmen know sometimes you need a snack.

4. There are no shortcuts in life...

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Shortcuts in life leave you shorthanded and unprepared. Be the diamond in the rough, or the pearl.

5. Eat your vegetables...

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Take care of your body and it will take care of you. And avoid space pirates.

6. Take time to take care of yourself...

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Little things for self care can make a big difference. Musical Andrew reminds you to eat and drink lots of water.

7. Walk a mile in someone else's shoes...

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Walking help you clear your head, and gives you a reason to get out of the house if you don't have a dog that wants to go to the park.

8. Where words fail, music speaks...

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Bon Jovi probably liked space. Express yourself with music, or tune out the world to take care of yourself.

9. Don't trust strangers...

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Don't take food from strangers unless it's Halloween. And don't follow them into the woods, even if they are trees.

10. School is a necessary evil...

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School may seem like torture now, but you'll be grateful you did it when you are older, even if you want to set your work on fire right now.

11. Never stop believing...

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Keep hope and imagination in your heart and you will feel young forever.

12. Sometimes it's about the journey, not the destination...

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It's not always about progress, but about the process, even if the idea of success tastes sweet.

13. Success is relative to each of us...

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Your idea of being courageous may not be the same as someone else's, but that doesn't make their any less valid a success.

14. Don't let others hold you back...

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We all want to escape to a different continent, or even a different planet sometimes. Take a moment and breathe. You've got this.

15. Don't judge a book by it's cover...

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Some people that look odd on the outside may be diamonds in the rough. But don't forget also that some people who look harmless can secretly bite.

Some of this advice may seem silly, but rooted deep in it can be found inspirational advice. You may not see it now, but when you need to hear it, that advice becomes very clear. Who knew that a ball of ghost fire or a sugar cube could give such good advice? I hope at least one of these little aliens gave you some useful inspiration today.

For other enjoyable apps to stay healthy, including Walkr, see this article.

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