With dating, there are always certain things that hinder us from furthering a possible relationship. Sometimes it's hard to understand why us girls have these things in our heads. Not feeling liked enough or not being able to step out of our comfort zone and being ourselves is something I personally find hard. These things can hinder us from having so much more than we what we see, but at the same time understanding that God has that perfect man out there for us and we just have to wait patiently for him is another hard part. Here are five dating worries every girl has.
1. That the other person doesn’t like you as much as you like them.
Sometimes we fall for guys immediately, without even thinking about who he really is or knowing him. Getting to know the guy before moving things forward is the key. I know for us girls it is definitely hard to determine how the guy feels, but that is when you have to feel comfortable and ask those important questions. I know from personal experience that asking those questions can be hard, but knowing the true answer can help with decisions in the future. Us girls fall for guys easier than they fall for us...being able to possibly hold back and move slowly could help with that. Watching how we talk to them and interact with guys can also make a difference in how hard we fall for a guy.
2. Rushing things isn’t good.
Don't rush things. Sometimes you can get caught in the moment and then rush things. NO BUENO. I know we want things to happen in a certain way, but that's not how it works. It's all in God's plan and all a matter of His timing, no matter how hard we try. Forcing and rushing things are, like, the same things; we want to feel wanted and liked/loved by the guy without forcing anything on him. Rushing things can force guys to be turned off from continuing things with you. As hard as rushing and/or forcing things are in a relationship, we just need to let things fall into place.
3. Not stepping out of your comfort zone.
Your comfort zone is something that you set for yourself. Knowing me, it takes a while to get out of my comfort zone, but when I get out, I stay out. Being able to realize you can be yourself and feel comfortable is awesome. Finding that guy you can open up to and be comfortable with means everything. I have had guys in my past that I could open up to immediately but was it the right relationship or right way of doing it? No. Being able to step out and do things you might not possibly do for dates, such as riding a scary roller coaster or doing something you would never do. Being able to do those sort of things with someone special also can prove to yourself how important that guy is to you and your life.
4. Knowing your standards and standing strong to them.
Setting yourself standards before getting into a relationship with a guy is important in the process of possibly dating him. I don't date just to date; I date guys to possibly marry them. I know that some people don't set those standards for themselves, they date to date but where is that getting you? Nowhere. Having the intentions on moving forward WHEN THE TIME IS RIGHT with the guy will help you build a forever relationship with the guy you could possibly love in the future. Having friends to keep you accountable to those standards helps especially when you get into situations where your standards might be stretched. When you set those standards for yourself, you are holding out for your future husband and showing him the love he deserves. Everyone is tempted with their standards but trusting in God helps with that too.
5. Just be yourself!
Be your true self when you are interested in a guy. Don't put up a front, be shy, or lie about who you are. BE YOURSELF!! Show the guy what an amazing Christian woman of God you are and show them how much love you have to offer, that amazing Christian will just show up in your life. I know, like I talked about earlier, that those standards you set, stepping out of your comfort zone and not rushing things, is something that everyone goes through in a relationship. Trusting in God with your cares and worries about dating and your future relationships and husband is the key to a Christian forever relationship. Being yourself around his friends and your friends can make or break your relationship. My parents were my role models when it came to interacting in public especially with a guy. My parents raised me to be a Christian woman with the right mindset in order to find my future Christian husband.
Don't give up on yourself when looking for your future husband. I know that sometimes it is hard to understand that God has a perfect plan for our lives in this area. Trusting in God and having faith to receive that God is sending him in the proper time into your life.
