No matter where you go in life, high school, work, even college, there is always drama. In my opinion, the drama is worse today because of social media and technology. Not everyone is meant to get along, we're all human. I would imagine that is why people don't always get along, and arguments occur. Everyone disagrees at times, but the biggest problem today would be the bullying and arguing over the internet. People use social media as a sheet to hide behind, and it's a really bad problem in today's society. Though most situations are different and have different intensity, internet bullying is a hard subject because there is a screen between the bully and the victim. It's hard to pinpoint exactly who the bully is at times, and even if you know the account bullying you, it's still unknown if there is another person using someone else's account to bully.
Speaking from experience, it's hard to not let bullies get under your skin. It takes a lot of time to eventually just not give a crap what the bully has to say. At the end of the day, the lies, words and hurtful comments aren't going to really matter. 10 years from now, that bully isn't going to be any further in life because of their bullying. All that matters is that you know the real truth, and your real worth. Here are three steps and some things to think about if you find yourself in a situation where you're being bullied via the internet.
1. Take a step back
I know it's not easy, wanting to jump on the person and defend yourself, but for the most part, people who are bullying or saying horrible things on the internet are bored with their own life; they're picking a fight with you behind a screen. Though it's really hard to just watch as someone makes up lies about you and says awful things about you on social media, it doesn't actually matter. Those who feed into the awful things being said and believe the lies, aren't your true friends anyway, so why should it matter what they think? Next time you are being bullied via social media, before you get upset and reply, just take a step back and ignore it, it will pay off in the end I promise.
2. Don't say anything
Some people wouldn't agree with this, but I feel as if it helps. See, some people feed off of your anger. They call you a name, you call them one back and the stupid fighting cycle continues. If someone is bullying you online, again, just ignore them. Don't say ANYTHING about it. Don't sub-tweet, don't post vague statuses on Facebook, or send interesting text messages about it. Let it go. I PROMISE (and I speak from experience) that ignoring it takes a lot of effort, time and a very strong backbone, but it also helps in the long run. By not saying anything, you don't give the bully anything to complain about. Think about it. They're going to keep calling you a bad name and you don't reply, they can't blame you for anything. They're basically just calling you names for no reason at this point. Don't give them anything to show them their stupid words are affecting you, it's just making them happy watching you get upset. At some point, everyone will eventually notice they're a bully, you did nothing wrong, and anyone who doesn't notice isn't important enough to matter.
3. Live your life
If someone is bullying you on social media and other various ways that include hiding behind a phone screen, relax. I promise ignoring it and taking a step back are the hardest things to do. Watching someone say awful, untrue things about you on social media is upsetting, and makes life a bit harder. But just remember you're bigger then the bully. You're willing to look past their awful harsh words and antics. You're willing to ignore every horrible word the bully is saying, because at the end of the day, it really doesn't matter. The bully is a coward who hides behind a computer screen. You're better then that. You're out living your life, while the bully is sitting at home, behind a computer, posting awful untrue things. You can't let someone like that bother you.
