Grey's Anatomy introduced the concept of having a "person" with the unstoppable best friend duo Meredith Grey and Christina Yang. They're a wonderful example of what best friends should be for each other, and here are some signs you've found your very own person.
Whenever you hear about roommate stories, they're almost never good, and they usually scare you into never wanting a roommate. "Did you hear her roommate steals her clothes?" "Her roommate doesn't shower!" "Wow, her roommate doesn't talk at all, and doesn't do laundry." From what I hear, there are more bad stories than good. That is why I consider myself lucky, because my roommate is nothing like one of those bad stories. When life hands you a good roommate after talking to about 40 girls through Facebook, a few things happen.
1. You always have someone to talk to.
2. You know each other's schedules, and whenever you both have a break is an exciting time.
3. You'll never have to dance alone.
4. You always have someone to do something with, even if it's just walking down the hall.
5. You both look out for each other, because this is your first time without your parents.
6. You always have a shoulder to lean on when things get tough.
7. Borrowing each other's things is a daily thing.
8. You TRY to help with each other's homework and assignments.
9. They're encouraging when it comes to boys. (Unless they're a f*ckboy.)
10. They're your biggest support system and your personal cheerleader.
11. They never forget to wish you luck on a big exam.
12. They accept how gross you are in the morning and not so pleasant sometimes.
13. You both know each other's favorite and least favorite things.
14. Leaving each other notes saying goodbye before class if you don't see them is normal.
15. Saying goodbye for breaks is upsetting.
16. Not seeing them all day is upsetting.
17. You have more pictures together than any of your other friends.
18. You found a best friend for life.
Warning: Do not read if you are easily offended by slight criticism on Social Greek Life.
Upon meeting a new person at school, the conversation-starter-questions go as followed and without fail: "What's your name? What year are you? What house are you in?"
As a non-Greek life affiliated girl, this quick assumption that I have to be in a sorority is, frankly, annoying. The assumptions made about you when you reveal that you don't pay absurd amounts of money to meet others and have scheduled parties figured out for you are even more bothersome.
I am automatically viewed a certain way. When I tell girls I am unassociated with Greek life, a look of pity takes over their face.
A short and shocking statement: Not everyone wants to rush your, or any, sorority! I could if I wanted to, but I simply do not. The notion that my college experience is immediately less fun or valuable is a crude assumption.
I understand the fact that everyone feels a need to find "their people." If your way is paying thousands of dollars and becoming "sisters" with the girls that treated you less than human during your pledge process, by all means, have at it! That being said, do not judge or automatically make assumptions about me because I chose to find my people and passions in a different way.
There is a certain exclusivity many members of Greek life possess. For those uninvolved, it can be isolating. You see your friends go off to planned parties with others that were hand-picked by the members the year above them. They are handed a group of girls and immediately have this set of "sisters" they flock to.
That being said, I'm sure sororities do have their pros. That doesn't mean everyone wants to join one. That doesn't mean I am any less of a Syracuse University student because I am not involved. In my opinion, your identity should not be synonymous with a "house."
Girls: you are more than those letters.
Boys: you are more than the greatness of the parties you throw on Friday nights.
Do not make anyone feel less because they don't feel the desire to give a part of their life to a sorority or fraternity.