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This morning, I did the same thing I do every single morning when I wake up. Before my feet hit the floor, I say a prayer. I thank God for waking me up, blessing me with such a good life, and pray for any specific thing that is laying on my heart. Lately, I have been praying a lot for the same person many people in my community have been praying for- Matt McGregor. I have prayed for healing, comfort, strength, and many other things to happen in Matt's journey, but I also prayed that God's will be done in his life above all else. Little did I know yet that His will had been done.
I remember Matt from school. Every time I saw him, everyone around him was laughing. And I am not exaggerating. He was one of those special people who can literally make anyone and everyone laugh no matter the situation. He was one of those people that the world needs around to make life more bearable and just down right better.
Death sucks. Cancer sucks. Yes, I am glad that Matt is no longer suffering, but that does not really give me a sense of relief because I know his family and friends are suffering. I think about Matt's sisters, and cannot fathom the pain that they're feeling. I could not imagine life without my brothers, my kids not getting to grow up and hang out with their cool uncles, and telling on each other to our parents when we all come home for Christmas when we're 40. I think about his parents, who are having to do the hardest thing anyone could have to do, say goodbye to their son. I think about his friends, who's lives will never be the same every time they do something that reminds them that he's no longer here to share life with. He was too young, too full of life. The worst death are the ones that can't be explained, and this one of them.
That's the thing about life, you never know when it's going to end and that is what makes it so fragile. Someone you know passes away, and you suddenly start to contemplate whether you are living your life "good" enough. You wish you'd spent more time with the one who passed, hold on a little tighter to the ones who are still here, and make sure you remind them you love them. But to show someone you love them is much more powerful than telling them, and that is exactly how Matt lived his life. His life light was beaming all the time and he was constantly sharing that with everyone around him. That is part of why he was so special.
When someone dies, they leave their own legacy that is different from every single other person on the planet. Your legacy depends on the amount of light that you have shed on others. Looking through Facebook today, it is so obvious that his light touched so many people. Matt's death has reminded me of those that I have and will continue to lose throughout life... there is no better way to say it than death sucks. But even though death sucks, it reminds us to live our life to the fullest, and continue the legacy of those we've lost.
On a side note, I found it interesting that Matt was barefoot all the time, so I googled being barefoot in biblical times. Moses and Joshua was commanded to take off his shoes as he was standing on holy ground, and poor people did not have shoes so they went barefoot. But this is my favorite: priests in Israel went barefoot while ministering. They would take their shoes off before blessing their people. It is evident that Matt blessed so many people's lives in his short time on this Earth. Coincidence that he was known for always being barefoot? I think not.
Let your life light shine brightly like Matt's, and always live life to the fullest.
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In loving memory of Matt McGregor Jr.
Then I heard a voice from heaven say, "Write this: Blessed are the dead who die in the Lord from now on." "Yes," says the Spirit, "they will rest from their labor, for their deeds will follow them." Revelation 14:13
Let's be real; College is scary as heck. I remember applying to ten different schools and freaking out about how to decide where to go and what to think. As someone who transferred due to picking the wrong school to begin with, trust me when I say picking a college is HARD. So, when I transferred, I came up with some criteria to help me pick the PERFECT place for me (bear down!!). Please enjoy:
1. Do they have everything I could want to study?
This seemed a little tedious when I was first applying. I thought I was dead set on doing political science. But, I changed my mind four times in just my first semester of college. Unfortunately, I was at a school with seven majors total at the time. I did not have the room to change my mind. When I transferred, I had all the extra room I could possibly want to change from political science to chemical engineering to philosophy to my major now PPEL (politics, philosophy, economics, and law). The benefit of having this extra room to change your mind is so extremely important.
2. Be Goldie Locks: Make sure the size is JUST RIGHT.
The first college I went to had 62 undergraduates. I cannot stress enough how important it is to make sure the size is perfect for you. Sometimes a little too big is better than too small though. Weigh out the benefits of a big school versus a smaller school and use personal experience to figure out what you would prefer.
3. Study Abroad!
If study abroad is something you're passionate about, make sure it's offered! I know that sounds kind of weird but my first college didn't even offer study abroad. If this is an option you could want but don't even necessarily need make sure it's offered. It's always better to leave the door open.
4. Make sure there's a community that fits your needs.
For me, it was a Hillel or Chabad. For you, it could be a different religious organization, it could be a club that falls into your political belief, an honors society, greek life, whatever you want. It's always up to your own personal preferences. The more you research about the social aspect of the school, the more options you know you have to choose from.
Honestly, the best advice I can give to anyone looking for their perfect college is to VISIT! If a college looks great on paper but you get there and get the weirdest vibes or you get there and can't see yourself graduating, it's time to keep looking. College is at least four years of your life and it can be four AMAZING years. The work it takes to find your place is worth it. I didn't do enough research about where I was and I ended up not enjoying my first semester because I was not in the right environment. Do the research and remember, the more that's offered the more opportunities you will have and the more you can experience in college.