The 12 Days Of 'Stressmas' As Told By The Stressed Out College Student

The 12 Days Of 'Stressmas' As Told By The Stressed Out College Student

The 12 days of Christmas are no longer.


You may have heard of the 12 days of Christmas, but today we're going to talk about the 12 stresses of "Stressmas".

What is "Stressmas" you may ask?

Stressmas is the time period beginning the day after Thanksgiving right up until Christmas. As the end of the semester comes to an end, Stressmas begins and amplifies college students' stress levels. This is the time when all last minute assignments and projects are due along with finding enough time to let yourself breath before you go insane.

If you're dealing with stress this Stressmas then take a moment to sit back, relax, grab your hot cocoa or pumpkin spice latte because at this point in the semester, you're going to need it.

 1. Having to go back home

You'd think that most college students would love the idea of going back home for the holidays. However, I know quite a few college students who enjoy being away from home that much that they'd rather not go home at all. Going back home can cause you to stress about losing that sense of freedom you have while away at school. And did I mention how much packing you have to do to prepare for the long trip home?

2. Dealing with "that" family member

Going back home can be even worse when you have to deal with that one problematic family member. You know the one that I'm talking about. Every family has one. Although having to deal with them might make you regret coming back home, it's up to you to be the bigger person and put on a smile. Who doesn't love some family drama, am I right?

3. Buying gifts on a tight ass budget

If there is one thing college students are always stressing about, it's money. Since this time of year makes everyone broke, college students are going to stress even more about having to buy gifts for their families and friends. Making minimum wage isn't enough when you want to please everyone. Thank God, for dollar store holiday cards.

4. One word, six letters: finals

F is for Feeling 100% done. I is for I want to drop out. N is for no way am I going to pass this. A is for are we really still having finals? L is for Look, I just want to graduate. S is for Stop - just make it stop.

5. Grades

With the glory of finals, comes the glory of finding out your final grades after a stressful semester. As if we don't have a million other things to worry about this time year, why not add the anticipation of wondering what grades we got?

6. Not being able to buy EVERYONE a gift

As I said, ya girl and millions of other college students are on a strict budget. Because we make minimum wage or close to that, there's a sad reality that not everyone is going to make your Christmas list this year. But, that's okay! That's where your creativity comes into play. By making gifts from scratch, yes people will know how broke you are, but it's the thought that counts, right?

7. Realizing you're getting older

Christmastime as an adult is so depressingly different than Christmastime as a kid. Growing up, Christmas was the one holiday I'd be the most excited for. From putting up decorations to spending time with family, there wasn't anything I loved more. As I've gotten older, that Christmas "feeling" has changed so much to where Christmas doesn't even feel like Christmas anymore.

8. Not being in the holiday spirit

Because we are getting older, that might mean the holidays just aren't as exciting as they used to be. But, who's to say that we can't create a new meaning of excitement for Christmas as adults? Don't be a Grinch.

9. Going back to your old job back home.

Having to work around the holidays can be quite stressful. If you're going back to work over winter break, then you know how difficult it may be to manage time to see everyone you'd like to see. Christmas doesn't feel as special when you have to work.

10. Spending your holidays with your significant other's family for the first time.

Spending the holidays with your significant other is a big step in a relationship. Being brought into their family and their traditions makes your relationship seem that much more serious. If you're spending the holidays for the first time with your significant other and it's on your Stressmas list, it's going to be okay. Just be the amazing person you are and prove to them how great you are with your significant other. It's all about making a good first impression.

11. Getting everything done in time.

While having to study for finals, travel, shop, and spend time with your family, you feel as though you don't have any time for anything. Trying to get everything done in time can make you feel like you're about to have a mental breakdown, but taking it one step at a time can ease that stress.

12. Being away from your best friends at school.

If there is one thing I miss when I go back home for winter break, it's the time I get to spend with my friends back at school. These are the people you see almost everyday that have become like a family to you in a way. That's why God created FaceTime.

Even though Stressmas sucks, when it's all done and over with, all of that stress was worth it.

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Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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The Cliche 'Follow Your Heart' Is Probably The Most Important Cliche Of All Time

Our heart or our brain? What should we listen to first?


In life, we are constantly faced with tough decisions concerning relationships, college, career, marriage … the list of decisions we must make in a lifetime is endless. This means, however, that there are plenty of moments in our life where we will put into question our very own intuition, where we will waste time going back and forth between our mind and our soul. So then we ask ourselves when faced with a decision, what do we listen to? What should we listen to? Our brain or our heart?

Yeah, okay so following your heart is probably the most cliche thing you've ever heard. Our younger selves constantly heard the saying all the time growing up. Did we act on it? Maybe, but not in the ways that we should be acting on it now. Give it a chance and just think about it for a second.

I've realized that as you get older, it becomes harder to just listen to yourself. There are distractions all around you. Some come from the comments of your peers, some come from the devices in your hands, some come from the news headlines you see in bold. With this, you find yourself struggling to find a balance between thinking about something and just doing it. You find yourself unable to decipher what exactly you should listen to. You suddenly become lost within your own little world.

Who would you be if you didn't follow your heart? Would your life be completely different than it is now?

If we think about how we got to the place we're at today, we simultaneously also think about those decisions I mentioned earlier. And those decisions were probably mostly made from our own intuition, not from logistical thinking. The sad part is we don't even realize this, and we don't even realize how important this is.

How did you choose a college? Deciding where you're going to spend the next four years of your life, working towards a career is a big deal. Some will describe their decision as a feeling they got when they stepped on campus. Yes, the tuition was a factor along with retention rates and undergraduate programs and study abroad opportunities, but the one factor that truly mattered was how they felt so at home, while in reality being so far away from their hometown. So, this decision was made from a feeling, this decision was made from the heart.

Relationships. When deciding to tell someone you love them, you're following your heart. When deciding to commit to someone in a relationship or in a friendship or whatever it may be, you're following your heart. You're putting everything on the line because of how you feel. Nothing else matters. Just the two of you, together, happy and in love. And because of that, because of the magnitude of that one feeling, you listen to your heart first and figure out everything else later. Now, being able to have that, being able to experience this type of love, well that's just one of the best feelings in the world.

We can even consider a career. When trying to figure out what you want to do with the rest of your life, you are looking for that feeling, for that career to find you. You are searching for that inevitable inclination telling you, you're meant to do something in this world. You dream big imagining yourself doing this one job that you feel so passionately about, changing the world and inspiring others to do the same. You are motivated by this one field so much that you decide to do it for the rest of your life. If that's not following your heart, then I don't know what is.

It seems so obvious. We hear "follow your heart" all the time. But do we ever actually realize how much impact a heart can have on one's life? No. And that's why it's maybe not so obvious. Because we're told to follow our hearts, but we never actually take the time to comprehend it. And so, we live our lives letting this concept of intuition before cognition become underrated. We let it secretly impact some of our most important life decisions without even ever realizing it.

So realize it. From now on don't just listen. Act. Follow your heart as much as you can and never look back.

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