"What's it like being in love?" is technically the easier version to ask someone "what is love?". Some might say it is the feeling of telling someone how your day went and they would be smiling just by hearing your voice, others might say it's the feeling of belonging towards someone. The answers are endless and there is never a definite wrong answer.
Feelings can be mutual, feelings can be one-sided as well and feelings can involve more than one party as well at times.
The dreaded love triangle, something I personally do not want to be involved in. There are normally two cases of love triangles:
- Person A likes person B and person C likes person B as well (aka rivalry going on between A and C)
- Person A likes person B who likes C
I've personally been involved in the second scenario that was listed and it was not a pretty picture; I was person A.
Being person A in that scenario literally means I was the odd one out. I tried getting B's attention but he only had eyes on C. Sometimes the feelings that I had for him was so overwhelming that I would use whatever it takes to spend some time with B or even just try to get in the way of B and C.
C and I were good friends, and she was clueless about the feelings I had for B. Sometimes I would treat her badly because my jealousy took over at times.
Every moment I was fighting for B's attention, every moment I was losing myself cause all I could see was him. Friendships were severed because of him but I still gladly followed him everywhere.
Only to realize how he truly about me one day.
It wasn't a pretty ending but we are still friends and I managed to reconcile with the people who I have hurt along this wild journey. This experience made me realize how foolish I was to be blinded by him. Spoiler alert: B didn't get together with C as well.
So if you are or were in the same scenario as I was (scenario 2), take a step back to see the big picture. Is that person worth it for you to hurt others around you? Is that person worth you leaving everything behind so you could be with him/her?
Sometimes being the odd one out in a blessing in disguise, that you actually deserve better.
