Every generation has had its own version of dating. In recent years, dating has taken a turn for the worse. In fact, dating almost feels non-existent. That only applies if you define dating the way it should be defined: two people who spend time together and get to know each other.
Most recently, a terrible thing has been growing more and more popular: "Netflix and chill." WTH l is "Netflix and chill?" Some use this as a replacement for dating, of which this generation has forgotten the fundamentals.
Here are 10 things that have been lost with the “Netflix and chill” generation:
1. Communication
We don’t know how to communicate anymore. No one likes confrontation, but when you are at risk of losing something that is important to you, communication is key.
2. Dancing, NOT grinding
I know this one is silly, but seriously, the only time girls and guys really dance with each other is when they’re forced to at a school dance of some sort. Slow-dancing is romantic, guys.
3. Being asked on a date
There is really no such thing as dating anymore. And if for some odd reason you are asked on a date, it is the most awkward and nerve-racking thing ever. Nowadays, it's more common for you to just “hang out” whenever it is convenient, and then one day (if it all works out), you are magically a couple, all without a single date.
4. Being with each other without your phones being involved
This also applies to laptops and all other forms of communication. What is so difficult about disconnecting from the outside world for an hour and just being with each other? If you are with someone who spends all his or her time texting or browsing social media, it can get extremely frustrating, and you feel as if you are talking to yourself at times.
5. Getting dressed up for dates
If your dates are comprised of Netflix and chilling, odds are you aren’t dressing up beyond yoga pants and a hoodie. You shouldn’t HAVE to dress up for a date, but you should be excited and want to look nice. What ever happened to spending hours before a date going through all of your outfits?
6. Actually having a label
Well we’re kinda dating. We're together. We’re talking. We’re more than friends. Just label it. It isn’t that hard. You shouldn’t be afraid of labels; you should want them.
7. Kind gestures
Open the car door for her. Hold open the door for them instead of dropping it on them. Offer them your jacket if they are cold. I know this seems like it isn’t important, but sometimes the small things show your affection more than words ever will.
8. Really getting to know one another
Over time you of course will get to know one another. But there was a time when you spent time together, learning about each other, before dating. Nowadays, unless you play a sick game of 20 Questions, you most likely don’t take as much time as you should learning about each other.
9. Being spontaneous
There’s not much that is spontaneous about watching Netflix all the time. Take a random trip to the zoo. Go see the next movie playing. Take a random trip. Just go out and do something out of the ordinary together.
10. Waiting until the time is right
Everything is rushed for this generation. Everyone lives a fast-paced life. Sometimes couples don’t take the proper amount of time to get to know one another before dating. Sometimes they just go through the motions and don’t take the time and enjoy experiencing new things together and getting to know one another. Sex has even become something that is expected in a relationship and not as special as it should be. Wait for the right time. It will be worth it.
