Planning A Wedding Without Getting Married

It's A Little Girls Dream To Get Married And Now That I'm A Big Girl, I Admit I Have Wedding Fever

And I'm sure most of you have it too


So one of my best friends just got married and within the next year or so, majority of my friends will be getting married or engaged. I am still the single pringle who gets to be in all of them. I had such a wonderful time being a part of the wedding planning and the wedding itself and once we started decorating I began thinking about my own wedding. I am far from getting married, but I'm sure like most girls my age, I have a Pinterest board dedicated to "That Big Day." On this board, I have table arrangements and cute ways to decorate where I will get married.

It is a little girl's dream to get married and to have the most perfect wedding. Since I was little, I have been thinking about what I would want to have at my wedding and where I would want it. Flash forward many years and I still have the same ideas. I want to wear my mom's dress or have a boho dress. I want to get married in a church in the mountains. I think it's amusing that we have these ideas about our weddings when we're not even close to getting married. My favorite thing to do is to watch wedding videos and to get inspiration.

I dream about the day that I get married and I see it as one of the greatest accomplishments you have. I think that it's so cool when you get married because you get to have a day that it all about you and your significant other. I like to tell my friends who are in relationships or are engaged that I'm going to die alone, which is a silly thing for a twenty-year-old to say. I just asked my sister if she had planned out her wedding out and she said that she had majority of it planned out. I think it makes planning for your actual wedding easier once you already have ideas of what you want in your head.

I think it's so much fun to plan out something that you'll have one day. When you are pinning different things, you get to pretend like you're actually planning for a wedding. It is something that my friends and I can spend hours talking about, even though none of us are getting married. When you're getting married, there are a few things you have to pay the most attention to and some that aren't that important in the long fun. The first one is how the table decorations look or making everything look perfect. Life happens sometimes and you just have to roll with the punches.

The most important thing is that everything is there. You have to make sure that you have all the right flowers and clothes. When you are at your wedding and things start happening that probably shouldn't, like losing something, you have to remember what the day is really for. It's not for the pretty DIY things you made that don't want to stay together or the way people are sitting, it is about the love that you and the person you're marrying share.

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I Went To "The Bachelor" Auditions

And here's why you won’t be seeing me on TV.

It’s finally time to admit my guilty pleasure: I have always been a huge fan of The Bachelor.

I can readily admit that I’ve been a part of Bachelor fantasy leagues, watch parties, solo watching — you name it, I’ve gone the whole nine yards. While I will admit that the show can be incredibly trashy at times, something about it makes me want to watch it that much more. So when I found out that The Bachelor was holding auditions in Houston, I had to investigate.

While I never had the intention of actually auditioning, there was no way I would miss an opportunity to spend some time people watching and check out the filming location of one of my favorite TV shows.

The casting location of The Bachelor, The Downtown Aquarium in Houston, was less than two blocks away from my office. I assumed that I would easily be able to spot the audition line, secretly hoping that the endless line of people would beg the question: what fish could draw THAT big of a crowd?

As I trekked around the tanks full of aquatic creatures in my bright pink dress and heels (feeling somewhat silly for being in such nice clothes in an aquarium and being really proud of myself for somewhat looking the part), I realized that these auditions would be a lot harder to find than I thought.

Finally, I followed the scent of hairspray leading me up the elevator to the third floor of the aquarium.

The doors slid open. I found myself at the end of a large line of 20-something-year-old men and women and I could feel all eyes on me, their next competitor. I watched as one woman pulled out her travel sized hair curler, someone practiced answering interview questions with a companion, and a man (who was definitely a little too old to be the next bachelor) trying out his own pick-up lines on some of the women standing next to him.

I walked to the end of the line (trying to maintain my nonchalant attitude — I don’t want to find love on a TV show). As I looked around, I realized that one woman had not taken her eyes off of me. She batted her fake eyelashes and looked at her friend, mumbling something about the *grumble mumble* “girl in the pink dress.”

I felt a wave of insecurity as I looked down at my body, immediately beginning to recognize the minor flaws in my appearance.

The string hanging off my dress, the bruise on my ankle, the smudge of mascara I was sure I had on the left corner of my eye. I could feel myself begin to sweat. These women were all so gorgeous. Everyone’s hair was perfectly in place, their eyeliner was done flawlessly, and most of them looked like they had just walked off the runway. Obviously, I stuck out like a sore thumb.

I walked over to the couches and sat down. For someone who for the most part spent most of the two hours each Monday night mocking the cast, I was shocked by how much pressure and tension I felt in the room.

A cop, stationed outside the audition room, looked over at me. After a brief explanation that I was just there to watch, he smiled and offered me a tour around the audition space. I watched the lines of beautiful people walk in and out of the space, realizing that each and every one of these contestants to-be was fixated on their own flaws rather than actually worrying about “love.”

Being with all these people, I can see why it’s so easy to get sucked into the fantasy. Reality TV sells because it’s different than real life. And really, what girl wouldn’t like a rose?

Why was I so intimidated by these people? Reality TV is actually the biggest oxymoron. In real life, one person doesn’t get to call all the shots. Every night isn’t going to be in a helicopter looking over the south of France. A real relationship depends on more than the first impression.

The best part of being in a relationship is the reality. The best part about yourself isn’t your high heels. It’s not the perfect dress or the great pick-up lines. It’s being with the person that you can be real with. While I will always be a fan of The Bachelor franchise, this was a nice dose of reality. I think I’ll stick to my cheap sushi dates and getting caught in the rain.

But for anyone who wants to be on The Bachelor, let me just tell you: Your mom was right. There really are a lot of fish in the sea. Or at least at the aquarium.

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11 Amazing TV Shows That Are Ending in 2019

All good things must come to an end.


It might just be the beginning of 2019 but there are many TV series wrapping up already. There are many breathtaking and original pilots around along with several reboots coming. This might be one of the greatest year for TV.

However, all good things must come to an end. Some series have been planned out and are going to be finished while others have been cut short. Sadly, here's a list of TV series to say goodbye to this year.

1. The Big Bang Theory (CBS)

Final Date: May

12 Seasons//279 episodes

2. Orange is the New Black (Netflix)

Final Date: End of 2019

7 seasons//91 episodes

3. Jane the Virgin (CW)

Final Date: Mid-late 2019

5 seasons//100 episodes

4. Games of Thrones (HBO)


Final Date: Summer

8 Seasons//73 episodes

5. Broad City (Comedy Central)

Comedy Central

Final Date: March

5 seasons//50 episodes



Final Date: Spring

7 seasons//67 episodes

7. Homeland (Showtime)


Final date: Summer

8 seasons//96 episodes

8. Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt (Netflix)

Final date: January 25

4 seasons//52 episodes

9. The Affair (Showtime)


Final Date: End of 2019

5 seasons//42 episodes

10. Friends From College (Netflix)

Final Date: End of 2019

2 seasons//16 episodes

11. Crashing (HBO)


Final Date: End of 2019

3 seasons//24 episodes

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