Pro-Life Or Pro-Choice, We Need To Talk About Abortion

Pro-Life Or Pro-Choice, We Need To Talk About Abortion

Whether you are pro-life or pro-choice, this is a discussion that we need to have.

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I am really upset.

I wasn't even planning on writing this article and it is very upsetting to me that I feel so inclined to do so when I could be writing about things that make me smile.

Before I say anymore, I want to preface this article by saying that I mean no offense to anyone or their beliefs and I am choosing my words very carefully. I feel that a lot of things that have been said about this topic have been completely inappropriate. Everyone, regardless of what they believe, is deserving of consideration and respect. It is my hope that this article can spark a productive and civil dialogue about the topic of abortion.

I would also like to say that I do not want anyone to think that I am trying to force any kind of agenda on them. These thoughts and ideas are my own and I am simply expressing them.

OK.

So, at this point, it is pretty much impossible to avoid this discussion. It is constantly popping up on my social media and in my day-to-day conversation. I think it is great that we are talking about this. The circumstances, however, are unfortunate.

I am pro-choice. I wholeheartedly believe that someone carrying a fetus should have the option to end a pregnancy if they feel it is the best decision for them.

But I also understand the thought process behind the pro-life side of the discussion.

I always try to see things from someone else's point of view. I think there is a lot that we can learn from one another if we enter a conversation with an open mind. If you are pro-life, if that is what you believe, then that's great. To me, this is not a question of whether pro-choice or pro-life is better. It's a question of whose rights are being compromised and for what?

It is so difficult for me to wrap my head around the fact that some people put so much emphasis on saving an unborn child while completely disregarding the hundreds of thousands of children who do not have homes worldwide. What about the children everywhere that are being marginalized because of their skin color or their sexual orientation or whatever it may be? What about all the children who are being mistreated or abused? What about them?

A lot of the time, I hear the argument that there are so many people who are unable to conceive and therefore think that abortion is wrong and selfish. With all due respect and sympathy for those who think this or have experienced this, if someone chooses to get an abortion, it in no way denies someone else's chance to be a parent.

It makes me so angry that in some places, abortion is a worse crime than rape. It makes me angry that the children and the people who may need an abortion are being overlooked and unheard. It makes me angry that people who will never have to make this kind of decision for themselves think they can speak over the voices of the people that this affects. It is wrong. It is unconstitutional. It is stripping away the unalienable rights of life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.

Abortion is not something that people do for fun. Having a child can be such a beautiful thing, but whether you support abortion or not, it needs to be an available, safe, and affordable option because as sad as it may be, having a child can also be a terribly devastating thing.

Pregnancy is an intrusive and sometimes dangerous state of being. In some cases, carrying the fetus may be life-threatening. The child may be the result of rape and it will constantly reflect that abuse. The parents may be unable to care for the child. Whatever it may be, it is not a decision to be made by politicians nor is it a decision that will be the same for everyone.

If you don't support abortion, that is completely fine. It becomes not fine when that belief is forced upon others. Everyone has their reasons for doing what they do. If an autonomous person chooses to engage in their own self-regarding actions, then we ought to let them do so.

Thank you for reading.

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PSA: Keep Your Body-Negative Opinions Away From Little Girls This Summer

But our own baggage shouldn't be shoved on to those we surround ourselves with.

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It's officially swimsuit season, y'all.

The temperature is rising, the sun is bright and shining, and a trip to the beach couldn't look more appealing than it does right now. This is the time of year that many of us have been rather impatiently waiting for. It's also the time of year that a lot of us feel our most self-conscious.

I could take the time to remind you that every body is a bikini body. I could type out how everyone is stunning in their own unique way and that no one should feel the need to conform to a certain standard of beauty to feel beautiful, male or female. I could sit here and tell you that the measurement of your waistline is not a reflection of your worth. I completely believe every single one of these things.

Hell, I've shared these exact thoughts more times than I can count. This time around, however, I'm not going to say all these things. Instead, I'm begging you to push your insecurities to the side and fake some confidence in yourself when you're in front of others.

Why?

Because our negative self-image is toxic and contagious and we're spreading this negative thinking on to others.

We're all guilty of this, we're with family or a friend and we make a nasty comment about some aspect of our appearance, not even giving a single thought to the impact our words have on the person with us. You might think that it shouldn't bother them- after all, we're not saying anything bad about them! We're just expressing our feelings about something we dislike about ourselves. While I agree that having conversations about our insecurities and feelings are important for our mental and emotional health, there is a proper and improper way of doing it. An open conversation can leave room for growth, acceptance, understanding, and healing. Making a rude or disheartening remark about yourself is destructive not only to yourself, but it will make the person you are saying these things around question their own self worth or body image by comparing themselves to you.

My little sister thinks she's "fat." She doesn't like how she looks. To use her own words, she thinks she's "too chubby" and that she "looks bad in everything."

She's 12 years old.

Do you want to know why she has this mindset? As her older sister, I failed in leading her by example. There were plenty of times when I was slightly younger, less sure of myself, and far more self-conscious than I am now, that I would look in the mirror and say that I looked too chubby, that my body didn't look good enough, that I wished I could change the size of my legs or stomach.

My little sister had to see the older sibling she looks up to, the big sis she thinks always looks beautiful, say awful and untrue things about herself because her own sense of body image was warped by media, puberty, and comparing herself to others.

My negativity rubbed off onto her and shaped how she looks at herself. I can just imagine her watching me fret over how I look thinking, "If she thinks she's too big, what does that make me?"

It makes me feel sick.

All of us are dealing with our own insecurities. It takes some of us longer than others to view ourselves in a positive, loving light. We're all working on ourselves every day, whether it be mentally, physically, or emotionally. But our own baggage shouldn't be shoved on to those we surround ourselves with, our struggles and insecurities should not form into their own burdens.

Work on yourself in private. Speak kindly of yourself in front of others. Let your positivity, real or not, spread to others instead of the bad feelings we have a bad habit of letting loose.

The little girls of the world don't need your or my negative self-image this summer. Another kid doesn't need to feel worthless because we couldn't be a little more loving to ourselves and a lot more conscious of what we say out loud.

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I Want To Be Embraced, But Touch Triggers Me

A poem about touch.

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I want to be embraced, but touch triggers me,

Because with touch comes vulnerability.

Touch has the power to lift you yet can destroy you if it's unwanted.

We touch to feel, but the longingness to feel something—a body that isn't yours--takes the good feeling away.

It breaks you.

Over and over again you try to train your mind to tell itself that every touch is not bad; every touch won't leave you crying on the bathroom floor asking why this happened to you.

Every touch won't deprive you of your appetite.

Every touch won't leave you numb like you are when you're reminded of the person who took it all away from you.

Every touch is not meant to harm you the way their touch did.

Every touch isn't meant to break you.


I want to be embraced, because it can make me feel safe

It tells me that I am understood—

Not a body for someone to conquer, but one to nurture.

To be embraced is to be loved—by someone, by something.

But when being embraced turns so quickly into being touched, the safety net disappears.


I want to find refuge in your touch, but touch triggers me.

Because with touch came the conquering of my body

With touch, I was left to pick up the pieces of myself, alone.

With touch, I lost sight of my own.


I want to be embraced, but touch triggers me.

Because I'm reminded of the unwanted ones.

I want to be embraced and touched by you, but it's hard to differentiate between the two

The good from bad- the nurturing from the conquering.

They say boys will be boys, but the parents who taught their boys to be boys, turned into men who left unhealed wounds

Touch triggers me, but I don't want it to.

I want to be loved by you.

My mind says to let go and let you.

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