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The Truth No One Tells You About Losing Someone You Love

Things do not get easier, you just learn to cope with the pain you feel every day, but do not let it hold you back either.

Lexi Link

Jul 15, 2018

The University of Alabama

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The Truth No One Tells You About Losing Someone You Love

Lexi Link

If you have ever lost someone you love let me start by saying, I am sorry for your loss. I know it is hard and I wish I could say it gets easier but sometimes it does not. That is the thing no one tells you, everyone tells you things get better or easier, and they will eventually but only because you will learn to cope with the pain you feel every day.

You will still wake up some days feeling empty, like a part of you is missing, because it is. That feeling does not ever go away, some days it will be worse than others. Some days you will be overwhelmed with sadness and will not want to get out of bed, others you will not feel as sad and you might even enjoy what you are doing but sometimes it will not last long, because you will want them to be there experiencing it with you.

The pain never really stops, it never really goes away, you just learn to live with the pain and the sadness. Then there will be days you will feel guilty because you think for a few quick moments you have forgotten about them and you feel like you should not have. But the truth is, you did not forget about them, they are still a part of you and your life, you just learned to embrace life the way they would want you to instead of being sad and bitter for the lives lost.

The truth is, it never does get easier.

It still hurts, you still miss them, you will still cry some days, especially on their birthday or anniversary, you will still be mad at God or the world for taking someone you care about. You might even be mad at the person you love for leaving you and that is OK. It is OK to be angry, sad, frustrated, guilty, or whatever it is you may be feeling. You are grieving and everyone expects you to get over it, but it is OK if it takes time for you to learn to adjust and deal with your new life without the person you love.

It is OK to be sad and feel guilty at times, it happens to everyone, but do not stop living your life either. I know it is hard and it feels impossible to keep moving forward but in my experience, the people I have lost are the ones who loved life, who loved adventure, they were kind and selfless, and they would not want someone to stop living their own life because of them. So yes, be sad sometimes and get upset, but do not stop living, instead of living a life they would be proud of, live a life modeled after them, a life like theirs and spread the love they gave you to everyone else, help other's see them in you.

Things may not get better overnight and you will never stop missing them but instead of being upset about what you lost, celebrate the life and love you still have.

Things will not get easier but do not stop living the life you do have, because you will see them again one day.

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5 Ways To Bring Positivity Into Your Life When All You Want To Do Is Drown In Self-Pity

It seems like life has been serving up more bad than good and in all honesty, the only thing you want to do is crawl under your covers and hide from the rest of the world.

Grand Canyon University

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5 Ways To Bring Positivity Into Your Life When All You Want To Do Is Drown In Self-Pity

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The first two weeks of classes have come to an end and they have been anything BUT easy. It seems like life has been serving up more bad than good and in all honesty, the only thing you want to do is crawl under your covers and hide from the rest of the world.

Although this seems like the best solution, it is also the easy way out. Take it from the girl who took basically a whole week off from her life because she just could not handle everything that was being thrown at her. This caused her to feel extremely lonely and even more stressed out for being behind in classes that JUST began.

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Entertainment

11 Things We Learned From Brooke Davis

"What's more important? What we become or how we become it?"

St. Thomas Aquinas College

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"She was fiercely independent, Brooke Davis. Brilliant, and beautiful, and brave. In two years she had grown more than anyone I had ever known. Brooke Davis is going to change the world someday, and I'm not sure she even knows it." - Lucas Scott, An Unkindness of Ravens

Brooke Davis of the hit show One Tree Hill was the it girl - she had it all, or so we thought. She started out as a stuck-up, shallow, spoiled, head cheerleader who didn't have her life together. She slept around a lot and loved to party - sounds like your typical high school teenager right? Wrong. B. Davis had so much more to offer. Caring, loyal, and outspoken, she has taught us some valuable lessons throughout the 9 seasons that OTH was on the air:

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Relationships

11 Signs You Have An Honorary Roommate

Make yourself at home, why don't you?

Appalachian State University

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Rachel Zadeits

For some of us, coming to college was the first time we ever had to share a room. It was a big change, but a fun one. As you meet more and more people over the course of your college career, it seems to be a pattern that you will at some point have that one friend that doesn't live with you, but acts like they do. We call those people, "Honorary Roommates" and here are 11 signs you have one in your life.