It's me, Kailee, and I'm a freshman in college. Guess what! I don't have a boyfriend.

But that's completely okay.

Would I like to have a special someone? Of course. Is it bad that I want a boyfriend? No. Do you know why it's not a bad thing to want that? I'm going to tell you.

For a long time, I kind of believed that it wasn't good to want a boyfriend; that it meant that I wasn't relying on the Lord for my happiness or confidence.

But that's not true at all. The Lord created us for relationships. He created us to have a relationship with him and other people.

Your singleness is a gift. Paul talks about it in 1 Corinthians.

"Now as a concession, not a command, I say to this. I wish that all were as I myself am. But each has his own gift from God, one of one kind and one of another. To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single, as I am." 1 Corinthians 7:6-8

Paul was single, and we can see that he considered it a gift. If you are single, the Lord is calling you to that, so don't worry about it. Remain single until God gives you what He has planned for you. Remember, it's His timing, not yours.

The Lord knows what's best for you, even when you can't see it at the moment. You are in the perfect spot for his plan.

Through the heartache, the tears, the laughter, or the smiles, the Lord knows what He's doing. He is working in you so that you can look back and see Him in it all.

In 2 Corinthians 4:17-18, it says, "For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal."

So that's what we do. We look to Jesus. We pray in the "waiting."

It's not all about your singleness. There is always a bigger picture; something we can't see and probably don't understand.

Remember that you're single because that's where He wants you.

It's not because you're not good enough, not pretty enough, not smart enough, or any other reason you can think of that would make you not enough. You are enough, enough of everything. There's nothing wrong with you.

Just because the girl or guy you like, doesn't like you back doesn't mean that something is wrong with you. That person just isn't the one for you.

So keep that in mind. The "one" will come if that's what the Lord has planned for your life. And if it's not, it's okay to be single too.