"You should get back out there."

"Have you been seeing anyone lately?"

"Any new men in your life?"

Let us get these straight, these are the worst type of questions to hear and answer. If you ask me these questions, I will politely decline to answer them. Not because I'm bitter about being single, but I am happy being single and not many people understand this.

I am young and in college. I see many people around me dating, or in serious relationships, or even engaged or married. And that is okay and I am happy for them. But I also see many single people around me but their relationship status brings a sad, lonely, stereotype to them. This stereotype has been brought on me, but I am here to tell you that I break that stereotype. I am single and I am happy.

I am 20 years old. This is my time in life to find myself, not find myself within another person. I am in college focusing on my future career, focusing on my friends, and most importantly focusing on myself. I get to spend my time doing what I want, when I want, while having a great time.

I am not saying I want to be single forever, I want to find that special someone someday. Let me say that again for the people in the back to hear. SOMEDAY. Not today. That day I do meet someone special I will welcome them into my life, but if I didn't have my personal life figured out, I wouldn't be able to invite that person to share it with me.

So fellow single friends, let us break the stereotype of the sad, cat lady wearing sweat pants eating ice cream while binge watching netflix. Not saying that isn't okay if that is your thing of course, but when we tell people we are single, let us show them the fun side of it. Let us tell them that we have more time for coffee dates with friends, dinners with family members, and the decision to choose what we watch on Netflix which is a huge perk.

Next time someone ask me those questions of "When I'll get back out there." I will politely say I am out there in the world, but for myself and on my own terms and I am happy.