its okay to not be okay

This Is For The Girl Like Me Who Doesn't Have It All Together

Does life just hit you so hard sometimes that the only thing you can do is sit back and laugh?

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There have been so many moments where I think I have my life together. Those moments soon show the truth… that is that I don't have my life together. In times like those, I like to sit back and laugh at myself. I laugh at the moments that I thought I was making a good decision and I laugh at the times where I cried over something so pointless. You see, I laugh a lot. But, I also worry a lot.

The truth is that we all have our moments. Sometimes life is overwhelming and if you are like me you hold all your emotions in until you can't hold them in anymore.

Everyone likes to put on the strong face… and if you know me you know that I always have a smile on my face, but that doesn't always mean that I am okay. And that's the truth; I'm not always okay. And as crazy as this may sound, it's okay to not be okay.

It's okay to not be okay and it is okay to not have everything together. You are you, even if you don't know who that is yet. There is always time to change, there is always time to be who you want to be.

You do not have to impress anyone, you can be whoever you want to be at any time you decide to be that person. You are in control of your own life and no one has any say in the decisions you make. It's never too late. Take a deep breath, be yourself, don't lose yourself, love yourself.

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Hailey Miller's Debut Single Is 'The One'

"The One" is available now across all streaming platforms.

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Being able to blend genres well is a true testament to a great artist, and Hailey Miller has done just that. Breaking onto the pop-country scene with her debut single "The One", the song speaks to the lessons that come out of unfortunate heartbreak, and definitely resonates with people going through one. I got the chance to talk with Hailey about her music, Nashville, and plans for the future:

1. What inspiration did you pull from to write "The One"?

"The One" was inspired by a relationship I was in. It was young love, not the healthiest relationship, and was dragged on for way longer than it should've been. I'd pretty much worked through all the heartbreak by the time it was fully over, and this song felt like the final piece to the puzzle. To acknowledge that some good came from the whole experience, and that lessons were learned. It just kind of poured out of me. It was exactly what I needed at the time. I wrote it and instantly felt peace. Like I could finally let it all go. It's a different kind of breakup anthem, and I hope that people can connect to it in the same way I did.

2. Do you tend to pull from personal experience to write or do you write using a third person perspective?

I definitely prefer to write from personal experience. I've written from a third person perspective, but it always feels more genuine for me to write about things I've been through first hand. It's just easier! It flows better, and feels more honest. Especially if I'm planning on using the song for myself. As an artist, I always want the truths I'm speaking to be genuine. I feel like people connect better that way. If I can't fully connect to the stuff I'm singing, how can I expect the listeners to? Personally, as an artist, the stories behind my songs are just as important to me as the song itself. That being said, if I can connect to someone else's experience deeply, writing third person can be just as fun!

3. What has your experience been like being a woman in the music industry?

You know, I don't have anything negative to say about my experience so far. I've felt respected as an artist from almost everyone I've personally come across in the industry. This being said, I'm very aware of the challenges females tend to face on a larger scale, especially in country. But I try to not let it phase me. In my mind, I'm just an artist…not a "female artist".

4. Growing up in Oregon, what/who inspired you to move to Nashville and write country music?

My earliest inspiration was definitely my aunt. She was singing country music professionally when I was super young, so I grew up seeing that and my family was super good about surrounding me with all sorts of music. My dad had this thing where he would always tell me to "listen to the words" and then at the end of the song I'd have to tell him what I thought it was about. It made me realize at a young age that music isn't just sound, it's stories. I fell in love with country music and its stories. Then came along these powerhouse female singer/songwriters…like Taylor Swift, and that was it. I knew it was something I wanted to do, and I knew Nashville was the place to do it. So, I learned the guitar, taught myself how to write, and made the move as soon as I possibly could! It's pretty much a 19 year old dream in the making at this point.

5. How has Nashville shaped your artistry and/or songwriting since moving there?

Nashville has already shaped my artistry and songwriting immensely. I think the biggest thing is being around so many talented artists and writers. It's super inspiring! Every time I go to a show or writer's round in town, I go home wanting to work even harder. That's the magic about Nashville. In a place where the industry could feel very competitive, the community is so amazing that instead of feeling intimidated, I feel inspired. I think that's so cool. Being able to learn your craft in an environment like that, where everybody is willing to collaborate and learn from each other. There's no room to sit still and not work hard. I think that alone has made me a better artist and writer. I've discovered my own unique writing style and sound, and can't wait to develop it even more.

6. What has your experience been like releasing your first single independently?

It's been amazing! I've had the best time with it. The process was so fun, and such a learning experience. Since it was my first release, I tried to go into it with little to no expectations and I've been blown away! The support I've received is beyond what I ever expected, and people are listening!! That's all I could've ever asked for. I think putting out music for any artist, independent or not, is always a little scary because there's this fear that people won't connect to such a personal part of you. There's so much work behind the scenes that goes into it. But it is so rewarding to read people's messages about how they connect or relate to the song. It's the best feeling in the world!

7. What are your future goals and aspirations within the music industry?

I ultimately just want to keep writing and putting out music that I love, and that other people love. Whether that's on a small scale level, or a larger scale. As long as I'm continuing to make music, I'm happy! That being said, I'd love to do some touring soon, and work towards my first EP/full length album.

8. Do you have plans to release new music soon?

Plans are in the works. I don't have a definitive date for you guys quite yet, but new music is on its way! I've been writing tons and I have some stuff that I'm dying to get out. I'd keep an eye out in the upcoming months for sure.

Listen to "The One" across all streaming platforms now and keep an eye out for future music from Hailey!


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Practicing Yoga Makes Me Feel Better Almost Instantly


Yoga has also given me lifestyle changes I never expected.

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First, let's talk about what yoga is not. It isn't twisting into some impossible pretzel shape or sitting around chanting "om" for an hour. It doesn't have to be slow and it's not just for women.

One of my favorite instructors likes to say that yoga is just simply breathing, if you've ever just taken a moment to have a few calm breaths then you've done yoga.

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The start of my sophomore year was rough for me. I struggled with anxiety, especially in social situations. I stopped going out in groups with my friends and I spent the majority of my time in my room being anxious over other stuff.

I wouldn't go to social events or even walk on local trails because my anxiety was so high it kept me from going out and enjoying myself. I was unhappy with myself and how I always felt tired all the time and stressed out.

I started my yoga "journey" in the fall semester of my sophomore year of college just looking for additional exercise and something to get invested in to stay active. Shortly after attending just one and sometimes two classes a week I noticed I was becoming calmer and relieved in my everyday life.

Eventually, I was able to attend class without a friend coming with me and I even branched out to other yoga classes and I started taking early morning ones as well. I felt a huge difference in my mood and my overall energy and I had this motivation to finally get up and get things done, it was like I had control over my anxiety.

After a couple of months of going to regular classes and even practicing a little at home I can finally say that I am happy with myself. I call yoga a journey because it took me out of my comfort zone and helped me push open my boundaries more.

Yoga has also given me lifestyle changes I never expected. I am healthier because not only am I more active but I am striving to eat better which also makes me feel better. I understand myself better, because I took the time to reflect on what I want and what I don't want in my life. I realized there was a good amount of negative energy around me, I took the time to recognize my own negative energy and focus on changing myself.

The best part of yoga? You can practice it anywhere. If going to classes just isn't an option, you can watch Yoga With Adriene on Youtube or even just Google poses you would want to try out. Have hip, back or neck pain? I guarantee there is a yoga sequence or a few moves to loosen out your tension.

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I urge everyone to try out yoga, and if it isn't your thing then you can say you tried but, I truly do believe that yoga is what you make of it.

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