It's in times such as these that it is completely okay to feel whatever emotions go through you. It's also in times such as these that we need to be there for one another, no matter who you are or how you knew the deceased. Even if you just knew of them, you are allowed to be saddened by their passing. Just know that if you're feeling mad, sad, frustrated, confused, or any other emotions, those are valid. It's common to shut down in trying times, but I beg you not to. I ask you this favor as a student of Stetson who is willing to sit down with you and listen to what you have to say. Seek out people who are amenable to help you if you need it - they are everywhere. There is no shame in admitting that you need help - in your school life, work life, or personal life. You are a human, you cannot make this walk through life alone so allow yourself to open up to someone. Open up to anyone, as long as you are safe on the outside as well as the inside. Chances are, if you walk up to someone and tell them that you need to talk, they will sit down and listen.
This is true especially at Stetson. The words 'community' and 'family' are not taken lightly here. We, the students, the faculty, the staff, the administrators, are a family unlike any other. You are surrounded by a plethora of people who want nothing but the best for you. There is no need to be alone during a time like this and nobody should have to suppress their feelings. Try not to bottle them up or push them to the back of your brain. Just like any traumatic event, emotions need to be tended to so they don't worsen over time.
To anyone who feels helpless to the people suffering around them - be proactive. If you open your arms to the people who were close to those who are no longer with us, they will appreciate it more than you know. In reality, being a shoulder to cry on or a listening ear could save a life. Suicide is a hard subject to swallow but, now more than ever, your peers need you.
In the days after these tragedies, I saw people walking aimlessly around campus, unsure of what to do with themselves. While that's fine, because that's how they're processing and grieving, it was in the best interest of anyone who is a part of the Stetson community to just stop and ask if they were okay or needed to talk. Yes, counseling services were readily available but at that point in time, proactiveness was needed. Not everyone feels comfortable reaching out for help. Now is the time to take action and help those in need.
Author's Note: To the dear family, friends, significant others, and fraternity brothers of the victims - I am deeply sorry for your loss(es). Words cannot even begin to describe how you must be feeling right now. Please know that my door is always open, my couch is comfortable, and coffee could be on in minutes. Anyone who needs to chat is welcome at any time. It's no good suffering in silence so I open my arms to you. -MLP
