Little Mix have just come out with a new empowering song that all men and women alike can relate to. It’s called “Shout Out to my Ex” and is a very catchy pop hit. Perrie, Leigh-Anne, Jesy and Jade sing about someone who has broken up with significant other but figure out they are better without them. They see that in the end, their ex wasn’t what they needed but what they really needed was confidence and acceptance in their life. They not only call out their ex but thank them.

“Shout out to my ex, you’re really quite the man. You made my heart break and that made me who I am. Here’s to my ex, hey, look at me now. Well, I, I’m all the way up I swear you’ll never bring me down.”

When first hearing this song it reminded me of my ex-boyfriend. He never made me feel insecure until we broke up. He helped shape me into the woman I am today.

My ex and I only dated from about April to July which isn’t long at all. Our whirlwind romance soon turned into wicked heartache. What began as two friends sharing something more ended in love turning sour.

We were first friends and then he wanted something more. The relationship started and was wonderful. One night we went to a carnival and had the best time. Then the next night I received a text saying I’m in your driveway, we need to talk. I truly believed he just wanted to talk about something that happened, I wasn’t expecting him to break my heart. I remember my mom’s face when I told her about the text and went to go outside to see him. She knew what was happening before I even did. The only thing I remember from this night is getting into the car and a few lines he had said. It was almost like he had tried to rehearse it but now it wasn’t coming out the way he had wanted it to. I remember him saying, “I really like you but with college starting soon & starting a new job I don’t think this is a good idea. I really think we should stop this for now and maybe someday we can try it again.” I knew at that second we would never try again and I certainly didn’t want to. He even went as far as saying some of the common tasteless lines like it’s not you, it’s me. I remember telling him I’m fine when on the inside I really wasn’t at all. My brain was screaming things like, "Get out of the car, this isn’t happening, what is going on." My heart was sinking into my stomach faster than a speeding bullet. Tears were forming and threatening to fall but I refused to let him see them. I said I’m fine and got out of the car as fast I could.

The first few days after the breakup were the worst for me. I remember crying one minute and then the next minute I would be cursing his name. Then we started working at the same supermarket so it wasn’t going to get any easier. I would see him every day and say to myself, "Why doesn’t he like me, what did I do to make him break my heart, am I not good enough, or am I not pretty enough." Days of sorrow turned into weeks and months of heartache. It seemed like too long for this guy who broke my heart to be in my head but I just couldn’t let it go for some reason. Maybe it was my anxiety or my mind playing tricks on me but I just felt like I would never be good enough for anyone. I remember saying to myself oh I guess I am ugly, I guess I never will be god enough. However, recently after seeing things from other people like my friends, celebrities, and musicians I started realizing I don’t need anyone let alone someone who didn’t trust my heart with his love.

This song was the finale for me. As soon as I heard this song I realized I shouldn’t be upset with my ex, I should be thanking him. He may have hurt me in the past but if he really did anything it was helping me even more. I am quickly realizing I am good enough and I am beautiful both on the inside and on the outside. This song truly empowers me whenever I hear it. I have listened to this song so many times and will continue to listen to it a lot more. This song truly helped me and I think it could help a lot more people too. I think everyone should hear it.