In 2016, people have changed their expectations for dating. Here are things girls should never settle for, things girls should give guys a pass on doing, and what we should be looking for in relationships.
Never settle for a guy who does the following:
1. If he has his phone out during a date.
Ugh. No. Please stop. One thing I will never do is have my phone out at dinner unless there is an emergency, with my friends, family and especially on a date.
2. If he doesn't text/call/talk to you when he says he will.
If he says he will call you the next day and doesn't without explanation red flag.
3. If he pressures you.
This is very obvious but if he pressures you into doing anything you don't want to do, get out. This does not just mean sex, anything.
4. If he doesn't show interest.
If he is interested in you, he should be asking questions about your life. He should really want to get to know who you are.
5. If he lies, cheats, or won't become exclusive.
He should be an honest boy. Unless it's a mutual agreement that you two don't want to be exclusive, there should be a point where you should be the only girl he wants.
These are things to give him a pass on:
1. Texting
It's okay if he doesn't text you back 30 seconds after you send the message. It may take him two hours. Guess what? People have lives. Calm down if he isn't texting you nonstop.
2. He doesn't always have to hang out with you.
People need space. Let him have time with his guys and he'll let you spend time with your girls. Let him also have a life before you both get sick of each other.
3. He should have friends that are girls.
We are in the 21st century, just because he has a friend that is a girl does not mean he's cheating on you. If you don't trust him enough to hang out with other girls, then you probably shouldn't be with him.
This is what you want to look for:
1. Pride
You want a guy to be so proud to be with you. You want him to tell all of his friends about you and to show you off. His best friend should know exactly who you are because he loves talking about you. His friends should see him getting excited if your name is brought up in a conversation. He should want to give you a kiss on the forehead in public because too much PDA is gross but he still wants to show you off.
2. Attention
You want to know he thinks you are beautiful. Not by a stupid #womancrushwednesday post on Instagram (although we do appreciate those) but, by actually telling you how nice you look when you feel awful.
3. Compromise
You should not be doing all of the work in the relationship. Make sure he is putting in just as much effort as you are.
4. A Good Person
Stop dating the guys that just want to get drunk and hook up with randoms all of the time. You want to date the guy who you would want to bring home to mom and dad. The one that is respectful, polite, caring, trustworthy, generous, smart, and treats you the way you should be treated.