Recently, R&B singer Kehlani was hospitalized due to a suicide attempt, shortly after rumors about her relationship arose on the internet. People were quick to blame her for cheating on former NBA-star Kyrie Irving with her ex, R&B singer PartyNextDoor, because he had posted an old picture of them holding hands. The problem was people thought the relationships overlapped and she was with PND one day and Kyrie Irving the next. The picture was removed and the next morning Kehlani posted a picture on Instagram completely denying rumors, on a hospital bed.
Between all of the rumors, people went straight into slut-shaming her and holding Kehlani up to a higher standard. People were tearing her apart and she ended up crashing. Even some celebrities decided to join in and demonstrate their immaturity. It is saddening how yet again, Chris Brown reaches into his misogynist pocket and blames women for everything. He continues to attack women physically and psychologically, and yes, I am going as far as when it was reported that he abused Rihanna. But, this time, it was different because many of his fans called him out on the insensitive tweet about Kehlani. I know that people are allowed to voice their opinions, but is it VERY wrong when it is such a difficult subject like suicide.
The way I see it, PartynextDoor is also at fault here, because he could have chosen a different platform and way of announcing that he was back with Kehlani. Even in the Instagram that he posted with her, he insinuates that she was the reason for their break up. It was all her dumb "shenanigans" that made her go with someone else, but she still ended up back in bed with her ex. His message is loud and clear about how he is objectifying Kehlani with blame and ownership. It's almost like he was building a joke out of all this, like, "She messed up everything, but she is back in bed with me and I am still getting it lol." Men and women are allowed to have their own individual past, but when seen in a relationship, the moment the men chime into shaming a woman for her past or present, they are actively engaging in misogyny. PartyNextDoor should have known the uproar the picture would have, and I am tired of how society was more quick to blame Kehlani than him for starting it all up.
Regardless, if you do feel like Kehlani was guilty of what she did or not, she still tried to kill herself. You know Chris Brown offered his unwanted opinion, but he was right about one thing. Kehlani needed the attention from people so she could receive love and support in this time of need. Suicide is not an easy joke, and the people who are thinking about it should be taken care of. They do not deserve to be wrapped up in their heads, believing that they should not exist anymore. I know that society sometimes places celebrities at a higher standard because they have to portray that they have a so-called perfect life. But in the end, they are just humans like us, and they are going to make mistakes. Also, if you make comments about a certain celebrity, just give positive feedback, instead of the rude negative comments they receive on a regular basis because it will just decrease the amount of judgment. Like the saying goes, " if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all." So here also lie my further respect to Kehlani and her physical and mental health.
