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Mar 18, 2019

10 Rules I've Made For My Relationships That I'll Always Live By

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Being in a relationship is scary. You never know what's going to happen. I am 23 years and I have only had three boyfriends, shocking I know. However, there are reasons behind this, besides growing up with a mom who didn't let us date until we were 18.

My father left when I was two years old and growing up I was a little terrified of getting into a relationship. This led to giving myself a set of rules for dating.

By setting rules for myself it was to help me find someone...kind of. The list was short at first, but after breakups, it did grow with time. The rules seemed simple, at least to me anyway. The rules as well as what I've learned are…

1. Friends first.

I like getting to know someone first. If we can get along as friends great and if we can't see each other dating, that's okay. At least we both gained a new friend.

2. Timing is everything.

Date for a while before you get engaged. Then get engaged if you wish, then have a long engagement ( a year or two is fine) then marriage. I only want to get married once plus you are still getting to know each other, there's no need for rushing anything.

3. Family is most important.

I am close with my family; my mom and my sister. Although it might not seem like we are, but we are. I like a guy who has a good relationship with his family, to me, it shows how he'll be with our family when we do end up having a family of our own.

4. Respecting my decision not to drink.

Okay now before anyone gets mad over this, let me explain. I don't mind that you drink, I just don't really care for it. My dad's side is all alcoholics so I want nothing to do with it. That being said I'm not opposed to trying it. I don't want a guy who drinks a lot.

5. I control who I'm friends with.

I don't want nor do I need a guy telling me who I can or can't be friends with. They try to then it's going to be bad...for them.

6. Compromise is a wonderful thing.

Although I will admit this is a hard one for me, but happy to say that I am getting better. We had both wanted to see a movie, but he wanted to see something that I wasn't really interested in and same with him with my movie. We ended up seeing his movie only if he agreed to see whatever I wanted next time.

7. Space is a good thing.

By this, I mean time to be with our friends without the other. This is great for everyone because you both get to spend time with your own set of friends. This is also known as guys/girls night. You both have interests the other isn't into, which is okay.

8. Clingy 24/7 is not okay.

I have found out that I'm not a big fan of clingy. I tend to feel claustrophobic because of this. You don't have to be all over each other all the time.

9. Communication is key.

Couples have fights and differences, this isn't a bad thing. However, talking out the problems or disagreements you might have will help the relationship in the long run. Talking also helps you both get a better understanding of how the other is feeling about something.

10. Be your own person.

Being in a relationship people tend to lose themselves whie dating. They become attached to that person that they don't know how to function without them. However, I have found that by being with my boyfriend has helped me be okay when I'm not with him. People are always scared of the other cheating or leaving but with him I have trust and with that I know we will both be okay.

Being in a relationship like I said is scary, but it's taught me a lot. I have found that I shouldn't live in fear of being hurt because we could get hurt at any given time. Relationships are just apart of life and growing up we learn from them all.

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10 Rules I've Made For My Relationships That I'll Always Live By

Learning from your everyday life is a wonderful thing as well as a blessing.

1. Friends first.

2. Timing is everything.

3. Family is most important.

4. Respecting my decision not to drink.

5. I control who I'm friends with.

6. Compromise is a wonderful thing.

7. Space is a good thing.

8. Clingy 24/7 is not okay.

9. Communication is key.

10. Be your own person.

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And in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make

The sun is up, the sky is blue, it's beautiful and so are you

Love is old, love is new, love is all, love is you

There's nowhere you can be that isn't where you're meant to be

Life is very short, and there's no time for fussing and fighting, my friend

He say, "I know you, you know me", One thing I can tell you is you got to be free

Oh please, say to me, You'll let me be your man. And please say to me, You'll let me hold your hand

It was twenty years ago today, Sgt. Pepper taught the band to play. They've been going in and out of style, but they're guaranteed to raise a smile

Living is easy with eyes closed, misunderstanding all you see

Can you hear me? When it rains and shine, it's just a state of mind

Little darling, it's been long cold lonely winter. Little darling, it feels like years since it' s been here. Here comes the sun, Here comes the sun, and I say it's alright

We danced through the night and we held each other tight, and before too long I fell in love with her. Now, I'll never dance with another when I saw her standing there

I love you, I love you, I love you, that's all I want to say

You say you want a revolution. Well you know, we all want to change the world

All the lonely people, where do they all come from. All the lonely people, where do they all belong

Oh, I get by with a little help from my friends

Hey Jude, don't make it bad. Take a sad song and make it better

Yesterday, all my troubles seemed so far away. Now it looks as though they're here to stay. Oh, I believe in yesterday

And when the brokenhearted people, living in the world agree, there will be an answer, let it be.

And anytime you feel the pain, Hey Jude, refrain. Don't carry the world upon your shoulders

I'll give you all I got to give if you say you'll love me too. I may not have a lot to give but what I got I'll give to you. I don't care too much for money. Money can't buy me love

All you need is love, love is all you need

Whisper words of wisdom, let it be

Blackbird singing in the dead of night, Take these broken wings and learn to fly. All your life, You were only waiting for this moment to arise

Though I know I'll never lose affection, for people and things that went before. I know I'll often stop and think about them. In my life, I love you more

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There have been many lessons learned.

1. The importance of traditions.

2. How to be thankful for family and friends.

3. How to give back.

4. What the word "community" really means.

5. That it isn't about the destination, but the journey.

6. The consequences of making bad choices.

7. To trust people, until you have a reason not to.

8. To be welcoming and accepting of everyone.

9. How to be my own, individual person.

10. How to work for what I want.

11. How to be great at giving directions.

12. How to be humble.

13. To be well-rounded.

14. How to be great at conflict resolution.

15. The beauty of getting outside and exploring.

16. To be prepared for anything.

17. That you don't always have to do it alone.

18. How to be creative.

19. To brush off gossip.

I have never been so thankful to know you.

Dealing with the inevitable realities of college life.

Don't freak out

Email the professor

Attend the first class

Keep attending class

Have a backup plan

Remember that everything works out at the end

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