9 Things Non-Touchy-Feely People Will Feel To Their Core

9 Struggles Anyone Who ISN'T Touchy-Feely Will Feel Like The Hugs They Hate Giving Or Receiving

It's just not my thing and for anyone else who is not the "touchy-feely type," you will recognize these struggles well!

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It is hard enough to process socializing and relationships when you ARE super touchy-feely. So for the rest of us, it is a serious struggle. I swear everyone I know is a bundle of hugs and sweet sentiments while I am dodging people like a bee, hoping I don't have to throw myself into a warm embrace to make them feel better.

It's just not my thing and for anyone else who is not the "touchy-feely type," you will recognize these struggles well!

1. You never really know how to approach someone you haven't seen in a while

Is there a way to dodge that awkward hug? Is there a different greeting we can throw in that says "Hi, it's so great to see you," without it being bodies pressed together? Can that be a thing? Furthermore...

2. You look for alternative ways to show your family love

You really REALLY love your mom, but you just kinda wish she was into high-fives. You try to reassure your family that you love them as much verbally as you can so they don't feel offended, but really you just want to love them without having to be hugging all the time. And since we're talking about hugs...

3. You never know how long a hug should last

You hate hugs already, but how long are you supposed to hug someone for? Is it longer, depending on how long it has been since you've seen them? Is it different with family, versus your friends? What ARE the rules?

4. You actually hate being taken care of

Whether you're sick or injured, being babied drives you bonkers. It can be so dehumanizing and makes you sooooo uncomfortable. Just leave the soup and ice packs within reach and you'll handle it all yourself.

5. You're basically the worst at flirting

You're so standoffish you don't know how to NOT push people away at times. Do we wink? Touch their hand? Is that weird?

6. You also just as awkward once you're in a relationship

How do we cuddle? Do we just sit and hold hands on the couch? Does one of us put their head on the other's chest? What do we do if one of us breathes too loud? Can we take a pause?

7. You have no clue how to handle it when people are sad

You genuinely get anxiety when someone else is sad or vents to you. You go blank and don't know what to say so you blurt out random facts that are pointless. Or worse, you try to quote a lame inspirational line you read somewhere, but it just sounds hollow and awkward.

But hey, you tried.

8. People crying will send you into a literal panic

When a person cries, it's just like a baby crying. You just kind of stand there in a panic, looking for an adult to handle the situation. You start to sweat a little, give them a super awkward pat on the back and just pray someone else is gonna step in and relieve you soon.

9. You also panic when YOU'RE sad

You hate being comforted just as much as you hate comforting other people. A forceful hug, strange inspirational quotes, and pats on the back are the last thing you want when you're crying or upset. You genuinely want to be left alone in the corner to be awkward all by yourself.

I understand. I am there too.

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20 Fun Facts To Use When Introducing Yourself

As we embark on the semester, we are put on the spot in order to share interesting details about ourselves. This article discloses possible fun facts to tell others!
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After experiencing my first week of classes, I have learned that every student needs a handy-dandy list of fun facts about themselves to tell other people. Many professors use the first couple of classes to learn about their students, so you may need to think about who you are and how you want to introduce yourself to your professor and classmates. We all have that one go-to interesting fact about ourselves, but sometimes you just have to mix it up!

1. My favorite hobby is...

What do you do in your free time? Personally, I love to stay active! I am a competitive Latin dancer and enjoy teaching and taking Zumba classes, going to the gym, and hiking.

2. I love...

Is there something, someone, or somewhere that you love? What makes your heart ache? What do you miss when it's gone? I can say that I love my friends because I feel my most confident when I'm surrounded by those who love and support me.

3. I look up to...

Is there someone you adore? Who mesmerizes you? Who do you wish to learn from? After watching "A Ballerina's Tale," I discovered Misty Copeland. In 2015 she became the first African American ballet dancer to become the Female Principal Dancer at American Ballet Theatre. Her passion, grace, and strength continuously motivate me to better myself as an athlete and an individual.

4. This art speaks to me because...

Coco Chanel said, "In order to be irreplaceable one must always be different." This encourages me to always follow my heart no matter what. I will never follow society's standards and norms because they do not define me. Chanel's saying definitely influences my character and lifestyle.

5. A funny and/or embarrassing memory of me is...

When you make others laugh they want to spend time and make memories with you! Don't be afraid to embarrass yourself. You will come off as down to earth, easy-going, and loyal.

6. My siblings or lack thereof influenced me by...

I can go on and on about my brother, who is 10 years older than I. We have opposite personalities and despite the age gap, we're quite close.

7. My pet(s) are my life because...

Only sad people don't like hearing about furry creatures, even if your pets are slimy and slithering creatures all human beings enjoy hearing pet tales!

8. I'm afraid of...

Your personality can be revealed by your likes and dislikes, including the things that you fear. I am terrified of change and the unknown, hence, the future is an anxiety-inducing topic to discuss for me.

9. I am the way I am because...

What have you gone through in life that has shaped you into who you are today? Remember to be open minded and allow yourself to open up to your peers. You may be surprised by how others respond and/or what others have endured as well.

10. The most unusual item that can be found in your dorm...

This is a fun fact about yourself that can easily liven up an awkward conversation. Think about your quirks and differences! One item I have in my dorm is my teddy bear, Peter, whom I like to joke is my boyfriend.

11. My dream job is...

In college, "What's your major?" is a widespread question. Nonetheless, skip the boring statement of "I'm majoring in..." and go in depth on what your dream job is (hopefully your major factors in to this dream of yours).

12. My hidden talents are...

Angelina Jolie is a knife thrower. Kendall Jenner can produce bird noises. Amanda Seyfried can crochet and knit. Is there anything special you can do? Some people have rare and unique talents, maybe you can think of some hidden talents of your own!

13. My guilty pleasure is...

I will say it a million times: don't be shy when introducing yourself to new people! I'll start by divulging my guilty pleasure: Youtube's family vlogging channel, "OKBaby"!

Check them out: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvUCbnwzySKgbKiB_...



14. Some activities on my bucket list are...


This is an easy way to grab people's attention and find others with similar desires as you. Be an adventurer! Go out of your comfort zone!

15. Talk about your best friend...

How would your best friend describe you? What do you love to do with your best friend?

16. Talk about an accomplishment of yours...

You are incredible and have achieved so much! Reveal something that you are proud of — show off a little!

17. This one time at my job...

Bosses breathing down your neck. Curious coworkers asking personal questions. Cursing customers who never leave you alone. Your job can be filled with tons of hilarious situations that can easily entertain a crowd.

18. During the summer...

Any scars with stories? Any summer flings? Any lessons learned from the tanning too long? Now that summer is over, disclose memories that can leave positive impressions on others.

19. I volunteer at...

Do you do any community service? Share a funny moment while you were volunteering. What did you learn while there? Would you continue?

20. [blank] is meaningful to me because...



What do you appreciate in life? What brightens your day? What makes you fall in love? What does someone have to do to make you smile?

Finally, remember to be outgoing! Reveal that three-mile smile and open your arms to learning about others. Spread smiles, love, and happiness.

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How To Know That You're In A New York State Of Mind

"New York is the city that other cities can only dream of being."

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A New York State of Mind does not mean you reside in the city, it is a way of life that you live, in which only some people can handle. Here's how to know if you are in a New York State of Mind.

You've got goals, baby.

Setting your mind on your goals, knowing that you'll achieve them is the number one step. You'll do anything to pursue your goals, which is what any good New Yorker would do.

You're not afraid to be alone.

New York is one of the largest cities in the world, which might make it one of the most lonely. Being okay with being alone is a trait only some can hold.

You keep life moving at a fast pace.

You want to do things, and you want them now. Like the queen Ariana Grande says, "I want it, I got it."

You are accepting of all people.

People are people, and everyone deserves the same love as one another, and if you're in a New York State of Mind, you know that.

You know that failure is not an option.

If you fail at something, you don't just quit and give up, you simply find a new, and better way to do that task.

You stay authentic to yourself.

You know who you are, you don't need to prove yourself to anyone. If they appreciate you and want you in their corner, they should make that clear to you.

You have a plan for everything.

You are prepared for whatever is it that is coming at you.

You know the sky isn't the limit, because you're reaching for the stars.

People will think you're crazy, or your dreams are too big. If you're in the right state of mind, you simply ignore them. There's no point in dwelling on other people's thoughts, when you know what you want.


Possessing these personality traits, shows that you are in fact in a New York State of Mind. If you are, you're a bad ass who knows who you are and what you want, and you'll get it, no matter what obstacles life throws your way.

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