Why You Should Never Stop Dating Your Partner
Swoon

Brides-To-Be, Just Because You're Engaged Now Doesn't Mean You Stop Dating Your Fiance

I fell in love with my partner through dating him, so why not always do what created that love in the first place?

211

There are certain weeks I am just in a really testy mood.

It doesn't have to be for any good reason other than that adulthood tests me and manages to get the best of my mood from time to time. I can literally feel myself getting more and more impatient as the days in the week pass.

Like many people, I find it easier to release my frustration at home, and unfortunately enough for him, my fiance is a part of "home" and will get caught in the crossfire once in a while. However, it should NOT be my fiance's responsibility to seek an answer for my testy mood. That has to be on me.

One day, I got tired of carrying the aftermath of my bad day home with me.

I felt guilty for being this type of partner, so I did some real soul searching to see if I could figure out what the issue was.

Turns out, things got more difficult for me when I stopped dating my fiancé.

Yes, that's right, silly me thought I could just be engaged. I figured, "well we're way past the dating stage, so now we focus on what "almost" newlyweds do, right?"

COMPLETELY WRONG! DATING YOUR PARTNER SHOULD NEVER BE IN THE PAST!

Think about it for a second: During your work week, do you focus on putting your phone down and really hearing your partner? There honestly were several days I'd just get home after work, hurry and stuff my face (I get hangry) by myself, then look at a screen for the majority of the night until it was time for bed. It's easy for this to become a routine. That thought in and of itself is exhausting and can easily begin to frustrate you.

So date nights became a regular occurrence for us again.

It didn't have to be dinner! It didn't even have to be us going outside of our house. We just both agreed and acknowledged the fact that what would be good for us would be continuing to date one another and spend time doing something the other person enjoyed... together.

Ethan loves games: board games, video games, arcade games, physical games! Name a game and I swear to goodness my fiance would be down for it. A good competition and challenge truly excites the guy. As for me, I'm much more mellow. The anxiety I get trying to win something or watching someone trying to win something is always sky high.

With that being said, I know how happy these activities make him, so obviously I will always try and do that with him.

I like to cook, but LOVE to eat. I will always dedicate my time with him to doing more things in the kitchen and finding food we both love, together. It made sense for our date nights to play some games, then finish it up with a meal of my choosing. We could both talk to one another, hear one another, while also doing things we absolutely LOVE together!

This just started to become a crucial part of our weeks AND relationship.

As we dive deeper and deeper into adulthood, we both recognize how busy our schedules get. We can also clearly identify when the other person is stressed. It's that much more important for one of us to just be like- "let's stop, take a breather, and have a date night."

Every time we decide on a date night, our moods shift drastically.

The rest of the week feels easier, and tension one of us may have carried home completely vanishes once we just talk and get back to showing our love to one another through dating.

Date nights are important people, I'll say it again! We all need to remember to never stop dating our partner. I always looked at my parents and admired their relationship. I recognized they weren't a perfect couple because no one truly is, but I was able to identify a strong love and mutual respect they clearly both had for one another.

As I looked back at their marriage and reflected, it became clear to me that they never missed a date night. Each week they found a time to devote to each other, by themselves. They never stopped dating, and still to this day haven't and are really happy together!

I never want to stop either.

I fell in love with my partner through dating him, so why not always do what created that love in the first place?

Follow Swoon on Instagram.

Report this Content
Lifestyle

These Superfood Beauty Products Show Kale And Matcha Work For SO Much More Than We Thought

Just another summer's day with a cold glass of kombucha on my face.

I've been vegan for about six years now, so a love for fresh vegetables and superfoods has now become a core part of my being. Don't get me wrong. I love my indulgent, creamy pastas and truffle fries more than anyone. But I keep most of my focus on eating clean and healthy so I can indulge guilt-free.

But I'd say about a large part of my diet has always, unknowingly, included superfoods. Being Indian, lentils, beetroot, garlic, ginger, and whole grains have been core essentials on the family dinner table since I could digest solid foods.

Keep Reading... Show less

Now that college is around the corner for most if not all young adults, students once shook by a pandemic now have to shift their focus on achieving their career goals. As if we thought we had it together already! As an NYC girl, I have always seen myself as a hustler, hungry to advance my career in journalism by having one skill: working hard.

Keep Reading... Show less

Kourtney Kardashian has decided to leave "Keeping Up With The Kardashians" after nearly 14 years and although we saw this coming, it breaks our heart that she won't be there to make us laugh with her infamous attitude and hilarious one-liners.

Kourtney is leaving the show because it was taking up too much of her life and it was a "toxic environment" for her.

Keep Reading... Show less
Health and Wellness

We Asked You How You Felt About Resuming 'Normal' Activities, And Some Of Your Answers Shocked Us

The New York Times asked 511 epidemiologists when they'd feel comfortable doing "normal" activities again, considering COVID-19. We asked our peers the same thing, for science.

Last month, the New York Times surveyed about 500 epidemiologists asking about their comfort level with certain activities once deemed normal — socializing with friends, going to the doctor, bringing in the mail. That's all well and good for the experts, but they are a very niche group, not the majority of the population. What do "normal" people feel safe doing? In certain states, we've seen how comfortable everyone is with everything (looking at you, Florida), but we wanted to know where Odyssey's readers fell on the comfort scale. Are they sticking with the epidemiologists who won't be attending a wedding for another year, or are they storming the sunny beaches as soon as possible?

Keep Reading... Show less
Disney Plus

Millions of musical-lovers around the world rejoiced when "Hamilton," the hip-hop-mixtape-turned-musical harder to get in to than Studio 54, came to Disney Plus.

For those who had the luxury of being able to watch it in person and rewatch it with us mere mortals on our screens, the experience was almost as gripping as sitting feet from Lin-Manuel Miranda himself. From the stunning sets, graceful choreography, witty dialogue, and hauntingly beautiful singing, the experience was one even my musical-averse family felt moved by.

Keep Reading... Show less
Health and Wellness

Keto Is All Fun And Games Until You're Undernourished And Almost Pass Out

Keto is just another extension of diet culture that boasts rapid weight loss, but at a steep price.

Photo by LOGAN WEAVER on Unsplash

There has been a Keto diet craze going around in the past couple of years, with many of its followers claiming significant weight loss. With any new, trendy diet claiming miraculous weight-loss, one starts to wonder what exactly is happening behind the curtain. The keto, or ketogenic, diet is a very low-carb, high-fat diet that claims to help the body shift its fuel source from carbs to fat. In the medical community it has been prescribed to patients with uncontrolled epilepsy to reduce the frequency of seizures, but other than that there is little conclusive evidence to other potential benefits.

Keep Reading... Show less
Facebook Comments