2019 Will Be The Year Of Minding Your Own Business

2019 Will Be The Year Of Minding Your Own Business

Learn to live and let live.


Humans are nosy, social creatures by nature. That's not your fault or my fault, or anyone's fault. With the takeoff of social media and digital journalism in the last decade, we've had nearly unlimited access to nearly unlimited information, and the result is we're nosier now than we ever have been before.

While it's great to be informed and know what's going on in the world around us, we've definitely crossed a line. Rather than using social media and the internet as a mere viewing point into the lives of others and to keep updated on world news, we've used it to interject ourselves, and our opinions, into other people's business instead. It's become toxic.

You're entitled to your opinions. But this year, it's time we go back to minding our own business.

The beauty of humanity is that we're all incredibly different. We all have different opinions, beliefs, and views. And that's wonderful! You're just as entitled to your opinion as I am to mine.

However, in the past few years, we've let it become harmful. We've let our differences come between us. We've gone from approaching everyone with open arms to navigating the world coldly, pushing everyone who is different from us to the side. We've used social media to bully, harass, threaten, and divide. We've used the internet as an outlet to spread maliciousness and sometimes, flat-out lies.

Until someone's business becomes your business, stay out of it. Unless someone else's lifestyle is actively decreasing your quality of life, leave them alone. If others are leaving you alone and letting you live as you please, you owe them the same courtesy.

We need to re-establish those boundaries, keep our business to ourselves, and let others live peacefully, just like we want to.

There are a lot of things in this world I disagree with or don't believe in. I follow my religion, so I disagree with other religions. I have my own political views, so I disagree with some others. Just because I disagree with people doesn't mean it's now my mission to change their minds, and I don't get to judge them based on their beliefs. It's not my business how they choose to live their lives until it becomes disruptive to my own. If they leave me alone, I leave them alone, and that's how it should be.

If you've found yourself interjecting into someone's life where you don't belong, or if you've gotten into the habit of providing an opinion that wasn't asked for, make 2019 your year of minding your own business. Live in peace and let others do the same.

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27 Things To Do With Your Friends When You're Bored

A little bit of fun for any season.

I am sure many could relate: you are texting or sitting around with your friends and no one knows what they want to do, everyone is bored, and everyone is flat out of ideas that are actually realistic and achievable. Boredom makes an appearance at it's finest moments... always.

Here are 27 things you can do with your friend in just about any season (some are exclusive to a particular season) when boredom takes over!

1. Find a local coffee shop to try out.

2. Or better yet, find a local restaurant that you’ve all been wanting to try.

3. Go shopping at each others' favorite stores.

4. Tie balloons with positive messages inside of them to random places in your town to uplift a few souls.

5. Cook a homemade meal for a homeless person and deliver it.

6. Get crafty and create a time capsule that you and your friends can open after (x) amount of years.

7. Make your own sushi.

8. Plant flowers in little pots for your homes.

9. Road trip to random local cities and do some exploring.

10. Have a photo shoot.

11. Buy or create a blank page’s journal filled art, writing, sketches, and pictures of your friends that can be used as a memory book.

12. Visit a pumpkin patch.

13. Go stargazing in the middle of the night with a blanket and a few midnight snacks.

14. Go to a haunted house.

15. Go to a movie with the group.

16. Have a giant sleepover with board games, snacks, movies, and crazy pajamas.

17. Have a game night with the peeps.

18. Have a gingerbread making contest.

19. Have a bonfire when it gets cool outside.

20. Make homemade ice cream.

21. Search on maps for the nearest natural spring or river and go swimming or canoeing.

22. Take a camera, your group of friends, and stroll around town taking pictures of your adventure.

23. Use the pictures you take on your adventures and create a photo wall in your home.

24. Have a "Madea" movie night.

25. Throw a themed party.

26. Write letters of encouragement to children (or adults) in hospitals.

27. Look up random keywords on YouTube for possibly some of the best videos ever.

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What It's Like Being An Introverted Leader

Different people lead differently.


When you think of the qualities a leader or someone in a leadership position should have, being out-going is often mentioned. However, I don't think that always has to be the case. I've been a part of many different leadership opportunities and programs, yet I'm still the same socially awkward hermit I've always been. Being out-going and extroverted doesn't qualify someone to be a good leader, just like being shy and introverted makes you a bad one, it's about your skills.

When I went to a leadership program at a summer camp, I often heard that I didn't talk very much or I was too quiet and shy for a summer camp entertaining kids, I should have been more talkative. I'd also get a few counselors coming up to be that when they were in the same program I was in, they were also the same things I was and not to worry about it. Even now, I'm still quite and relatively shy person, but that doesn't discredit my ability to be a good leader, or anyone else's.

In my high school ASB (Associated Student Body) class, we took a fun personality test to find out what kind of leaders we were; someone who likes to be in charge, be in the spotlight, more organized, or stay in the background. I got someone who likes to be in the spotlight, which was a surprise to me too, but thinking about it, it makes sense. I'm not overly out-going, but given the right motivation, I don't mind going up to people and striking up a conversation.

I can also say that at some point I have possessed all four of these personalities or traits over the course of my different leadership roles. The reason I'm even bringing this personality test up is that it definitely shows that there are different types of leaders out there, and not all of them have to be extraverted. I tried to find the one I took but couldn't find the exact one, but if you're interested there are a ton of different ones out there.

Over time, I've learned and worked on many valuable skills, like conflict resolution, time management, actually listening to what others have to say, and more. I keep myself up to date with my surroundings and what's going on in the world, and I still meet and hang out with people, when I have time. People grow and learn on their own pace, we should let them without overly critiquing them.

In the end, whether someone is out-going or not shouldn't determine the ability they have to be a good leader, sure in some cases it's better to more extraverted, but it's not a make or break trait. So long as they have their mind in the right place and know how to handle different tasks and situations, it doesn't matter.

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