13 Ways To Have A Memorable First Date

13 Ways To Have A Memorable First Date

"I will remember you."
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So you've known this girl for a while and want to become the man of her dreams, right? Well, in order to become the man of her dreams, you'll need to take her on the date of her dreams. Not sure how to do that? Don't worry! I'm here to help! I may not be an expert, but I am a girl who has expectations for the perfect first date. (My expectations are probably common among other girls too. Just saying.)

So, without further ado, here are some tips on how to make her first date with you a memorable one:


1. Ask her out the RIGHT way.

Now, we all know that you should NEVER break up with a person through text, right? The same rule applies for asking a girl out for the very first time. After the first date, texting her to ask her if she wants to go out with you is fine. However, you want to make the first time that you ask her out extra special. And how do you do that? By asking her out in person!

Yes, I know that the thought of doing so may be extremely terrifying, but I promise you it will mean so much more to her if you do. Also, to increase her chances of saying "Yes," make sure that you are extremely nonchalant when you pop the question. Don't even make it seem like you are asking her out on a date. Just say, "Hey, would you want to hang out sometime?" If she says, "Yes," then tell her when and where you'll meet her for the date. If she says, "No, thanks," then just reply with, "Okay! See you later, then."

2. Determine an appropriate venue for your date.

Now it's time to determine an appropriate venue for your date.Take her somewhere you can create wonderful memories together. No, it doesn't have to be an expensive restaurant. It can be a nearby park, a bowling alley, or even to an ice cream shop. After all, what's most important is that you two are spending time together.

3. Dress appropriately.

Now that you've asked her out and determined a time and place for your date, you'll need to pick out something to wear. Dress appropriately depending on the location of the date, as well as what you plan on doing together. Girls honestly LOVE it when guys dress formal (this may be a good idea if you plan on going on a dinner date)! However, if you plan on going on a more casual date, then wearing a nice shirt and a pair of jeans is perfectly fine.

4. Mind your manners.

Guys, please make sure to mind your manners while you are on your date (or at all times, as a matter of fact). One quality that I personally do not like in a guy is when he curses, but that's just me. Every girl is different. Just remember, if it is something that is going to "turn us off," please DO NOT bother to do it!

5. Ask her questions about herself.

I'm going to be completely honest. Girls LOVE talking about themselves! This means that the more questions you ask us about ourselves, the more we'll start to like you. Okay, maybe not. But it will definitely help! In all honesty, I LOVE it when a guy asks me questions about myself, regardless of whether or not we are on a date. This shows he is truly interested in learning more about me, and I absolutely love it! If you are not sure about the kinds of questions you should ask while on your date, here are some ideas:

"How was your day?"

"What are your plans for after graduation?"

"What do you like to do for fun?"

"What's your family like?"

6. Tell her more about yourself.

During a date, it is extremely important that both individuals get a chance to tell each other more about themselves. This will make both of you more comfortable around each other, as well as help you decide if you want to take the relationship any further. Don't be nervous! I can honestly say that I usually want to know so much more about the guys that I like. However, I'm just too afraid to ask. Tell her about your family, your interests, even your classes. This is your chance to shine! Show her how interesting you really are! Just make sure you are completely honest with her.

7. Compliment her.

Three words: girls love compliments! We honestly do, whether we like you or not. Complimenting us not only shows that you are interested in us, but it also makes us feel so much more confident about ourselves, and we love that feeling! Here's a way to make complimenting her much easier for you: If you haven't become her friend or followed her on social media yet, DO IT! Take some time to look at her pictures and profile information. Notice anything that's worthy of a compliment? Maybe you think she looks really pretty in one of her pictures, or admire the fact that she volunteers at an animal shelter.That's your chance to compliment her! Just say, "So I was looking at some of your Instagram pictures, and really liked this one!" Trust me, if she really likes you, she'll find it extremely cute that you went through the trouble to look at her pictures.

8. Be yourself.

Now for the most important tip of all: be yourself. Remember, you want this girl to fall in love with you, not some impostor. Yes, you'll probably feel very nervous throughout the date, but trust me, she'll probably feel the exact same way. I actually really liked this one guy when I was younger, and to this day, still believe that one of the main reasons why things didn't work out between us was because I wasn't being myself. Don't make the same mistake I did. Be yourself. Always.

9. Take responsibility for paying the bill.

Maybe it's just because I'm a traditional kind of girl, but I personally feel that the guy should always be the one to pay the bill. It's just a traditional thing to do, and it honestly makes the guy seem so much more masculine and sweet.

10. Walk her home and tell her "Good night."

At the end of your date, make sure to walk that special girl home and tell her "Good night." This will make your night so much more romantic, as well as show her that you are protective of her.

11. If the mood is right, kiss her on the cheek or forehead.

Here's something I'm pretty sure both of you have been looking forward to the entire night: having your first kiss together! If you feel the mood is right, make a move. However, please refrain from any serious kissing for now. After all, both of you are just getting to know each other. Besides, refraining from any serious kissing will make you seem more mysterious and keep her wanting more.

12. Reassure her that you'll see each other again soon.

Unless you want that special girl to think that she did something wrong, make sure to reassure her that you'll see each other again soon. Just say, "I had a wonderful time tonight! Can't wait for the next date." This will show her that you are still interested in her and will make her long to see you again.

13. Don't text her until the next day.

Lastly, to keep her interested in you, you've got to be mysterious. One way to do this is by not texting her until the day after your date. This will make her long to see you again, as well as keep you from looking desperate for her attention.


That concludes this set of tips! Now, go get her!

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A Senior's Last Week Of High School

The bittersweet end.
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Well, this is it. This is what we've worked so hard the last four years - who am I kidding - basically what seems like our whole lives for. This is the very last week we will set foot as a student in our high school's hallways. As most schools are getting ready to set their seniors free at last, it all begins to set in - the excitement, the anxiousness, and also the sentiment and nostalgia.

For seniors, the years since our first day as a freshman at the bottom of the high school totem pole have seemed endless, but as we look back on these last few weeks, we realize that this year in particular has gone by extraordinarily fast. It was just yesterday that we were sitting in our classrooms for the very first time, going to our 'last first' practice, and getting our first taste of the (very real) "senioritis". With all that's going on in our lives right now, from sports and clubs, finals, and the sought after graduation ceremony, it's hard to really sit down and think about how our lives are all about to become drastically different. For some it's moving out, and for some it's just the thought of not seeing your best friend on the way to fourth period English; either way, the feels are real. We are all in a tug of war with the emotions going on inside of us; everything is changing - we're ready, but we're not.

THE GOOD. Our lives are about to begin! There is a constant whirlwind of excitement. Senior awards, getting out of school early, parties, and of course Graduation. We are about to be thrust into a world of all new things and new people. Calling our own shots and having the freedom we have so desperately desired since the teenage years began is right around the corner. Maybe the best part is being able to use these new things surrounding you to grow and open your mind and even your heart to ideas you never could before. We get the chance to sink or swim, become our own person, and really begin to find ourselves.

Things we don't even know yet are in the works with new people we haven't even met yet. These friendships we find will be the ones to last us a lifetime. The adventures we experience will transform into the advice we tell our own children and will become the old tales we pass down to our grandkids when they come to visit on the weekends. We will probably hate the all night study sessions, the intensity of finals week, and the overpowering stress and panic of school in general, just like we did in high school... But it will all be worth it for the memories we make that will outlive the stress of that paper due in that class you absolutely hate. As we leave high school, remember what all the parents, teachers, coaches, and mentors are telling you - this are the best times of our lives!

THE BAD. The sentimental emotions are setting in. We're crying, siblings are tearing up, and parents are full-out bawling. On that first day, we never expected the school year to speed by the way it did. Suddenly everything is coming to an end. Our favorite teachers aren't going to be down the hall anymore, our best friends probably won't share a class with us, we won't be coming home to eat dinner with our families...

We all said we wanted to get out of this place, we couldn't wait, we were ready to be on our own; we all said we wouldn't be "so emotional" when the time came, but yet here we are, wishing we could play one more football game with our team or taking the time to make sure we remember the class we liked the most or the person that has made us laugh even when we were so stressed we could cry these past few years. Take the time to hug your parents these last few months. Memorize the facial expressions of your little sister or brother. Remember the sound of your dad coming home from work. These little things we take for granted every day will soon just be the things we tell our college roommate when they ask about where we're from. As much as we've wanted to get out of our house and our school, we never thought it would break our heart as much as it did. We are all beginning to realize that everything we have is about to be gone.

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The Things I Found At Rock Bottom

It was the darkest, but the dawn did come.

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About 3 months ago, my whole life was uprooted by a breakup.

My ex ended a relationship with me very suddenly that I had the full intention of being in for the rest of my life, and even thought I knew it was a necessary loss, coming down from that high and detoxing our toxic relationship from my system was the hardest thing I have ever been through. There was a day I finished up in class and zoned out and started driving, until I found myself three hours away from home. I didn't eat for days, and I woke up every day having panic attacks when I remembered everything that had happened. The first few weeks were a dark, horrible blur, with pain at levels I would never wish on anyone. On top of that, I was also forced to move an hour away from home and quit a job that I loved as a result of the breakup.

I wasn't just losing a person, I was losing everything that I built my identity up to be. Our relationship was my whole life, and that's why I knew that us breaking up was necessary, but that didn't take away the two and a half years of memories I was left with. He also chose to end it in such a violent and excruciating way — telling me he never loved me, cutting off all contact with me, and basically telling me to kill myself. Sitting in the rubble of all of this, I had never felt so empty and void of happiness before.

But when you're completely shattered and sitting in nothing but rubble, you're presented with a beautiful opportunity — a blank canvas. There are no morning and night routines laid out for you, you don't have the same people texting you as before, you don't have the good morning text that you were used to. You have nothing. Because of these things, your own interests and desires become the default setting you're programmed to operate on, and you get to know yourself in a way that you didn't before.

Here's how I found my way out of the void.

1. Small distractions are so helpful.

.There were a few things that I turned to that were absolutely crucial to me when I was struggling to keep it together: New Girl, playing the game Words With Friends, and journaling (free-writing, and writing in these that I found at Target). Honestly, these things rarely actually made me feel better. However, the value I found in them was creating new habits and filling my life back up with things that didn't involve my heartbreak.

2. You need a support system.

I have always had a hard time trusting people and talking about my feelings. So I thought, naturally, the way to cope with that is to find one person you can trust, and for them to be your ride or die. That's what my ex was for me. When he was gone, I had to learn how to open up to people again, which was extremely foreign and uncomfortable for me. It was an odd feeling to text a friend and say "I'm not okay right now and I need you", and even more uncomfortable when they were nice and supportive back. But all of the dozens of people I leaned on ended up being literally a support system for me- giving me advice, keeping me in check, and telling me all of the things I didn't want to hear, like how pathetic I was acting at some points.

3. You absolutely cannot avoid pain in life.

A quote I found by Jon Kabat-Zinn reads, "You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to swim" and that became a guiding philosophy for me in dealing with pain. As comforting as it would've been for me to tell myself I'll never let anyone hurt me again, or I was never going to be in another relationship again, I instead decided to tell myself that I was never going to let something break me so deeply again, because I would have a stronger foundation of me and a stronger sense of self. So that when the next person left my life, I would be sad, but I wouldn't feel shattered to the core ever again. Life involves constant rejection, constant disappointment, and constant anxiety. You will never escape that. You will hurt so much throughout life. But if you can build yourself to be strong enough, it won't matter.

4. You can empathize with somebody and forgive their actions and still want nothing to do with them- and that's okay.

When my ex and I were together, he messed up and did a lot of things wrong. He would scream at me and tell me he hated me and apologize with so much fear and hurt in his eyes and say, "I'm sorry, sometimes my anxiety causes me to demonize you" and in the moment I wasn't strong enough to say "it's okay, but you're abusive and I need to be away from you". I instead would say, "It's okay, let's not worry about it and just go to bed" and it would keep on happening. I empathized too much with his demons and gave him too much understanding at my own expense. Now I've learned that I can still feel that way about him, but when he reaches out asking for another chance, I can say no. And I don't feel guilty anymore.

5. Your relationship with yourself should be your top priority.

To explain my experience of learning to love myself, it would take pages. Simply put, I started being okay with things just being me, myself, and I. If I had a rough day, I would at first come home wishing I had my ex there to talk to and be there for me. Eventually I started going to Target, picking up a bottle of wine, and taking care of my damn self. I stopped thinking "oh I'd love to do this but I don't have anybody to go with me" and started eating at restaurants alone, going to bars alone, and going on hikes alone. I bought myself jewelry that I wished a guy would buy me. I said yes to every guy that asked me out on a date just to put myself out there. I spontaneously went and got a new tattoo completely by myself. And now that I steady to the core in my own being, anybody in my life is there because they're a complement, not a supplement. This will protect me from ever staying in a relationship again that manages to gut me in the way my previous one did.

A quote that I love from J.K. Rowling reads, "Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life", and that is absolutely true of what the past three months have been for me. Day by day, I've pieced together a new identity and healed my soul. I wouldn't have been here if I hadn't hit rock bottom.

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