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The KonMari Method Is Not Just For Ridding Of Unnecessary Items — Use It For Letting Go Of People

Thank you for the role you once played in my life, but I no longer need you.


Letting go of things that once served a purpose in your life no matter how big or small is never easy. These things are not only a part of your life but in some cases, it feels like they were a part of you as well. Lucky for us, Netflix has blessed us with another great original called "Tidying Up" starring Marie Kondo that shows us how to do just that. In this series, Marie visits different homes and helps people get rid of the physical things that are no longer needed in life to have a more organized happy life.

A friend shared this show with me during a time when I had some purging in my life to do as well except it wasn't things I needed to let go of — it was people. Could the same method that is used on people who can't let go of things work the same with letting go of a person? I soon came to find out that the answer most definitely is yes.

The KonMarie Method is a pretty beautiful thing. It allows you to let go of something, while still appreciating the joy that it once brought you.

You start by picking an item that no longer sparks joy in your life anymore, but you have trouble letting it go. Then, you take the item and thank it. Maybe it once brought you great joy. Maybe it taught you a much-needed lesson, or maybe it helped you through a really difficult situation. The thing about all three of those statements is that they were all past tense. Although those moments were very beautiful parts of your world at one point in time, you don't need them anymore. Thank them for the magical moments that they brought to you. Take one last good look and let them go.

I've been going through a lot of changes in my life. As my life changes, so do the people in it. Unfortunately, losing people that were once close to you is just a part of life that we must all come to terms with at some point. Everyone changes. It's just a part of life you can't avoid. Sometimes people change and grow with you, and other times they change and realize that they need different things — that's okay too. Life would be boring if we all stayed the same forever.

Through every season of life, you will encounter so many amazingly beautiful people. Some will enter your world and stay for the long haul. Others are only here for a short while. These are the hardest ones to let go of, but you can't continue living if you're stuck in the past.

The time has come. Tell them: "Thank you." Thank them for the exhilarating sparks of joy they brought to your life. Thank them for lighting up your world in technicolor, even if only for a brief time. Thank them for the deep emotions they allowed you to feel. Thank them for the beautiful friendships. This part is something that can be done in your own way. You don't have to actually say it to them. Sometimes it's simply reminding yourself that you are thankful, so you can move on.

Now, the time has come for the final step. You are now free to let them go. Be thankful for what was, but you no longer need them. They were just a chapter in your story. Go out and find beautiful new adventures.

Let go, and start living for today.

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