How To Make A Life Plan For Your Twenties And Thirties

To All The 20-Somethings With Big Dreams But No Idea What They're Doing, This One's For You

It's OK, me too girl, me too.

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"Embrace the glorious mess that you are." — Elizabeth Gilbert

For most of us, we spend our whole life dreaming about what we'll be when we grow up and wishing for the future. Now that we're finally at the point in our lives to make our dreams a reality, we find our selves confused as hell.

So why is that?

Well, like all things in life, it's a lot easier said than done.

When we're little everyone around us was constantly saying how "the sky's the limit," and "the world's our oyster," so there's a lot of pressure to turn all of that potential into something great.

Pressure from our parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles, teachers, and gossipy moms of the neighborhood, but more than anything pressure from ourselves. We've built so much up in our head about what our life is going to be like, how amazing everything will be and now we're at the pivotal point where we can make or break our dreams.

Whatever happens next, there will be no one else to blame but ourselves, and that's a scary thought.

If there's anything I've learned from my mere twenty years of navigating through the ups and downs of this crazy life, it's that not everything will go according to plan. You don't know what lies ahead, and the truth is you won't always be ready for it, but if you stay frozen in fear as the rest of the world keeps moving forward, you'll be left behind.

Take the leap of faith always, and figure the rest out as you go.

You will experience setbacks and failures, Lord knows I have, but you'll grow from every misstep and bad decision, and you'll learn, and you'll do things differently the next time.

I believe everything happens for a reason, but I also believe that you have a hand in the things that happen.

Life is a series of diverging roads, chose your path wisely, but remind yourself that even if you take the wrong turn you'll still get to where you're going, it might just take a little longer.

It's OK to change your mind along the way and start all over again because life is about the journey, not the destination.

A wise woman once sang...

"There's always gonna be another mountain
I'm always gonna wanna make it move
Always gonna be an uphill battle
Sometimes I'm gonna have to lose
Ain't about how fast I get there
Ain't about what's waiting on the other side
It's the climb" — Miley Cyrus / Hannah Montana circa 2009

So take it one day at a time, keep that fire inside of you burning, and don't be afraid to chase your dreams.

Even as we enter adulthood and stop believing in basically everything, it's important to never stop believing in ourselves.

You got this, I believe in you, now go make your dreams come true.

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40 Small Things That Make College Students Happy

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1. When class is canceled.

2. When the coffee shop you stop at five minutes before your 8 a.m. has a short line.

3. Coffee, coffee, coffee.

4. Open note tests.

5. Or even better, take home tests.

6. The unofficial assigned seating process that that takes place after the first week or so of classes.

7. Thursday nights. (because in college, Thursday qualifies as the weekend.)

8. Sales.

9. Or once again, even better, free things.

10. Specifically free food.

11. Dogs.

12. Dogs on campus.

13. Tailgates and Saturday afternoon football games.

14. Finding an already completed Quizlet for your exam.

15. Having an extra 30 minutes for a nap, and if you're lucky, an hour.

16. Netflix.

17. When your roommate takes out the trash.

18. Weekends after test weeks.

19. The rare blessing of a curve on an exam.

20. Getting out of class early.

21. How in college, it is socially expectable to wear a t-shirt everyday.

22. Being able to walk from class to class or eat in the dining hall without having to see anyone you know. (and thank goodness too because you probably don't look too good.)

23. Crossing things off of your to-do list.

24. Your best-friends that you make in college.

25. A full tank of gas.

26. Seeing a new face everyday.

27. Crawling back into bed after your 8 or 9 a.m. (or after any class that ends with a.m.)

28. Care packages.

29. No cover charges.

30. When adults tell you that it is okay that you have no idea what you want to do with your life yet. (regardless of what parents or your advisor may say.)

31. Pizza.

32. Finding out you weren't the only one who did poorly on the exam.

33. Deciding not to buy the textbook, and never needing it.

34. Finding the perfect gif to express how you're feeling. (Michael Scott just get it.)

35. Weekends at home because...

36. Pets.

37. Mom's home cooked pie and Dad's steak dinners,

38. Spring Break.

39. Road trips.

40. When it finally starts to cool down outside so you can show up to class dry instead of dripping in sweat.

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The 7 Best Pieces Of Advice I Have Been Given About Life

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There isn't a central theme among these pieces of advice or sayings. They are all just random things I have been told over the course of my life–especially in the last week. I find these 7 to be particularly helpful in various situations, and try to keep them in mind when I am in over my head.

1. "Don't be afraid to advocate for yourself because there is nobody who is going to help you more than you."

You are the #1 person who can help your own case. No one knows you as you do, therefore no one will be able to help you more than you can help yourself. A lot of things are mental, so once you can convince yourself that you deserve something (whatever it may be) you can convince anyone. Another saying goes along with this, on the flip side: "No one can diminish you but yourself." You are in control of your own self-perception, and you are very much capable of being your own worst enemy.

2. "Stand behind your reputation because you can never get it back."

My mom sent this to me the other day. Be who you are, and do it proudly. Especially with meeting people for the first time, you can never have a second chance at a first impression. That being said, if people view you in a bad light, figure out why that is and fix it. You may not be able to change someones initial thoughts of you, but you can change the way they view you after that.

3. "The best things in life happen unexpectedly."

"Life is what happens when you're busy making plans," also goes along with this. Trying to plan out every little detail of your life is only going to lead to disappointment. Sometimes you find the best things/what you're looking for when you're not actually looking. Just go through the motions and things will work out the way they are supposed to.

4. "Be proud of your accomplishments, no matter how small."

It's important to celebrate the little things. Did you go to class today? Good for you. Did you decide to drink water instead of a soda? That's awesome. How are you going to work up to doing bigger and better things if you don't have anywhere to start?

5. "Whatever you're stressing about now probably won't matter in five years."

As someone who is often eaten away by their own worry and anxiety, this is a mantra that I try to constantly remind myself. While it may seem like a big deal now, you need to keep in mind the bigger picture. Will it matter in 5 hours? 5 days? 5 months? And so on. If the answer is no to ANY of these questions, it's probably not worth beating yourself up over.

6. "Stop being the 'go to' person for someone you can't go to."

Someone tweeted that their pastor said this to them and the tweet went viral. A friend of mine sent it to me, and it really made me think. Something I have struggled with over the years is making excuses for people who don't show up for me when I am constantly there for them. This is a helpful reminder that if they aren't contributing to you and your life, you shouldn't have to bend over backward to help them out and be in their lives.

7. "Two wrongs don't make a right."

While this is often a saying that parents use on their young children, it is applicable to pretty much any stage of life. My parents, especially my dad, have constantly said this, whether it was in reference to fighting with my siblings or dealing with people at school. Even as a 20-year-old, I find myself saying this when I hear about arguments and problems people are having. Everyone wants to get even, to best those who hurt them. While it's important to stick up for yourself, it is also important to be the bigger person and not stoop to their level (and whatever else your parents told you in these situations).

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