Learning To Love And Appreciate Me Time

Learning To Love And Appreciate Me Time

It doesn't have to be because you are bored and have nothing better to do.


If you know me, you know that 10/10 times I would chose spending time with people. It's not that I don't enjoy me time, I just feel like spending time with others can just be much more worthwhile of my time. I am not here to say that one way is much more rewarding than the other, that really depends on the kind of person that you are. It's more just as a complete tie between an extrovert and introvert, I believe that it is extremely important to set time apart in your week to just be alone and relax however you chose.

Honestly, up until this point I took any time that was spent by myself either as boredom or to decompress from being "people'd out". But, I don't think it has to be like that so much. I don't think that in order to have me time you have to be tired or simply have no other options for entertainment, you can just have some time and space to chill the heck out.

Sometimes what scares me away from me time is just being alone with my racing, constant thoughts and so I'd rather distract myself with people. This is a good tactic, but it is also more just running from reality. A much simpler and common reason alone is avoided, is because frankly, boredom is so inevitable.

I didn't really realize the importance of me time until my second semester of college. My first semester I was so caught up in the fact that there are people everywhere you look living across the hall, upstairs, in the building next door, etc. and you have so much more free time to spend with those very people. I was so excited about all of that that I was constantly tired and would bottle up stress because I would just avoid it.

I eventually learned that it is so important that when you get out of class at noon on a Wednesday you can just take a chill pill and decompress for at least 30 minutes and it won't hurt. This doesn't mean you shouldn't spend time with your friends, honestly those crazy long hang out days with friends are some of my most favorite memories. I just mean that it is actually okay to have me time, it doesn't mean anything negative whatsoever.

My biggest recommendations for me time no matter what point in your life you are at, would be driving around with your favorite songs playing, laying in bed listening to music or just absorbing your surroundings, napping, reading, showering, or even just watching your favorite movie for the 100th time. These are just suggestions but they are definitely some of my top choices. My most favorite and recent form of enjoying the silence of me time is with a nice smelling candle lit or the nice smell of this lavender aromatherapy llama (best gift ever!)

A year ago I would definitely admit to absolutely hating spending time alone, but now, I would recommend it to anyone of any age and for any amounts of time during a week. No matter what kind of person you are, I think it is so important to love and appreciate me time just as much as you may love people time.

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A list Of 15 Inspiring Words That Mean So Much

A single word can mean a lot.

Positivity is so important in life. A lot of times we always go to quotes for empowerment but I have realized that just one word can be just as powerful. Here is a list of inspiring words.

1. Worthy

Realizing your self-worth is important. Self-worth can really make or break a persons personality. Always know that you are worthy of respect. And also, never compare yourself to others.

2. Courage

Be courageous in life. Life has so many opportunities so do not be scared to grasp any opportunity that comes your way. You have the ability to do anything you have your heart and mind set to do, even the things that frighten you.

3. Enough

When you are feeling down and feeling that nothing you do is ever good enough, know that you are more than enough. And yes there is always room for improvement but when it comes to my self-worth I always have to remind myself that I am enough.

4. Blessed

Be thankful. A lot of times we forget how blessed we are. We focus so much on stress and the bad things that are going on in our lives that we tend to forget all of the beautiful things we have in life.

5. Focus

Focus on your goals, focus on positive things, and focus on the ones you love. Do not focus on things that will keep you from not reaching your goals and people that do not have good intentions for your life.

6. Laugh

Laughing is one of the best forms of medicine. Life is truly better with laughter.

7. Warrior

Through the good and the bad you are a warrior. Be strong, soldier.

8. Seek

Seek new things. Allow yourself to grow in life. Do not just be stuck.

9. Faith

During the bad times, no matter the circumstances, have faith that everything will be all right.

10. Live

Start living because life is honestly way too short. Live life the way you want to live. Do not let anyone try to control you.

11. Enjoy

Enjoy everything that life has to offer. Enjoy even the littlest of things because, as I said before, life is short. And plus, there is no time to live life with regrets.

12. Believe

Believe in yourself and never stop. Believing in yourself brings so many blessings and opportunities in your life.

13. Serendipity

A lot of times we look for things to fill an empty void that we have. Usually what we are looking for comes when we are not looking at all. Your serendipity will come.

14. Create

Share your ideas with the world. Creativity brings change to your life. However you chose to use your creativity do not be scared to show your intelligence, talent, and passion.

15. Love

The world is already full of so much hate, so love unconditionally with all your heart.

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The Path To Self Love

It's a beautiful and hard journey but the reward is so worth it


Like many of us, I tend to rely on other people and their opinions way more than my own. Stopping that? It's easier said than done but it's possible. You'll never fully be able to stop caring about what other people think but you can care a little less. How?

Building up your self-worth and confidence. That task is probably one of the hardest ones that I've ever had to tackle and am still figuring out.

Loving yourself can mean so many different things but at the end of the day it really means just being able to be your own happiness. So many people rely on others for happiness instead of themselves. That's just not it. We do this to ourselves but what happens when that person or group of people leave us? Then our happiness that was revolved around being with them is all gone. I've learned this life lesson the hard way and while it hurt like hell, I needed that. I had to learn that if I can't be happy by myself then I'll never fully be happy.

Sydney Mergler

Now, I know body positivity is becoming a thing right now but that doesn't change the fact that people still don't always feel one-hundred percent confident in their body. I personally have been struggling with my body image for years and finally have started to work on it for me. Not because I hate my body now, but because I want to get fit for me. It's been a struggle figuring this out and it's taken me years but I finally know what my end goal is and am working towards that. I know it's going to take me a while to reach it but at least I'm working towards a goal now and loving it at the same time. In fact, I feel so much more confident because of it.

Toxic friendships? Just break them. Do yourself a favor and don't dread on it, just drop them. You don't need the extra headache or drama. Life is hard enough as it is but having friends who are negative, disrespectful or just only look out for themselves makes it ten times harder. I'm not sorry for the friends I've dropped because if they really had wanted to keep the friendship, they would've treated me better.

Sydney Mergler

Over-apologizing? Just no. Let's not do that. For what? If you don't mean it, don't say it. There is no reason to apologize for something you either don't think needs to be apologized or you don't feel bad for. In the past, I used to apologize for every little thing and it drove me crazy.

On my path to self love, I've learned so much about myself already and I can't wait to learn more. I've learned I missed music, missed writing, enjoy yoga and other forms of exercise and so many other things. I've stopped holding on to things and people that aren't good for me and have started to let go of the past. Loving yourself can be a real challenge but at the end of the day it's the best thing you can do for yourself. You can't ever expect anyone to love you either in a romantic way or friend way without loving yourself. If you can't see the beauty in yourself how can you expect others to?

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