The transition from a small, white town to a large and diverse university was difficult. I was that short, quiet Indian girl who never really spoke up, and kept my personality hidden. When I rolled up to college, just like many other students, I was so nervous and afraid of being lonely, since I am an out-of-state student who knew nobody from my high school.
The first week was rough for me because being a quiet girl, I always stayed to myself. I thought that everyone was making friends faster than I was and that I would stay lonely. Because of this, I pushed myself to go out and meet someone new every day. Whether it be while I was lost trying to figure my way on the bus system or even saying hello to new people at the dining hall. Simply just talking to people, I learned so much about everyone's different life experiences. We can make connections with each other by simply talking about our lives and how our experiences shape us as human beings and make us stronger. As a freshman in college, I still haven't fully found my place here, however putting myself out there makes it easier to create bonds with people who have similar experiences.
If you are still struggling with the college transition and finding your place, don't worry! Just put your stereotypes and predispositions aside and talk to that cute guy on the bus or that girl with the cool shoes in your writing class. We have nothing to lose by doing this and might just make a new friend in the process. Remember to embrace your personality, experiences, and voice, without being afraid of anyone's judgment. Don't be afraid to wear those big hoop earrings or the red lipstick your mom brought you because it makes you feel confident. In the end, you will be happier.
