5 Signs You Need New Friends

5 Signs You Need New Friends

Some people just need to be canceled.


Some friends in your life will come and go. It's important to know who is truly there for you and who is only toxically there for you. Here are some signs that can help you determine if you need some new friends who will actually support you and care about you in the way that you deserve.

1. They only talk about themselves

Good friends ask you how you are doing and are genuinely interested in what's going on in your life. They want to know how you solved that problem you told them about a week ago or if you have any plans for the rest of the week. If your friends only keep talking about themselves and don't ask you once about your life, they may not care about you the same way you care about them.

2. They are not reliable

True friends stick by your side during the happiest moments and during the saddest moments in your life. If your friend has an excuse every time you invite them to your birthday party or cancels the brunch date you planned during the last minute, you are obviously not their priority. If they cannot prioritize you in the same way you prioritize them, they are not a true friend.

3. They are not loyal

As much as it's important to look out for yourself, is it also important to defend those who are important to you. If your friend does not stick up for you when you need them the most, you need to question whether they really care about you. If your friend cancels on your plans for their boyfriend or girlfriend every single time, you need to reevaluate your friendship because you are obviously not important enough to them.

4. They constantly compete with you

Healthy competition between friends is always great because it pushes both of you to be better. However, if you tell your friend about the guy you started dating and instead of asking about him, they talk about the 10 guys they have a chance with, your "friend" is probably trying to steal your spotlight and outdo you.

5. They only reach out to you when they need you

There is a difference between being a friend to someone and being a user. I, myself, had to deal with people who would only text me "Omg hey what's up?" only to ask me a favor three texts later. Those are the same kinds of people who would make plans with you and pretend to enjoy spending time with you only because they need help with that chemistry lab or that calculus homework. Those are not your friends, those are people who take advantage of you and who you need to cancel from your life ASAP.

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Somehow, I Ended Up With The Best Roommate Known To Man

I've truly been blessed.


College can be a very stressful experience to prepare for. From orientation to selecting your classes for the semester, your responsibilities quickly pile up. On top of all that, you also have to find somebody who you will be sharing a room with for your first year of college.

After not sharing a room with my sister for several years, I was worried about going back to splitting a living space with someone else. Immediately after I finished submitting my application to finalize my commitment to Temple, the stress of finding a roommate sunk in. Rooms in the residential hall I wanted were filling up quickly, and I still didn't have a roommate.

I was trying to find a roommate, but everybody seemed to already have their living situation figured out. However, one day, I received a message from a girl named Tori. Little did I know, she would become my best friend. I saw her profile prior to on RoomSync, an app for finding roommates, so I was really excited when she messaged me.

We didn't meet until move-in day, which made me a little bit anxious, but right from the start, everything clicked. We have lots of similar interests and living standards. Even though our majors are totally different, hers being biology and mine is English, that didn't stop us from being friends and enjoy spending time with one another.

In just the first weekend, Tori discovered that I hadn't seen a lot of movies that I should have seen growing up. From that point on, she created a list of various movies, and every weekend we watched at least one movie together. I don't think she has shown me a movie that I haven't liked yet, and I'm so glad that we started this tradition.

On top of movies, Tori has also expanded my music taste, which is a very hard thing to do. I couldn't be happier that she introduced me to Dean Lewis and Noah Kahan and then persuaded me to go to their concert in October with her. In general, she has got me more into music and is increasing my knowledge about music overall.

As well as going to a concert together, we also recently went to see my favorite Youtubers when they came to Philly. When we found out that Cody Ko and Noel Miller were going on a comedy tour and coming to our city, we immediately planned to buy tickets. It was a night full of laughs, and I'm so happy I got to spend it with her.

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Having a random roommate who is also your best friend is rare. I've heard a lot of horror stories about random roommates, but I honestly can't picture not being friends with Tori. Along with being an amazing roommate, she is incredibly selfless and caring. Her focus is always on helping people, and I admire her for all the hard work she puts into everything she does.

Being surrounded by people in the College of Science and Technology, I know it isn't easy. Because I have a strong dislike of science, I give major props to Tori and her friends in CST. I'm so happy she is studying something she's truly passionate about and will love doing in her future career. Whenever I meet people that want to pursue a career in science or the medical field, I immediately give them immense credit. It's extremely difficult to take that career path, and I'm already excited for Tori and her ultimate success.

College is a time for making new friends that will last even after you stop going to school together. Even though I'm only in my second semester, I know I can trust Tori with anything, and she'll be there for me when I need her. I also know that she'll be 100% honest with me when I need guidance or advice.

I cannot even begin to express my gratitude to Tori for messaging me to room with her. My college experience has been incredibly positive thus far because she has been with me through it all. I'm extremely grateful for the way things worked out because I couldn't have asked for a kinder roomie.

Thank you, Tori, for not just being an incredible person and roommate, but my best friend as well.

P.S. I can't wait to bake with you in our apartment together next semester!

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Coffee Shop Strangers

Lessons on being a fly on the wall.


Let's consider why coffee shops attract people: they provide shelter in the form of commercialized couches, wooden chairs, and tables to sit and read on, food in the form of overpriced lattes, pre-packaged snacks, and outlets for charging our gadgets if we are so lucky to find one.

They are oftentimes corporate entities fueling society's infinite need for caffeinated beverages, to survive the inevitable workday.

Or maybe their purpose is to serve the lowly college kid who decided to escape the gloom of their dorm room and breathe in the robust espresso air while grinding away at their assignments.

Or maybe the first date for a couple who just met online and are feeling out the waters.

Or maybe the location of a kid who is struggling to pass his fifth-grade math class and is dropped off by his mother to be tutored by their overly enthusiastic neighbor.

Or maybe the businessmen and women who need a space where they can discuss the implications of their proposal to their boss the following day.

Or maybe the ominous guy who sits by the window sipping a cappuccino watching the rainfall as he considers why he has such difficulty keeping a healthy relationship, as he watches the Tinder couple giggling and canoodling.

And so, the tutor of the fifth grader looking towards the cappuccino guy wondering why he appears so sullen, in between the kid's problem sets.

And so, the businesswoman peering at the college kid wishing she was analyzing "Dante's Inferno" instead of perfecting her spreadsheets.

And so, the Tinder couple who are learning that they are no longer strangers to one another.

And so, such is the magic of hyper-connectivity, as we are all bound by our words, thoughts, and actions.

The magical thing about coffee shops is that they provide an environment where conversations flow, much like a bar, but more effectively.

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