I'm someone that takes others' opinions too much into account. And oftentimes it's because I care about them more than I care about myself. But this leads to a series of events where I'm the one left unsatisfied. For example, if a friend gets too upset with me over something minor, instead of realizing they might just be taking their anger out on me, I get stressed over what I did wrong. Meanwhile, this person was taking out their stress due to multiple problems from family, finances, to self insecurity.

But instead of thinking this, I stressed too much over what I did wrong. I started blaming myself and growing anxious in their depart. It took a few days of space for me to realize I'm way to caring about others. I'm way too selfless. But that's one of the worst kinds of vulnerabilities to have because people can take advantage of you.

I haven't quite figured out how to give myself more value than others, but I'm going to be taking small steps towards it. I'll stop blaming myself for when arguments go wrong and I'll start taking my own opinions into more consideration. If someone wants me to do something I don't want to do, I'll start refusing and explaining why. This doesn't make me a bad person; it just makes me an adult. And I think we all need to develop this trait of loving yourself and your values more than others.