If you have a long distance bff, you'll totally understand.

To My Hometown 'Best Friend' That I Know Nothing About Anymore

No one prepared me for this long distance friendship...


Dear friend,

I saw recently that you have a new boyfriend! I found out through Instagram, which admittedly was a little weird. Remember the days when we would gawk over boys in the hallway all the time in high school? Or how we would spend 20 minutes constructing a single text to the guy in your math class that you liked so much? Those were fun times. But the guy you are with now seems nice! I mean, I actually know nothing about him or how you know him or what he is like…but he seems…cool?

I saw on Snapchat that you dyed your hair recently, and it looks super good! It reminded me of the Pinterest boards we used to make about hairstyles we wanted for homecoming and the times we spent sending each other pictures promising we would never let each other dye our hair a crazy color. I still look through the boards every now and then and pink is definitely not our color.

I also heard through the grapevine that you switched your major! I never knew that you were into business, but I think it suits you pretty well. You are really savvy, and I honestly think you could be the CEO of any company you wanted.

It's kind of weird not hearing all this stuff directly from you. If I'm being honest, I used to worry that we weren't friends anymore because we talked less and because I didn't know that much about your new life. I felt like I was being replaced by your cool new college friends, and that you didn't care about me because you never texted back or called me to see how I was doing. Now though, I've realized that it doesn't matter how often we text each other or keep in touch when we're away. What matters is that we make the most of the time we do get to spend together. The time we spend laughing and making new memories, being careless and just enjoying each other's company-- that is what means the most.

I know we don't talk a lot anymore, and that you have new friends and new interests and honesty a new life, but remember that I am always here for you no matter what. You'll always be the friend I want to go on late night drives with to the local ice cream shop, or on walks in the park with when there is nothing else to do but get yelled at by our parents. You'll always be my best friend no matter how far apart we are.

I miss you always, and I can't wait to see you soon.

With love, Serena

P.S. Your new college friends better have as high of standards for your boyfriends as I do. Seriously.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it


Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

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My First College Gal Pal Road Trip Was Amazing

Every girl should have one good girls trip.


In some way or another, everybody has a list of things they want to do in their lives before it's all over. After all, we're human. There's adventure to be had in every life. One thing I have always wanted to do before I grew too old and grey was go on a road trip with my gal pals to the beach. A couple weeks ago, I achieved this memorable milestone, and it allowed me to open up to new surroundings and experiences.

On this trip, I went with two of my friends from college, Kait and Lindsey, to visit my roommate Elizabeth in Virginia Beach. This was pretty big for Lindsey and I because neither of us had been to Virginia Beach before. Thankfully Elizabeth and Kait knew their way around the city, so we never got lost on our way to and fro.

Like most vacations, my favorite parts probably took place at the beach. I'm always at utter peace stomping through mushy sand or leaning down to splash the salty water that tries to knock my short self over. We took pictures and did something us college girls rarely have time to do especially in school: Relax.

The four of us did not live up to the crazed stereotype of girl trips in movies. Although I finally got a chance to sing along to Taylor Swift in a car ride with my friends, so that's always a plus. We played "Top Golf" one day, and by some miracle, I actually won the second game by a fair amount after much humiliation in the first one. We visited some of Elizabeth's family, and I finally got to meet her giant dog Apollo (I call him 'Wolf Dog'). Everyday was another chance to ask with enthusiasm: "So what are we doing today?"

Our trip wasn't like the movies where we all cried or confessed our deepest darkest secrets. Everything the four of us shared was laughter and this calm feeling of being at home, in the chaotic peace of each other's company. We understand each other a little better due to finally seeing what we're like outside of Longwood University. After this, all I can say is that we're most definitely planning the next one!

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