Valentine's Day used to be, in my opinion, one of the most overrated holidays in existence. I used to think it was a day that added too much pressure, and forced you to look at the absence of love, which is the opposite of why people celebrate it in the first place.

I used to be bitter about this day but realized I was actually just bitter about relationships in general, and maybe that was because of my parent's divorce. I closed my heart because of it to try and make sure I'd never get my heart broken. Having a closed heart isn't the way to live through, and you can't experience that 80's movie love if you aren't open to it.

And yes I've watched all the 80's classics and cried, don't @ me

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I guess I was never truly bitter about love, just too scared to let it into my life, and not sure that I was deserving of it. That applies to all types of love as well.

Here is a poem I wrote for a future love, a love deserving of me.

Be gentle with me

Caress my heart as you would my cheek before planting a kiss to my forehead

Be gentle with me

Comb through my insecurity like you do your fingers through my hair

Be patient with me

Pluck my fears of abandonment

Like a young boy does the petals of a flower in hopes it reveals she loves him

That is what I do each time I tell you a story of my journey to self-love

Does he love me, love me not

In hopes that each story like a petal will awaken your love for me

Be patient with me

When I ask you for the world

You are my world, my greatest adventure

Be gentle with my heart

Be patient with my heart

Be gentle

Be patient

Be my Love

Valentine's Day doesn't only have to be about romantic love. You can celebrate the love in every area of your life, self-love being the most important. So this year I'll spend the day the way I try to spend most of my days, spreading love, sharing love, celebrating love.

Happy Valentines Day, Lovers!