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A Guide To Help You Get Over Heartbreak

It hurts, but there are a few things that could help!

Alexi Sanderlin

Apr 01, 2019

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Take it from someone who has been through it more times than I would like to admit, breakups are hard. Whether it was mutual or one-sided, messy or a clean break, it all causes you to feel a little sad inside. Or maybe a lot sad inside. Either way, it's not a picnic.

In many cases, I had no idea what was going to make the heartbreak hurt less and I didn't have a whole lot of advice on what to do or things that could help. There's no blueprint for how to handle yourself in a time like this or I would give it to you. So instead I asked some friends and came up with a list of tips, tricks, and things that will help to lessen the blow.

1. Retail therapy.

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Go out and buy some new shoes. Get some new outfits. Spoil yourself because you definitely don't need a significant other to do that.

2. Something (or someone) soft that you can cuddle and cry on.

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I have heard that giant stuffed animals do the trick. Get yourself a six-foot teddy bear and let it all out. Or your pet. My dogs love to cuddle when I need a good cry.

3. Surround yourself with people you love.

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Go out with your friends. Spend time with your family. Go out for some adult beverages (if you're of age). I personally tend to want to go out and be spontaneous with my friends during a bad break up.

4. Don't dwell on why/how it ended.

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It will drive you insane. Accept that it's over and keep on keeping on.

5. Clear out the clutter

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Get rid of old clothes, things they gave you, things that remind you of them. Out with the old and in with the you. Make newly single you a better you.

6. Reinvent yourself.

Get a hair cut, some fresh new clothes, maybe a piercing or a tattoo. Take up fitness or a new hobby. Be a better you and show your ex what they missed out on.

7. Write it out.

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Journaling is a great outlet for feelings and it could help you sort your mind out until you're ready to move on. it's totally important to recognize your feelings and understand it's okay to feel them.

8. Get a new hobby.

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Pick up a new hobby that makes you happy and fills your time. It will fill you with joy and keep you from dwelling on the break-up.

9. Get back out there.

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Everyone bounces back differently. Maybe getting flirty and not needing to commit to anything could be just what the doctor ordered. Maybe a one night stand. There's no shame in your rebound game.

Sometimes a rebound can turn into another great relationship. Who knows.

10. Get rid of all traces of the person you're getting over.

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Unfriend, unfollow, delete their contact. The longer you hold onto them (and their social media presence) the longer it is going to take you to get over them. Plus, I know how tempting it is to insta-stalk your ex if you don't have to go into your blocked list to do it. Been there.

I'm sure there are a million other things that could help. But just remember, breakups and heartbreak do feel terrible sometimes. But they are totally not the end of the world. Think of it as a new beginning and use it to make you stronger and better.

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A Guide To Help You Get Over Heartbreak

It hurts, but there are a few things that could help!

1. Retail therapy.

2. Something (or someone) soft that you can cuddle and cry on.

3. Surround yourself with people you love.

4. Don't dwell on why/how it ended.

5. Clear out the clutter

6. Reinvent yourself.

7. Write it out.

8. Get a new hobby.

9. Get back out there.

10. Get rid of all traces of the person you're getting over.

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And in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make

The sun is up, the sky is blue, it's beautiful and so are you

Love is old, love is new, love is all, love is you

There's nowhere you can be that isn't where you're meant to be

Life is very short, and there's no time for fussing and fighting, my friend

He say, "I know you, you know me", One thing I can tell you is you got to be free

Oh please, say to me, You'll let me be your man. And please say to me, You'll let me hold your hand

It was twenty years ago today, Sgt. Pepper taught the band to play. They've been going in and out of style, but they're guaranteed to raise a smile

Living is easy with eyes closed, misunderstanding all you see

Can you hear me? When it rains and shine, it's just a state of mind

Little darling, it's been long cold lonely winter. Little darling, it feels like years since it' s been here. Here comes the sun, Here comes the sun, and I say it's alright

We danced through the night and we held each other tight, and before too long I fell in love with her. Now, I'll never dance with another when I saw her standing there

I love you, I love you, I love you, that's all I want to say

You say you want a revolution. Well you know, we all want to change the world

All the lonely people, where do they all come from. All the lonely people, where do they all belong

Oh, I get by with a little help from my friends

Hey Jude, don't make it bad. Take a sad song and make it better

Yesterday, all my troubles seemed so far away. Now it looks as though they're here to stay. Oh, I believe in yesterday

And when the brokenhearted people, living in the world agree, there will be an answer, let it be.

And anytime you feel the pain, Hey Jude, refrain. Don't carry the world upon your shoulders

I'll give you all I got to give if you say you'll love me too. I may not have a lot to give but what I got I'll give to you. I don't care too much for money. Money can't buy me love

All you need is love, love is all you need

Whisper words of wisdom, let it be

Blackbird singing in the dead of night, Take these broken wings and learn to fly. All your life, You were only waiting for this moment to arise

Though I know I'll never lose affection, for people and things that went before. I know I'll often stop and think about them. In my life, I love you more

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There have been many lessons learned.

1. The importance of traditions.

2. How to be thankful for family and friends.

3. How to give back.

4. What the word "community" really means.

5. That it isn't about the destination, but the journey.

6. The consequences of making bad choices.

7. To trust people, until you have a reason not to.

8. To be welcoming and accepting of everyone.

9. How to be my own, individual person.

10. How to work for what I want.

11. How to be great at giving directions.

12. How to be humble.

13. To be well-rounded.

14. How to be great at conflict resolution.

15. The beauty of getting outside and exploring.

16. To be prepared for anything.

17. That you don't always have to do it alone.

18. How to be creative.

19. To brush off gossip.

I have never been so thankful to know you.

Dealing with the inevitable realities of college life.

Don't freak out

Email the professor

Attend the first class

Keep attending class

Have a backup plan

Remember that everything works out at the end

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