Everyone Has a Disability

Everyone Has a Disability

Disability has a negative connotation, but should it?
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Disability- Anything that disables or puts one at a disadvantage. (Dictionary.com)
Think of the word disability, what is the first thing that comes to mind. Is it the kid in the wheelchair, a handicap parking place. Most people when they hear the word disability, they do not think of themselves. When the truth is, most people have a disability of some sort.

As you go about your day, notice the people who wear glasses. Bad vision is a disability. Notice people who are short. They are put at a disadvantage when playing basketball, so that is a disability.



So I ask you as you read my perspective of my disability; not to feel sorry for me, but to try and understand. I want you to understand that while a disability may seem small, it also can be quite frustrating.

Imagine what it would be like to be unable to button a shirt, sign your name, or carry a cup of coffee without spilling it. Imagine having days when it is so difficult to eat your lunch that you finally give up. Where counting out change is so terrifying a task that you do not go shopping without your little sister there to count your change.

What I have is an essential tremor. It is a neurological disorder which causes you to shake uncontrollably. It is made worse by stress, anxiety, caffeine, hunger, and many other things. It is a common disorder; an estimated 10 million Americans have it. Although it is more common in older people, children and teens are able to develop it.

This causes quite a bit of frustration in my life.

People tell me to stop. My mom yelled at me, she told me I needed to stop, when I spilled a cup of coffee on the floor of the church. This causes frustration because I really cannot stop, however, people seem to think I should be able to.

Today for lunch I was trying to eat crackers. Sounds simple, right? Well, not always! I would pick up the cracker and my hand would start shaking, so I would end up dropping the cracker. This would just make me frustrated. This causes the tremor to get worse, which can turn into a vicious cycle.

Sometimes I will be signing my name, and I realize that I will have this condition for the rest of my life. This is extremely frustrating. I tend to think, why me? Why now? I am not old, I thought only old people had this problem?

Well, although some people wouldn’t consider this a disability. I would argue that this is as much a disability as anything else. The definition of disability, as stated above is, “Anything that disables or puts one at a disadvantage.” I would have to say this does put me at a disadvantage to others. It makes writing difficult, especially under stress. As well as, keep me from doing many simple things like buttoning a shirt.

I do not want you to pity me, or to pity anyone else with a disability. Rather, I would like you to try to understand. Stand in our shoes for a day before you make fun of someone because their hands shake, or call someone who wears glasses, a four-eyed monster. Thank You.















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​An Open Letter To The People Who Don’t Tip Their Servers

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Dear Person Who Has No Idea How Much The 0 In The “Tip:" Line Matters,

I want to by asking you a simple question: Why?

Is it because you can't afford it? Is it because you are blind to the fact that the tip you leave is how the waiter/waitress serving you is making their living? Is it because you're just lazy and you “don't feel like it"?

Is it because you think that, while taking care of not only your table but at least three to five others, they took too long bringing you that side of ranch dressing? Or is it just because you're unaware that as a server these people make $2.85 an hour plus TIPS?

The average waiter/waitress is only supposed to be paid $2.13 an hour plus tips according to the U.S. Department of Labor.

That then leaves the waiter/waitress with a paycheck with the numbers **$0.00** and the words “Not a real paycheck." stamped on it. Therefore these men and women completely rely on the tips they make during the week to pay their bills.

So, with that being said, I have a few words for those of you who are ignorant enough to leave without leaving a few dollars in the “tip:" line.

Imagine if you go to work, the night starts off slow, then almost like a bomb went off the entire workplace is chaotic and you can't seem to find a minute to stop and breathe, let alone think about what to do next.

Imagine that you are helping a total of six different groups of people at one time, with each group containing two to 10 people.

Imagine that you are working your ass off to make sure that these customers have the best experience possible. Then you cash them out, you hand them a pen and a receipt, say “Thank you so much! It was a pleasure serving you, have a great day!"

Imagine you walk away to attempt to start one of the 17 other things you need to complete, watch as the group you just thanked leaves, and maybe even wave goodbye.

Imagine you are cleaning up the mess that they have so kindly left behind, you look down at the receipt and realize there's a sad face on the tip line of a $24.83 bill.

Imagine how devastated you feel knowing that you helped these people as much as you could just to have them throw water on the fire you need to complete the night.

Now, realize that whenever you decide not to tip your waitress, this is nine out of 10 times what they go through. I cannot stress enough how important it is for people to realize that this is someone's profession — whether they are a college student, a single mother working their second job of the day, a new dad who needs to pay off the loan he needed to take out to get a safer car for his child, your friend, your mom, your dad, your sister, your brother, you.

If you cannot afford to tip, do not come out to eat. If you cannot afford the three alcoholic drinks you gulped down, plus your food and a tip do not come out to eat.

If you cannot afford the $10 wings that become half-off on Tuesdays plus that water you asked for, do not come out to eat.

If you cannot see that the person in front of you is working their best to accommodate you, while trying to do the same for the other five tables around you, do not come out to eat. If you cannot realize that the man or woman in front of you is a real person, with their own personal lives and problems and that maybe these problems have led them to be the reason they are standing in front of you, then do not come out to eat.

As a server myself, it kills me to see the people around me being deprived of the money that they were supposed to earn. It kills me to see the three dollars you left on a $40 bill. It kills me that you cannot stand to put yourself in our shoes — as if you're better than us. I wonder if you realize that you single-handedly ruined part of our nights.

I wonder if maybe one day you will be in our shoes, and I hope to God no one treats you how you have treated us. But if they do, then maybe you'll realize how we felt when you left no tip after we gave you our time.

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9 Coffee Alternatives You Should Try To Benefit Your Health

There are so many better options for you and your body will love you for switching to them.

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For the past five years, I've really struggled with not being able to consume caffeine products, the biggest one being coffee. As soon as I was old enough in my parents' eyes to drink coffee, my body disagreed. Not only did I miss out on the hyper and energized caffeine effect that most people get, but it would give me horrible shakes throughout my whole body for hours. Because of that, I've been in search for the best alternatives to coffee.

1. Chicory Coffee.

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Despite the name, it doesn't have any ingredients from a coffee bean. It's caffeine-free and tastes really similar. It comes from the Chicory Root. Also believed to be super rich in Insulin.

2. Matcha Tea.

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This is a type of green tea that comes from the camellia sinensis plant. You can eat the entire leaf of this plant and is full of antioxidants.

3. Golden Milk.

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If you're looking for something sweeter like a latte, try Golden Milk. This drink starts with a dairy-free base and has cinnamon, turmeric, and ground ginger. It is also known to have notes of vanilla and honey.

4. Lemon/Fruit Water.

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This is exactly what it sounds like but when adding the right fruits to it, can give you the same amount of energy as a cup of coffee. It's super easy to make, and adding a sweetener like agave or honey makes it taste like juice.

5. Yerba Mate.

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This is a naturally caffeinated herbal tea, originating from South America. It definitely gives you the boost you need, but before you dive in, know that this drink is super bitter because of the high tannin content in the tea leaves.

6. Chai Tea.

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This one is my personal favorite. This is a black tea blended with herbs and spices and comes from the camellia sinensis plant but goes through a fermentation process. This is my personal favorite when almond milk, cinnamon, and honey are added. This drink is great hot or cold, and can be found at almost all of your favorite cafes and coffee houses.

7. Rooibos Tea.

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A second name for this is red tea from South Africa. Although it isn't very well known yet, it's high in caffeine and can be found at places like Trader Joes, Fresh Market, Whole Foods, and even Walmart occasionally has it in stock.

8. Apple Cider Vinegar.

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This one is hard to acquire a taste for but the results are amazing. It's made by fermenting crushed apples and adding yeast and bacteria. It's known to have beneficial effects on blood-sugar levels, and is a great energizer. You can mix it into other drinks, smoothies, use it as salad dressing, and drink it straight up.

9. Kombucha.

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This is another one you might have to acquire a taste for, but has recently became very popular. It's made by fermenting black tea with bacteria, yeast, and sugar. You can find it in lots of flavors with the most well known brand, Synergy, like blueberry, lemonade, and strawberry mojito.

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