An Empath’s View on Negativity

As An Empath, Here Is My View On Negativity And Maintaining Your Mental Health

Being aware of the way your surroundings affect you is the first step in maintaining your mental health.


Energy is powerful. Regardless of your level of belief or practice, there is something to be said about the energy individuals exude into the universe. There are undeniable instances in life where you can feel a certain way about someone's presence without a specific explanation. Think about it, we have all been there when someone has just rubbed us the wrong way, without any definitive proof. Conversely, I for one have certainly experienced the phenomenon of someone "lighting up a room" without saying a word.

All of this being said, I think there is a distinct difference between recognizing energy and being affected by energy. I can go on and on about this topic, but basically, I see personalities on a spectrum with rejection and acceptance of energies on either side. On the far left, you would find your textbook evading, narcissist type. This person does not recognize nor absorb anyone's energy but their own. On the far left, you will find your intuitive empath. This person recognizes and embraces other people's emotions to the extreme. Now neither side is good or bad, they are just two extreme personality types. Further, most people fall within this range of personalities. Depending on your mood or current stage of life you may vary, but for the most part, the majority of people fall somewhere in the middle.

I for one, identify as an intuitive empath, the far left extreme. This is something that has always been innate within me, but I did not learn how to verbalize it until about a year ago. I never understood why my mood could change so quickly between different social situations. I never understood the extent to which other people's energies could affect my own. I attributed my social downfalls to things like social anxiety, but honestly, I was never satisfied with that answer. I knew that there had to be more than an imbalance in my brain because I could never pinpoint a reason for my shifts in emotion.

Thank goodness for my mother who opened my mind to my role as an intuitive empath. Being one herself and enduring similar struggles, she took it upon herself to do some research (which I would totally suggest doing if you are at all interested in this kind of study) and found out about this personality type. When we sat together that day and spoke about my unknown sources of sadness and unease, her explanation hit me like a truck. I finally understood that it wasn't just me and my emotions affecting my psyche, but those emotions surrounding me as well. It was such an invigorating, eye-opening moment to know WHY I had been feeling this way for so long.

This is why I say that there is a difference between detecting and embracing others' emotions. Learning that there was a group of personalities who were extremely affected by emotion, and then learning that I was apart of that group, has been more than half the battle of dealing with my mental identity and its downfalls. I now know how to handle myself in negative or tense situations, and have come to appreciate even more the people who help light up my life.

There is something to be said about the influence one person can have on their surrounding environment. Wherever you are on the spectrum, recognizing the importance of energy and emotions in your life can provide great insight into the way you as an individual deal with social interactions and other types of taxing situations.

I bring this all to your attention to show that self-introspection is one of the great tools we have as humans to work through the intricacies of daily life. Without recognition and acceptance of ourselves and our varying attributes, there is a great risk of misunderstanding and neglect invading our society of social interactions.

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A Letter To My Freshman Dorm Room As I Pack Up My Things

Somehow a 15' x 12' room became a home.


Dear Geary 411,

With your creaky beds, concrete walls, and mismatched tile floors, you are easily overlooked as just another room we were randomly assigned to— but you were different. Inside your old walls, I have made some of the best memories of my life that I will hold on to forever.

Thank you for welcoming my neighbors in with open arms who quickly became friends who didn't knock and walked in like you were their own.

I feel like an apology is needed.

We're sorry for blaring the music so loud while getting ready and acting like we can actually sing when, in reality, we know we can't. Sorry for the dance parties that got a bit out of control and ended with us standing on the desks. Sorry for the cases of the late-night giggles that came out of nowhere and just would not go away. Sorry for the homesick cries and the "I failed my test" cries and the "I'm dropping out" cries. We're sorry for hating you at first. All we saw was a tiny and insanely hot room, we had no idea what you would bring to us.

Thank you for providing me with memories of my first college friends and college experiences.

As I stand at the door looking at the bare room that I first walked into nine months ago I see so much more than just a room. I see lots and lots of dinners being eaten at the desks filled with stories of our days. I see three girls sitting on the floor laughing at God knows what. I see late night ice cream runs and dance battles. I see long nights of homework and much-needed naps. Most importantly, I look at the bed and see a girl who sat and watched her parents leave in August and was absolutely terrified, and as I lock you up for the last time today, I am so proud of who that terrified girl is now and how much she has grown.

Thank you for being a space where I could grow, where I was tested physically, mentally and emotionally and for being my home for a year.


A girl who is sad to go

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The Path Ahead Of Me

Create your own path to find yourself and the life you wish to live.


"Fortunately, the sun has a wonderfully glorious habit of rising every morning. When the sky lightened, when the birds awoke, I knew I would never again see anything so splendid as the round red sun coming up over the Earth." Sam Gribley had an outlook on life that many people fail to see.

We often get stuck in the movements and routines of our day. We forget to live a little and enjoy our time here on our precious Earth. Lately, I myself have fallen into these motions and felt like a puppet in my own life. The simplest of solutions have lifted my spirits and have started to bring me back to my previous ways. Although Sam is a fictional character, he has a lot of truth behind his words. Each day the sun will rise, so no matter how hard yesterday was tomorrow is always a fresh start.

A few changes I have realized in myself are I have been making less negative comments and I have felt more confident. With the negativity changing in myself, I have also tried to make others more positive when they are down. I have had more confidence in my own abilities as a student and with the way, I look each day. Putting my own self down wouldn't get me anywhere in life.

While reading "My Side of the Mountain" by Jean Craighead George, I felt inspired to take on more challenges in life and have higher standards. The life I live will be filled with positive people, good memories, and I will strive each day toward my goals. Each of us has our own mountain to conquer and I take mine day by day with my head high and towards the sun.

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