In the world we live in today, it seems like girls have forgotten how to be nice to one another. We stalk each other on Instagram and twitter, ripping apart everything about the other person. From what she’s wearing, to the captions of her photos, nothing is good enough when her fate has already been determined in the eyes of her beholder. It seems as though we have forgotten how to support one another, and have instead succumbed to the age-old idea that girls are catty and petty by nature.

The fact of the matter is, we’re not! By nature, women are nurturing and caring beings, yet the media has portrayed us (especially young girls,) as people who simply cannot get along with one another. The idea that the mean girl holds all the power has skewed our society, and tainted the ways in which girls think it is acceptable to act toward one another. Rather than building one another up and letting that fuel us to grow stronger together, girls seem to prefer tearing one another down to feel dominant.

NEWSFLASH LADIES: healthy power doesn’t come from having control over someone else. Think of a time when you felt truly powerful. I can almost guarantee that none of you thought of a time you were ripping another girl apart based on something you’re probably insecure about yourself. Tearing each other down not only hurts the girl it is being directed at, but also the one whose mouth the hateful speech is originating from.

Power comes from within. It comes from being confident in yourself, in your abilities, and in how much of a BOSS you are. When has any person who utilized their power effectively used that power in order to make other people feel small? Power should be used in order to make others feel the same way you do inside, and to assist them in living the best life they possibly can.

If this is the case, why wouldn’t we want every girl to feel powerful? Girls are constantly being told by the world around them to be docile, to sit back and watch as the world passes them by, and who and what they should be. There is so much negativity directed toward women in the media, so why would we bring more of that into the world by insulting one another? Women should be uniting and proving ourselves to be a force to be reckoned with TOGETHER, rather than allowing ourselves to keep fighting these battles on our own.

So, be nice to one another. Comment those heart eyes on another girl’s Instagram post. Tell that girl on the bus that you like her outfit. Make kindness your middle name, and don’t put more negativity into this world. It has enough of that already, I promise.

Strive to make another girl feel how you want to inside, and remember: girl power is the best power.