Count Your Blessings And Spread Positivity

Count Your Blessings And Spread Positivity

How can you improve the quality of your life?

We’ve all been there, complaining to our friends and family, classmates and acquaintances, in person or online. Whether it is about school, work, family members or significant others, you are always finding a reason to complain. Then you start to feel miserable because you get so lost in what you don’t have, that you forget what you do have.

To not get stuck in the endless circle of complaints, there has to be a change. Specifically, a change in your outlook on life. For example, online you always see people posting memes about how “single” they are. It is usually a picture of a text or even Kermit the frog making a joke about being “forever alone.” While these are harmless memes, along with posting relationship quotes (and I’ve been there), you end up looking desperate and sad.

Venting online can be very tempting, and we really have all done it in today’s generation. Some of us have no filters. But the safest way to not look bad is venting literally anywhere BUT online. Then, going back to that “issue” of being “single forever” has to stop. Life isn’t all about having significant others to lean on. Yes, it is nice to have someone, but in your late teens and early twenties, thirties, or maybe even later, you can manage without a relationship.

Now, instead of focusing on the imaginary significant other you don’t have, focus on the people who genuinely care for you and wish the best for you. For example, your parents, your friends, best friends, extended family. Even the people who just simply wish you well and are interested in your social media accounts. No, social media is not the way to count your blessings, but it is always nice to see that people are interested in your life even though you are not a celebrity.

Also, don’t forget about your teachers, professors, and mentors who have helped and are helping you create your future and be more involved in your goals. So right now, you could be sitting and thinking “Oh I have no one” and slip into an unnecessary depression, or you can think “Wow, many people want me to do well and care about my future. I should put more effort into reaching my goals.”

If something is genuinely making you feel unhappy, the suggestion would be to find a way out of it. Maybe it’s a really negative friend, and you can have a discussion with them about how negatively they are rubbing off on you. Now, if they are willing to change their ways, you can continue to have contact with them, and if not, learn to distance yourself from people and situations that do not help you.

Another unideal situation would be if you are low on funds. All of a sudden, you find that you have to cut down on what you spend on besides necessary things. You can’t get your nails or hair done, but you can buy lunch if you have nothing at home. You can easily, in this situation, get down on the fact you don’t have many luxuries anymore, or you can take this time to figure out what is necessary to spend on and what you can do yourself. Sure your nails and hair CAN be professionally done, but YOU can do it yourself. That’ll help you feel more independent as well.

You can take a low-funds situation and make it into learning how to do things yourself besides grooming yourself. You can cook instead of eat out. Find a fun new recipe and get excited! This is good practice for when you eventually move out and live alone. There’s a silver lining to everything.

Lastly, it’s the end of the semester. You’ve got several papers and tests and you are feeling overwhelmed, but GUESS WHAT, you made it through another semester! You did all the work up until now and you WILL finish! Cheer on your friends who are having doubts about finishing the semester. SPREAD POSITIVITY, STOP COMPLAINING, AND BREATHE! Only you are in control of how you respond to a situation!

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To The People Convinced Only ‘Lazy’ Students Don’t Have College Jobs, Uh, No

Just being in college and trying to maintain a high enough GPA is proof enough.

Summer is getting closer, which means that many students are looking for part-time jobs. Almost every student in high school and college is familiar with the notion of working part-time while going to school. There are a lot of students who have a job while in school for several different reasons.

However, not every student in college and high school has a job or is looking for one. There are a lot of students who don’t need a job or want a job for that matter. Yet, many people who have had experience with getting a job can’t seem to comprehend why other students don’t work. They call students who don’t work words like “lazy” or “spoiled." If you’re a student who hasn’t had a job before, you know exactly how annoying this can be.

However, no matter what other people say, there is nothing wrong with focusing on your education instead of getting a job while in college just as there's nothing wrong with working while in school either.

People that call students who don’t have a job “lazy” obviously don’t realize how hard college can be, especially if you’re taking a lot of hard courses. College is already stressful, and having to balance school and a job can add an unnecessary amount of stress. It can also be very time consuming and can limit the number of classes you take or the time availble for studying. Many students’ grades start to slip once they get a job. They often have too many work hours to fully accommodate their course load or vice versa.

I’m not saying that you can’t have a job while in college. I currently have a job while I’m a student at Miami University, but this year is my first time working while in school. I've gone three years in college without having a job, and I never had one when I was in high school. The only reason I’m starting now is that I need the money to save up for buying a car so that I can commute to campus.

My point is that if you don’t have a job, you shouldn’t feel pressured by others to get one. Not everyone can handle a job and go to school at the same time. I went years without a job, and I still went through periods of stress or nervous breakdowns during college. My parents taught me that “hard work” doesn’t always come from rushing to get a job while in school. It comes from studying, working on assignments and keeping your grades up while in school in order to get a good job and a degree.

Those who call other people that don’t have a job “spoiled” are most likely the ones who will still accept money from their parents. I live with my parents in order to save money by not living in a dorm, and my parents still support me. However, contrary to what people think, my parents don’t pay for my tuition. I use my own scholarship money to pay for it.

Having your parents support you doesn’t make you spoiled because as long as you’re in school and working towards eventually being able to support yourself, then you aren’t living off your parents’ money. It shouldn’t matter how soon you decide to support yourself while in school because your end goal is the same.

So, to anyone who feels pressure from others, whether it’s family members, friends or acquaintances, you should take a minute to stop and reflect on all of the work that you’ve done in school. You don't need to work a part-time job in order to prove to others that you are a hard worker.

Just being in college and trying to maintain a high enough GPA is proof enough.

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Greek Life Is Better Than What You Might Think

It's not like the movies.

I recently became a member of Kappa Alpha Order here on campus and my time has been even more constrained. The fraternity life so far is amazing and I have nothing but love for my new brothers, but the temptation to slack on my schoolwork and quiet time is real. So far, the "frat" life is not like the movies portray it to be.

Its not a bunch of binge drinking and party drugs. I have witnessed a group of guys from all different backgrounds and lifestyles come together and form a bond over common ideals of gentility and a Christian faith. These guys go above and beyond for their brothers. From help with homework, to needing advice/guidance, to budgeting.

I know I can call any one of them and someone will be there at the drop of a hat. I was hesitant becoming apart of Greek Life because of my faith, and how I thought fraternities conducted themselves, but KA is like no other. We have bible studies and men who are leaders not only in the fraternity, but in the college and around our community that are helping mold me in to the man I want to be.

College is a time to branch out and try new things, and my message for anyone second guessing joining a fraternity or sorority is that they take the time to know the people and ideals of the greek organization. We, as a fraternity, get our ideals from Christianity and only wish to become leaders in our communities and form a lifelong brotherhood. Take a leap of faith and see where the wind blows for you!

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