I'm in college and I don't party, and that's okay

If You're A College Student And You Hate Going Out, You're Not Alone

If this is what classifies me as abnormal, I'm okay with that.


I think the cold was the last sign I needed. The only thing worse than being out, intoxicated and dressed to the 9's, is the fact that I'm also freezing. Yup, that's it, I'm done. I tried convincing myself long enough that I like to party. I've gone out, I've gotten sick, I've done the whole sha-bang. And believe me, I have tried.

I used to love going out. In high school, it was what we did, you know? I think I used to enjoy it because I knew I wasn't supposed to be doing it. But of course, now that I am of legal age and I'm allowed to go out all I want, the excitement isn't there. What gets me excited rather is the idea of a relaxing night at home, with no social responsibilities and whatsoever.

All those memes about making plans and then regretting it when the time comes...yeah that's me.

I can't even tell you how many times I've had to talk myself into going out. It's exhausting. And honestly, whenever I do go out, I usually regret it. The only thing worse than getting all dolled up to go out into the cold is knowing that in a few short (and by short, I mean draggingly long) hours, you get to go home and spend 15 minutes taking all that eye makeup off. I love makeup, it gives me confidence and makes me feel pretty. But, I DO NOT enjoy leaning over the bathroom sink as I struggle with facewash in my eyes and water rolling down my arms, getting my clothes wet. Ew, gross there's actually nothing worse.

Maybe if I was single pringle, I'd be more willing to mingle. But I'm not. Happily taken, I have no need to get cute unless it's for myself. LADIES: do it for you! Even if you aren't tied down to a single specimen, don't feel like you must cake and bake your face with makeup. Only put on that super hot dress and those bomb ass heels if YOU want to.

I do what I want all the time. I've gone out a couple times in the New Year, and I can honestly say that's enough until 2020. Oh also, I hosted a party a couple weeks ago, does that count? I still had to look presentable and be social. Last night, my boyfriend and I were supposed to go to some party he was invited to. When he told me an hour before we were supposed to leave that he didn't feel up to going out, I was back in my pajamas so quick you wouldn't have known I was almost ready to go. We ended up watching a documentary on Netflix about Cat Shows (yeah, no...not dog shows...cat shows). That was the best Saturday night I've had in a while.

Maybe when I'm older, when partying is no longer cool or appropriate for my age, I'll enjoy it again. That would only make sense that once it's no longer popular, I'd like it.

If you feel even remotely similar, you're not alone. Partying and going out is cool, but have you ever tried carne asada fries on a Friday night with Netflix and a blanket, because I'd highly recommend it.

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How Happiness In A Relationship Is So Important

What is the happiness and love that we as individuals deserve when it comes to our relationship?


It's different for each of us. Some prefer being showered in gifts, being showed off on social media, bragged about to family and friends. But, what is the one thing that all of those have in common?

That would be the unmistakable amount of love your significant other has for you, that they will do anything to show you that they love you unconditionally. We all show our love for one another in various ways. I for one love being shown the love someone else has for me in small things they do.

It could be a simple 'good morning love' text message or even just a hug out of the blue. Knowing that someone cares so deeply about you is one of life's greatest gifts. Knowing that another human being loves you and wants to be with you, it makes us drunk off of love and our heads float up to the stars.

However, when we don't feel that love, that connection, that reassurance from our significant other that they love and care for us back, it can be an extremely overwhelming and a lonely feeling.

We start looking for those feelings and connections elsewhere. In our friends for reassurance if we look good or blowing up their phones for attention.

We start caring about if other people find us attractive or not, we relish in compliments that other people give us. We start looking for that happiness elsewhere. It's not because you stop loving your significant other or stop caring about them, but we as humans need to feel important and like we are needed by another person.

When you stop letting your significant other know how much you care about them or showcasing your love for them, even if it's a simple gesture like holding their hand or holding the door open for them, they will begin to look elsewhere.

Now I am in no way saying that they will cheat on you, but your relationship and their attitude and feelings towards you will never be the same until you start showing them how much they mean to you just as much as they do for you. I don't condone cheaters or staying in a relationship that you are not happy in.

Yes, some relationships go through hard times like distance or a traumatic event. However, the way I see it is if you entered into the relationship, to begin with, you obviously cared about that person a lot and if they show you that they care and love you for the person you are and your past then they deserve the same in return from you.

Relationships are not always easy, they take time, determination, communication, compromise, and love to stay afloat. If one of you isn't willing to give your all and put forth the effort needed then it will never work. A relationship can't be successful if it is only one-sided.

Despite peoples life's being busy on a day to day basis, you need to always find time for your significant other. Because at the end of the day when things hit the fan, your significant other should be the one that will be there no matter what and always be by your side.

All in all, you need to treat each other the way in which you would want to be treated in a relationship and treat them the way they should be treated despite whatever chaos is going on in the world about you. Love is the conquer of all and should never be thrown around or not taken seriously.

Loving someone else is a gift we are given by God and never taken lightly.

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5 Best Quotes By Marilyn Monroe

Hollywood is a place where they'll pay you a thousand dollars for a kiss and fifty cents for your soul.


Starring in her first film in 1947, Norma Jean Mortensen, better known, and forever immortalized by her stage name Marilyn Monroe, cemented herself as not only a top-billed actress during her time, but came to be recognized as one of America's greatest, and most popular sex symbols. One who stood as the very epitome of shifting attitudes towards sexuality during the transition between the 1950s and 1960s.

Often typecast as the "dumb blonde", and widely perceived as engendering the use and popularity of such a stereotype through her works "How To Marry A Millionaire" and "Gentleman Prefer Blondes", Monroe to this day, remains an enduring, and lasting fixture in Modern American Pop Culture. With the now deceased starlet's birthday having been celebrated not less than a week ago, here are 5 of the most memorable quotes even the characters Monroe herself portrayed, could never have forgotten:

1. "Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius and it's better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring."

So what if people think you're a freak? If being seen as a freak is the price for the enjoyment of being yourself, so be it. Be you're freak'n self.

2. "Give a girl the right pair of shows and she'll conquer the world."

Part of winning over the affection of others is not just being able to form a talent, but rather, possessing a talent for form.

3. "Fear is stupid. So are regrets."

Its one thing to hold yourself back because of stage fright. Its another to miss out on the good show you could have put on.

4. "I don't know who invented high heels, but all women owe him a lot."

Thanks for the shoes, Sir. I've always stood taller, and higher than you. Now I can prove it.

5. "Hollywood is a place where they'll pay you a thousand dollars for a kiss and fifty cents for your soul."

In Tinseltown, everyone is a commodity. A product. Designed to do what the buyer asks, and wants at a price. No more, no less. Even if you are worth more than that which was paid for you.

Although Marilyn Monroe's career and life was tragically met by an unbowed, unprecedented end in 1962, allowing her to dominate The Golden Age of Hollywood for just half-a-decade, her presence, her memory -- forever imprinted on pin-ups, mugs, and movie-posters -- remains, permanently tattooed onto conscience of pop culture. Serving as a reminder to all those entranced, taken by her ditsy, but raptors presence, that despite how those around us will seek to prescribe us an identity due to our appearence, or monetary benefits, there is a part of us -- one the lights cannot touch and the bills cannot bury no matter how far and high they stack -- that cannot be bought or defined. By none other than ourselves.

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