Dear My Little Sister, While You're In College

Dear My Little Sister, While You're In College

"When you get the choice to sit it out or dance... I hope you dance."

My travel buddy, my adventure partner, my biggest target, the girl that I grew up alongside; my sister. It’s hard for me to wrap my head around the concept that you’re already nineteen, a freshman in college, and no longer baby balloon. Although it’s sometimes tough to think about, I can’t help but be excited as you take on this next stage of your life. As you enter your nineteenth year, the best advice I could offer you is this:

“When you get the choice to sit it out or dance, I hope you dance,”

You may not have realized it, but I’ve been preaching this all along. Before leaving you at college, I reminded you to knock on everyone’s door in your residence hall and to say yes to as many things as possible in your first week there. It’s about getting to know people, and experiencing something for all that it’s worth, these are going to be the best years of your life. I’m jealous that you still have 3 more.

I hope you dance more than you will remember. Dancing has the ability to cure all of the stress that the weekday classes has caused you. I have found that my friends here often need to remind me of this, and I’m so thankful for that. You will find yourself wanting nothing more than to go to bed some Fridays after a long week, but you must remember to dance.

I hope you dance when you do well. It is important to celebrate your accomplishments and to show appreciation for yourself. Set goals and crush them, and don’t forget to celebrate when you have. If you don’t reward yourself, it will be very hard to motivate yourself to continue to do well. You can only go up from here.

I hope you dance when nobody’s watching. You don’t always need to be at a party to dance, sometimes the best time is when you’re completely alone. Often times I think nobody’s watching, but I’ve been caught, and that’s ok too because you’ll make them laugh. In my opinion dancing by yourself is the ultimate sign of true happiness.

Lastly, I hope you dance with your best friends. These people are your lifetime friends, and you get to live with them right now. Dance with them as much as you can. Some of my most cherished memories include lip-sync battles and ditching parties to have dance marathons with 80's music because that’s more fun anyway. I hope that you can make similar memories of your own.

Don’t ever sit it out.

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Why Having A Sister Is The Best Thing In The World

She's my built-in best friend.

I have considered myself one of the luckiest girls in the world to have been given the world’s best older sister to ever exist. We are a little over two years apart, yet, I feel as if the years between us don’t even amount to how close we are and how special and important she is to me. I know I don’t only speak for myself when I say that having a sister is the most amazing thing in the world. You are automatically given a life-long, built in best friend without even having to try. I, for one, know my sister is the only person who will always be there for me. She is my favorite person in the entire universe, she is my role model, she is the one person I will constantly look up to. All in all, she is my ultimate best friend.

Growing up, my sister and I dealt with the same minor arguments that all sisters face as they get older. Whenever my sister had her friends over, all I wanted was to hang out with them. Whenever my sister started a new sport, I immediately decided to try that sport as well. Half the time, the things I have tried in life are all due to the fact that my sister decided to try them first. All I ever wanted to do was be like her. And that’s exactly what I did. While it may seem like I didn’t really have a brain of my own or any real separation from my interests and my sister’s interests, as we both got older, we forged our own paths in very different ways.

As we both got a little bit older and a lot more mature, the pointless bickering came to an end and we actually got incredibly close. While I had always looked up to my sister from the start, this was different. We weren’t just sisters anymore, we were becoming best friends.

The day my sister left for college was one of the most emotional and heart wrenching days of my entire life. My best friend, my go-to, and my person was taken away from me and starting a new life in a completely new state. She would make new friends, and we would only have some small window of time to talk, over Facetime, of course, about our new lives away from each other. Honestly, I do not enjoy expressing my emotions and showing my weak spots to other people. When my sister left for college I don’t think I fully expressed to her the extent to how much I missed her. It took me a long time to be okay with the fact that she wasn’t right across the hall from me, that we didn’t share a bathroom anymore, that I could walk into her room and talk to her, and that we couldn’t steal each other’s clothes anymore. I thought that distance would strain our relationship in a really bad way. But, as it turned out, we got so much closer than we were before.

My sister is a brilliant, smart and intelligent person. She has the brightest future ahead of her. Whenever someone asks me about my sister, I am always so proud to speak about her and all of her accomplishments. When I visit her in college, we have the most amazing time together. I love getting to see a piece of her life that is outside of the one we share at home. And, as she is now getting ready to graduate from college, I only know the future she has ahead of her is going to be nothing short of successful.

Honestly, I guess not everyone is as lucky as I am to have the most amazing sister. She truly is my best friend in the entire world. She is the only person who knows how to make me feel better in my dark moments, and she is the one person who knows me better than I know myself. She is my rock, she is my person, she is my ultimate best friend, and I could not be luckier to have been given the greatest sister of all time. I am forever grateful.

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20 Things Only Girls With Younger Sisters Can Relate To

You're stuck with her but you wouldn't have it any other way.

Being the older sister is a life-long job you can’t quit but you wouldn’t have it any other way. A younger sister is a built-in best friend that will always support you and have your back no matter what. Love her or hate her, she’ll always be by your side and you are forever grateful for her. Only older sisters can relate to these 20 things.

1. She always takes your clothes without asking

When you confront her about it, your mom always takes her side and reminds you that she looks up to you.

2. Your mom always bought you matching outfits and you hated it, but your sister was in heaven wearing the same clothes as you

3. You have to take the blame for everything

As the older sister, you can’t get away with anything.

4. You always have to set a good example for your sister

She watches you like a hawk and examines your every move.

5. You’re the designated chauffeur

This is especially annoying when your sister always wants to hang out with friends.

6. She always seems to want to hang out with you when you’re really busy

7. You feel weird when she starts to grow up because you have no control over it and want her to stay your little sister forever

You don’t even know how to react when she comes to you for advice on her high school drama.

8. She’s more social than you and always has plans, even when you don’t

You know it’s weird when your younger sister has Friday night plans and you’re spending your night on the couch with Netflix.

9. Your parents let her get away with way more than you ever did

And you don’t even have an argument against it because “times are different”.

10. You’re her designated protector and feel responsible for her

She’s your little sister and if anyone hurts her, they'' have to face you.

11. You constantly bicker, but you wouldn’t have it any other way

That’s when you know you’re really close.

12. You have joked with each other that no one else will get

“Sorry, you wouldn’t understand… it’s a sister thing."

13. You feel obligated to spoil her

Take her shopping, buy her coffee and food, you name it. You basically have no backbone when she wants something.

14. She leaves her stuff all over the bathroom

Especially her hair… UGH.

15. She’s always on board for a sleepover and gossip session

16. She’s got an equivalent amount of sass, if not more than you

Eye rolling is her specialty.

17. You got the same presents for Christmas, but they were “slightly different”

“Wanna trade? I like that color better.”

18. You can only be really weird with her and she won’t judge you for it

19. Anytime she’s in the car with you, you seem to miss a turn or get lost

She distracts you with her stories and you seem to forget where you’re going.

20. She’s your favorite person to mess with

And she’s a good sport about it too!

Love ya, Jess <3

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