To The Catholic Women In Today's World, Be Brave, And Be Who God Meant You To Be

To The Catholic Women In Today's World, Be Brave, And Be Who God Meant You To Be

You stand out as different, but that's ok.


Recently, I had the amazing opportunity to attend an event called SEEK2019. (See my last article On how SEEK changed my life) While there, I had the honor to meet many, many amazing speakers who are amazing examples of faith and what it means to live an authentic and Catholic life in this world. One of the amazing people I got to meet, was a fantastic and beautiful woman named Emily Wilson Hussem.

She recently wrote a book called "Go Bravely: Becoming The Woman God Created You To Be." (spoiler! That's what this article is about!) I got to talk to her for a few minutes and she is just so amazing. She is a renowned Catholic speaker, worship leader and has an amazing and inspiring vlog on youtube. (Check it out! It's not just for Catholics)

Her book, which I am currently reading, is amazing and is aimed for women who not only need encouragement as women of faith, but for those who are wondering if there is more to life, and for any women out there who realize that it is tough to be an authentic woman in this world. The world is telling us that we have to do this or that to be beautiful. We have to do this or that to fit in.

A big thing I've dealt with as a young Catholic college woman who is not doing everything that the world wants me to. Being in college (especially at a non-christian college) there is an immense amount of both verbal and even nonverbal pressure from the world and fellow college students to live the "college experience." That if you are not drinking, partying, hooking up, having sex with your boyfriend, then you are not experiencing the "full college experience."

That you stand out in a way that the world tells us is bad or weird. I was invited to many parties before I even started classes as a freshman. I haven't been treated harshly. I am not saying that non-Catholics/non-Christians are bad. Not at all. But there is still that pressure of why you aren't doing what everyone else is doing? It isn't that bad, so why does it matter. A big thing that people don't always understand is that I choose to save sex for marriage.

It is not because I think it is bad. It is because by waiting, I am telling my future husband that I love him enough to wait for him. That he is worth waiting for. It is also because I respect myself and my body. What I mean by this, is that if you are in a relationship that requires you to give of your body in an intimate way, you have now given apart of yourself to that guy. Not everyone dates one guy.

And if we are getting intimate with every guy we date, not only are we not respecting ourselves and the men, but we are again saying that our future spouse is not worth the wait. When being intimate with someone who is not our spouse, we are actually lying with our bodies. With our bodies, we are saying we are totally theirs. That we are committed and bonded to this person. That is why so many women stay in abusive relationships because they are chemically bonded to that person and apart of them now belong to that person.

A few challenges I want to leave you with are these: 1. Have high standards. Don't settle for just anyone. Don't settle for that guy who wants you just for your body. Don't settle for someone who makes you be anyone other than yourself. 2. Read Emily Wilson Hussem's book: Go Bravely (you can get this book at Barnes and Noble and probably Amazon too)

3. Also, check out Emily's vlog on youtube. 4. Lastly, if you are a college student, check out the Newman Center at your campus or the local church if you don't have a Newman Center. Talk to the FOCUS missionaries if you have some on your campus. Simply be yourself. Whether it is a friendship or a relationship if you have to be anyone but yourself, then it is not a healthy relationship, and you should not be in it. God Bless you and check out Emily Wilson Hussem, her book, and her vlog!

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A Letter From God To Help You Finish The Semester

God sees your struggles and He's here to give you strength and motivation.

My Child,

The lack of motivation towards the end of the semester is normal. You are mentally and physically tired, but you are almost at the end. Don’t stop walking down the perfect path I have for you. When you’re going along and you come upon a speedbump, I want you to go over it and keep driving. The paper you have to write and the test you have to study for are just small speedbumps I have given you to make you wiser. You can write that paper and you can gain motivation to study for that test. I am here to give you strength, and am here to open up your mind and give you motivation.

You are so loved. You have such a beautiful mind. The light of Jesus shines through your eyes and your smile brings comfort to the world. There’ll be times you feel like you’re carrying a heavy load. There’ll be times you feel like the task I have given you is impossible to perform. But remember this: I would never put anything upon your shoulders that you cannot carry. If I put you in a certain situation, it’s because I know you are strong enough to go through it.

When you feel like crying, cry to me. When you feel like a failure, remember how much I love you. You are not a failure and you are not going to give up. I will hold your hand through every second of your life. I will seek your heart through your darkest moments. I see you, I see your heart, and I see your burdens. And remember that I have your heart which means I also have your burdens. Follow my footsteps and you will be free from the doubt. Remember Mark 4:40-41: “Why are you so afraid? Do you still have no faith?” I have the power to calm any storm and wave. I have the power to calm YOUR storms and waves. Set your doubt, anger, and tiredness in my hands and simply be patient.

Romans 8:14-15 says,“For those who are led by the spirit of God are the children of God. The spirit you received does not make you slaves, so that you live in fear again, rather the spirit you received brought about your adoption to sonship.” Nothing can separate you from my love. Not even your lack of motivation. You have no motivation because you do not feel good enough. You are more than good enough. You were perfectly made by me and when I look down at you, I think of how proud I am of your heart.

Throughout the last few weeks of this semester, you will stumble upon speedbumps. But hold the hand of my son Jesus and you will be able to go over that speedbump with ease. Go write that paper, go study for that test, and go get an A in that class. I know you can because I have given you power.



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The Notre Dame Cathedral–Such A Loss Of History And Beauty, But What A Gift It Was To Experience It

Reid shares her story as she is saddened for Paris and the church.


After the massive fire that devastated large parts of the Notre Dame Cathedral in Paris, the 850-year-old cathedral's spire fell. French President Emmanuel Macron addressed the nation to share in the nation's sorrow but gave hope for the future. This includes the rebuilding of the cathedral together and making it more beautiful than ever. "The fire of Notre Dame reminds us that our story never ends. And that we will always have challenges to overcome. What we believe to be indestructible can also be touched," Macron said.

Tyler Reid

Among many others, Tyler Reid is saddened for Paris and the church. Although, she counts herself blessed to have seen it such a short time before it was destroyed. Reid, who was lucky enough to visit the amazing structure this past spring break, remarked:

My trip was filled with so many wonderful sites. Although, because Notre Dame carries the title of most-visited monument in Europe, my expectations were high. When I first walked up, there isn't one specific feeling I got; instead, it was more of a million thoughts running though my head. Once inside, looking at the massive stained glass windows combined with all the details in every crevice, it was hard for me to imagine people actually building this without the technology we have today. This hand crafted masterpiece really is so influential considering people still went there to worship, even after so much time has past and so many other cathedrals had been built. This proves how special the Notre Dame Cathedral really is. Due to my experience here, hearing about the fire hurt my heart, especially thinking about how some of the irreplaceable artworks and all of this history may be gone. This place truly influenced people, including me, and for it to be gone is a true tragedy.

Like Macron, Reid shares in the sorrow; although, for her, it was just from one visit. This proves the amazing impact the Notre Dame Cathedral had and hopefully will continue to have even after this devastation.

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