The other night I was watching Friends with my boyfriend. It was the episode where it's Rachel's 30th birthday and the rest of the group reflects on their 30th birthday.

Rachel freaks out about not being married or having kids because she is already 30. My boyfriend didn't seem to understand why women do this - feel like their life has been wasted by not starting their families by the time they hit 30.

Rachel breaks it down for us -

Now, I can't vouch for every woman on this planet but I can say that I agree with Rachel's reasoning.

I'd like to be married and have a kid/kids before I am 40 years old BUT I don't want to get engaged/married directly after college. I want to get a job and settle down with the right person before jumping into marriage. I don't want to have kids too early but I don't want to have any risks due to my age nor do I want to be in my 60s when I send my child/children off to college.

Marrying around your 30s does have many benefits. Statistics show men make more money if their married. It also gives you more time and energy to raise a family if you are younger (but not too young!).

This is why being in your 30s is so scary for (most) women. We feel that if we aren't married or on the track to being married by the time we are 30, our life has gone to waste. Most of the time, this thought is put into our head by the women in our families or even from society. There's nothing wrong with feeling this way or not feeling this way, it all depends on the person.

Everything takes time though. It takes time to get you perfect job. It takes time to find the right person. It takes time to settle down.

But in the end - Where you are now is exactly where you are suppose to be & everything will fall into place.